ignis Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Me and My GF has been in a relationship for 1 year we are both 20, Every time when we have an argument she keeps deleting me off Facebook and says that I don't care about her, but since the beginning of our relationship I cared for her more than she has cared for me up until now, she has done this 5 times now and I am getting really sick and tired of this behavior, I have told her if we do get in a fight we should resolve this in a mature way, but never when I say things once she ever listens, I have to constantly remind her but she still doesn't listen, I don't know what to do anymore, she has already deleted me from Facebook. Should I just end it? I love her and all, but I am getting tired whenever she says "You don't care about me" and deletes me off Facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
AVarma Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 She sounds like a drama queen to be honest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
AaronSG Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 First off I feel for your situation, but with all the months and months and months that I've been a member of this web site, like you and many before you, you remind me on how Facebook sometimes can be rotten to the core! Perhaps if this girl isn't willing to listen to your plea's of "let's handle this maturely" perhaps this isn't someone worth keeping! If her removing you off her Facebook friends list is going to bring up so many issues or problems, then perhaps get rid of the damn thing altogether. Don't keep giving her back her toy, once things are good, your back on the friends list.....things go south, your off the list, things are good your on the list, to much fricking drama for my taste! Take away her toy, why not delete your Facebook account all together? You delete your account, she nothing in regards with you to play with! It can be done you know, not having Facebook! Our situation are completely different, but approx. little over 6 months ago I deleted my account, sucked at the time, but it's all good now! Now I have no way of checking on and snooping on my ex-fiancé and she has no way to pester me with splashing anything close to dealing with "I'm so happy without him" and the photo's making her look like she's atop the world! You, your just getting played with, she has nothing better to do with her time than play games with her friends lists. Trust me, my ex-fiancé used to do it with her own Family members. If her and her Mother got into a fight, my ex would fire up Facebook and remove her own Mother off her friends list. Once things mellowed out, and all was well, back on the list her Mother went. Same with her Father, get into a spat.....off the list, kiss and make up.....back on the list! I don't know how many times I eye witnessed these games and drama! If your truly tired of her shenanigans, take her toy away from her, delete your account, or at least deactivate it with the option to reactivate later. I'd say at least go through the motions of deactivation and let your account sit inactive for a while and see what happens! Kicking her to the curb about playing games with Facebook, to me, seems rather harsh! But taking away her toy for a while if not permanently, that sounds good to me! Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
emi Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Well, deleting in facebook is a small problem. Try image something else when you married to her 1 Link to post Share on other sites
littlesister1234 Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Is that the only way you guys have contact? Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Unfortunately this comes with the territory when you're 20. Most women at that age are overly emotional and don't handle things well because they lack general life experience. Personally, I will NEVER be FB friends with a woman I'm dating ever again. Tried it once and it was terrible. Friends and family members of her started messaging me all the time pressuring to meet, her posts would show up in my activity feed so I felt like I was spying on her, and she knew every time I was online. So overall it didn't allow for any privacy. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 take her toy away from her This, really. Either deactivate your Facebook, don't add her again, or stop caring altogether about who you're friends with on there and don't acknowledge it when she deletes you. She's using Facebook to take out her frustrations and to make a point without having to communicate like an adult. I suspect that she is a teenager (as are you?) so this behavior is kind of expected. If you two are much older than that, then it's a completely unacceptable way to conduct a relationship. How do you react when she does this? Do you get mad? Confront her? Do nothing? Are there ever any productive conversations that come from it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eaglestar83 Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 She seems very immature, how old is she? What's the rest of your relationship like? Is she kind? Giving? Does she respect you? Or is it all just drama? My ex of few years ago was very caring, sweet, giving but also incredibly immature. Everything would be going well and then hell would break loose if I didnt come to see her one evening or something silly like that. She'd delete me off facebook, shout "it's over, don't u dare talk to me again" then two days later she wud come back. Eventually she eroded our relationship with her behaviour so much, and I gradually became more and more accepting of her disrespectful behaviour until she found someone else and left. I felt like I've let my self down massively there Don't let that happen to you, this behaviour is not on and it will chip away at your relationship. Sort it out or get out. Be firm and assertive, if she's not willing to change, end it Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 How old are you? If under 21, take a deep breath, have some patience & wait for her to grow up. Also, I would simply delete her from FB permanently so you don't know she's pulling this garbage. If she's older than 21, especially by more then a few years, in a calmer moment talk to her about her immature behavior & explain that it's adversely affecting your overall impression of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Simple.. you never re-add her, boom...no drama I had an inlaw delete me once and my response was to never add her again since I don't do FB drama.. ever... it has worked fine and the inlaw an I are on great terms.. just no FB 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Next time she tries to add you, don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ignis Posted March 21, 2015 Author Share Posted March 21, 2015 How old are you? If under 21, take a deep breath, have some patience & wait for her to grow up. Also, I would simply delete her from FB permanently so you don't know she's pulling this garbage. If she's older than 21, especially by more then a few years, in a calmer moment talk to her about her immature behavior & explain that it's adversely affecting your overall impression of her. We are both 20, I am more mature than her, every time we talk on skype and get into an argument even at the time I try and resolve it as best as I can and point straight up to what wrongs are, she would then say "Don't talk to me anymore" then hangs up, then after a half an hour or so she comes on facebook and messages me telling me that I don't care about her and wants to break up. I have given it my all in this relationship but its just getting worse. I don't know why she just can't simply resolve this like adults would. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 We are both 20,. I don't know why she just can't simply resolve this like adults would. Because despite what the calendar says, she is not yet an adult. Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 She's crazy. Just because a woman is beautiful and breathing does not mean she's sane and good relationship material. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 We are both 20, I am more mature than her, every time we talk on skype and get into an argument even at the time I try and resolve it as best as I can and point straight up to what wrongs are, she would then say "Don't talk to me anymore" then hangs up, then after a half an hour or so she comes on facebook and messages me telling me that I don't care about her and wants to break up. I have given it my all in this relationship but its just getting worse. I don't know why she just can't simply resolve this like adults would. Well...with all the arguing you're apparently doing, combined with her desire to break up with you after each argument, why don't you just agree with her and say "you're right we need to break up.". And then walk away and find someone else with whom you DON'T argue with so much, AND who is capable of behaving like a grown up whenever you do! The fact that YOU have not done that and continue tolerating her bull shyt is on YOU! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ignis Posted March 22, 2015 Author Share Posted March 22, 2015 (edited) Well...with all the arguing you're apparently doing, combined with her desire to break up with you after each argument, why don't you just agree with her and say "you're right we need to break up.". And then walk away and find someone else with whom you DON'T argue with so much, AND who is capable of behaving like a grown up whenever you do! The fact that YOU have not done that and continue tolerating her bull shyt is on YOU! When she deleted me yesterday, I didn't add her back, My family likes her and all, but after what I've discussed with them they were quite disappointed they never knew that she would be this way, Even though we argued I wasn't the one to break it all down by deleting and act in a immature manner. I've told her after that I am not going to tolerate her behavior if she is not going to change for the better, if she comes crawling back, I am going to make it clear with her, if nothing changes then nothing changes. I am prepared to walk away from her because she is not willing to change, then so be it. I am prepared for what I must do. Edited March 22, 2015 by ignis Link to post Share on other sites
DazedandConfused8 Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 She sounds like a drama queen to be honest. ^ This. She must have the maturity of a 12 year-old, using a public relationship status to hit back at you for whatever your argument was about. Link to post Share on other sites
c22 Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 I deleted my ex from Facebook when we were still going out. In the years that followed, we had far fewer fights. I'm all for it. Don't re-add her, keep your space on social media. If most of your fights are about Facebook and you stop engaging with each other on that medium, you'll have some time to figure out if that's the only problem dragging you both down, or just one symptom of an incompatible match. There's no rule that says you have to be Facebook friends with your GF. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 When she deleted me yesterday, I didn't add her back, My family likes her and all, but after what I've discussed with them they were quite disappointed they never knew that she would be this way, Even though we argued I wasn't the one to break it all down by deleting and act in a immature manner. I've told her after that I am not going to tolerate her behavior if she is not going to change for the better, if she comes crawling back, I am going to make it clear with her, if nothing changes then nothing changes. I am prepared to walk away from her because she is not willing to change, then so be it. I am prepared for what I must do. Any updates? Have you added her on Facebook again? Is she speaking to you now? How are things? Link to post Share on other sites
sunny122 Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 I would refuse to re-add her if the behavior continues. I think she is doing it to be a drama queen and take out her frustrations whenever you fight. Indeed very immature and frustrating. What stands out as a bigger red flag to me than the Facebook unfriending, though, is her accusing you of not caring about her during each fight, and not listening. If this continues, then ending it may not be such a bad idea, sadly. Link to post Share on other sites
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