hotpotato Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Mostly no. Ive met a few men who were god fearing in my day. Most pressure for sex. Ive met one who wouldnt have sex outside marriage. I could have stripped down and he would do nothing. Tbh I hadnt noticed a big difference between the so called godfearing men and other men I met online. 1
amaysngrace Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 It was actually a very devote Catholic woman (Nun for over 60 years) who taught me that. I was around the age of 5/6 yrs at the time. She was teaching me that going to church was not enough, but many seemed to think it was... Faith doesn't begin and end after the Sunday service/ your 5 minutes in the confession box. She was a very good woman. I don't think she was mocking the faith at all. There are plenty of similar "proverbs" in all faiths and social groups. A teaching nun told you as a small child that you can sin all week as long as you go to confession and that's what is so great about being a Catholic? Yeah...okay....
Toodaloo Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) A teaching nun told you as a small child that you can sin all week as long as you go to confession and that's what is so great about being a Catholic? Yeah...okay.... No she was teaching that in order to be a good PERSON, it doesn't matter what religion you are, that you go to church or confession, but your actions during the week when your bum isn't on the pews... It takes more than regular attendance to be a good Catholic and that you shouldn't judge people on their religion or how seriously they take that religion. You should judge them on their actions. Its called having a sense of humour and understanding sarcasm... Like humans Nuns also have a plethora of characters within their ranks. Edited March 26, 2015 by Toodaloo
Timshel Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I am wary of anyone who is extreme or who uses religion to manipulate. I would like to believe that most people who are religious practice their morals in their day to day life. Everyone deserves forgiveness and a second chance. Those are the people in the pews with a bad past, but they are truly trying to change their lives. Then there are the hypocrites who are only into the image, and don't have any real compassion or integrity. These are usually the people quoting scripture all daying regardless of their audience. They are also the manipulative perverts who talk dirty on the second date, after inviting you to their church for indoctrination. I don't judge anyone, but I run from the ultra religious types who try to shove their superior brand of religion down people's throats. It's rude and controlling. Just be a good person with integrity. Whatever road gets you there is fine with me. I have found the most truly spiritual people live their beliefs quietly. This guy raises red flags for me. I would watch what he does, and ignore the religious rhetoric. Watch out that he doesn't judge you or others for not being Christians. He should be more concerned with love, honesty, compassion, non judgment, kindness. The stuff religion is actually supposed to point the way to. I really like and agree with this post. Growing up in the rural south and in relatively small, fundamentalist towns; I have grown weary of religious hypocrisy. I believe in God but have stopped calling myself a Christian because of it. It's what you do, not what you say. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) Lots of great points of views on here that I agree with. When I was doing the OLD thing, I remember trying out Christian Mingle out of sheer frustration after a string of bad dates hoping that men on CM were more...serious perhaps. I wouldn't consider myself religious either (at least not anymore) but I definitely am very spiritual and believe in a higher power whatever people choose to call it. I figured that would be good enough. One of the strangest encounters I had on there was with a man of God (aka a pastor). At first I wasn't sure I wanted to date a man-of-the-cloth for obvious reasons () but I figured I would let things unfold and see what (if anything) would come of it. You just never know He was quite aggressive in his pursuit of me and initiated contact through IM on the dating site. Each time we interacted it was obvious he was otherwise distracted or engaged with someone else from the long delays in his responses. It became VERY annoying and being a woman who is done with the games, I decided to end our interactions, thanked him for his time and wished him well. He continued pursuing me making up all kinds of excuses for his delayed responses (which were bogus by the way) and wanted to try again. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and resumed contact. He seemed more present this time around but the things he wanted to chat about became increasingly disturbing. He became very sexual and his tone turned very dark in nature. And not like the fun flirty fun either. I tried to steer the conversation around by asking him what he was looking for, why Christian Mingle, how he became a Pastor, what he enjoys about his job, etc. He reluctantly gave me one word answers and had this ability to take something so innocent and make it dirty...like really dirty. It was crystal clear he was NOT interested in talking about God or faith especially when he begged me to get on Skype with him to "play". Now, I'm definitely no angel and I'm no stranger to having lots of naughty fun both in real life and online. I've met my fair share of questionable characters with shady agendas, crazies and sickos. I can play with the best of them and have a great attitude about sexual expression and freedom but what freaked me out about THIS encounter was how cunning and devious this guy seemed to be...particularly considering he was supposed to be a man of God! He seriously creeped me the f*ck out...and that's no easy endeavor, trust me. Anyways, the moral of my story is you never know what you're going to get. Religious or atheist, it means very little in the end. There are ZERO guarantees of anything. And often times it seems we need to be ESPECIALLY careful of people who make big declarations or productions of whatever it is they believe in or who they claim to be. A wolf in sheep's clothing. It's unfortunate but it's just the way it is. P.S. And just to add one final note, the man I was speaking about did not seem concerned about his identity, meaning he was very open about who he was and where he worked. Of course, being the curious person that I am I Googled his details including the church he ministered and everything appeared legit not to mention easily accessible. Yikes! Edited March 26, 2015 by Michelle ma Belle
katiegrl Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 ^^Also, just Google "Former Texas Pastor Matt Baker Convicted of Murdering his Wife" Shocking! Had an affair (not his first) with a young divorcee from his church, then murdered his wife to be with her. Her testimony at trial secured the conviction. Turned out the guy was (is) a lying sociopath, thank goodness he is behind bars right now...for life! No you just never know about people. 1
Eaglestar83 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I guess it depends what moral values they hold. Not all religious people are "g-d fearing". Some people are just born into religious families and so practice religioun by default, some do it for personal gains, be it power, wealth or to manipulate others. Someone who is truly g-d fearing is not about being scared of g-d and. G-ds punishment for disobeying. g-d is like our father, he gives us guidance on how to act morally and justly towards other people. a person who treats others the way they would like to be treated
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