miami2014 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 (edited) Hi, guys. I'll try to keep this pretty brief and open thefloor for your advice and comments. So I met this girl a while ago and we really hit it off. Weexchanged numbers, texted for a while, I asked her out and we met up for adate. The date went really well and we went back to her place after for amovie. We fooled around, but no sex. We were obviously very attracted to eachother and the conversation was great. The next day, she texted me that shecouldn't stop thinking about me and could not wait to see me again. Then,suddenly, she went cold. I didn't hear from her for a few days and when I didshe mentioned that she'd been "very busy" so she wasn't able to talkmuch. I understood and thought that this was very likely true. During thistime, I made sure not to pester her with texts or calls. I never even textedher twice in a row once. I'd always wait for a response, even if it took a dayor so. So the weeks went on and I heard from her less and less. My attempts tosee her were always met with "my schedule is busy" responses. It became clear to me that she was making excuses, and forsome reason, had lost interest. The next time I got a similar response, Icalled her on it. I’m an upfront person, and see no reason to hide behindexcuses. If you aren’t interested, just tell me. So I told her “Hey, you knowyou can tell me no. It’s not a big deal. Let me know if anything changes” orsomething similar to that. Her response was angry. Something like “WTF? There’sno need for me to make excuses. I’ve been busy lately”. Still, you would thinkshe would have texted me as she did before if she was still interested. Shewould initiate contact with a “hey you :)" or something similar almost 80 percent of the time. Now, nothing. Recently, I sent her a snapchat. She openedit, but no reply. So now… What do I do? Seems like she’s lost all interestwhich sucks because I was really feeling this girl and we had good chemistry. Iwas not clingy at all and didn’t really make the mistakes which usually pushwomen away. Running into her in person isn’t likely as we’re an hour or so awayfrom eachother. So any contact would probably have to be by phone. Any adviceto get her interested again? Thanks a lot guys!! Edited March 21, 2015 by miami2014
TunaCat Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 I get being busy. I'm busy job hunting and my boyfriend is busy working all day, 5 days a week. However, there's no reason she couldn't call you or text you a few times a week if she was truly interested. Other people will probably jump on the "she met someone else she liked more" train, but I won't jump on that. She's clearly not interested in you. Maybe she is busy, and if she's this busy, then she's probably too busy to date. You shouldn't have to work to keep a girl interested in you.
preraph Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 I think you better reevaluate what it is you like about this girl because she doesn't sound like a very nice girl. To me, she sounds like she is probably just dating around or partying around a lot and apparently your date didn't mean that much to her even though at the time you thought she sounded like she was interested. She didn't need to take your head off. What's to like? I think you should run.
Penguin_hugs Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 I agree with the above- if you are really interested in someone then you find the time to send a quick message even if you are really busy- or you prewarn them that you won't be able to contact them for a while due to x, y, z. It sounds like she isn't as interested in you as you are her and it's probably time to move on
Author miami2014 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 Thanks guys. I'm getting the same feeling. Seems like this is just routine for her. I was hoping that I was wrong but probably not. Social media suggests that she's seeing a few guys now that I take a look. So you would advise against even sending another message? Just let it go as is?
Gary S Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 If she can't go on a date a week, it's probably never going to turn into a relationship. Next time, drop her and talk to another girl. Don't let catfish waste your time and tie up your dating life.
preraph Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 As an outsider looking in, it sometimes seems to me that OLD and social media has a lot of people playing at dating, like playing house, except the whole thing mostly never materializes.
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