An0nymiss666 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Is there REALLY anything else I could've done?! We went out a couple of times. Just walked around the park and went to eat at a local diner. It wasn't anywhere near serious, we've never hung out at each others places or spent any considerable amount of time together getting to know each other. We kissed once, and that's it. He thought that this made him my serious boyfriend, which was extremely off-putting. Especially given our ages, it seemed very juvenile. I wasn't too interested in him or attracted to him. I'm only human, I can't help that. But I'm also not very interested in dating right now even though I gave it a shot. Perhaps that is my mistake, I know I'm not ready. But gotta start somewhere. I was honest with him, and told him that we barely new each other. I also told him I wasn't exactly ready to get back into a serious relationship either way, and I wasn't going to waste his time, or mine, by continuing something when I wasn't mentally in it. I figured that was the best I could possibly do without being rude and adding "I'm not interested or attracted to you." He still had a terrible reaction to that, erratically texting me all of these things, and having a conversation with himself since I didn't answer immediately. Asking me all of these questions and saying that we should hang out and talk about things. I'm thinking, what things?! We don't have a relationship. I just told you how I felt! Almost immediately he took to all of his social media with how depressed he is and how much he hates his life, etc. Alluding to the situation without mentioning me directly. I deleted him so I wouldn't have to see any of that I just think it's a little ridiculous, especially for a man in his late 20s. Is there something I could've done differently, or is he just being melodramatic? I thought what I did was acceptable, and better than just ignoring further communications from him...especially since he thought he was my boyfriend Maybe some people just can't take any type of rejection.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Don't waste anymore of your time thinking about that guy. Well adjusted confident men, handle rejection well because they have options. Just be thankful that he's out of your life, and let his psychiatrist worry about it. In the future though, don't have face to face conversations or even a phone call. A simple direct text message from a distance works best. "After two dates, the chemistry isn't there for me. Good luck to you". Then if he sends texts or leaves voice mails, delete and repeat. Trying to have an actual conversation or reason with a guy like that is absolutely pointless. 2
Author An0nymiss666 Posted March 20, 2015 Author Posted March 20, 2015 Thanks for the reply! I thought I might've been harsh, but perhaps not. The thing is, everything happened over text, it wasn't even face to face. Which is probably better off, in this situation... Thankfully he hasn't tried to contact me again. I will definitely stick to the direct, simple text message.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Thanks for the reply! I thought I might've been harsh, but perhaps not. The thing is, everything happened over text, it wasn't even face to face. Which is probably better off, in this situation... Thankfully he hasn't tried to contact me again. I will definitely stick to the direct, simple text message. Haha.. You made it sound like the whole interaction was face to face. But even so, definitely no need to go into a detailed discussion about it. If you only go out with a guy a few times you don't owe him anything. 1
fred123 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Is there REALLY anything else I could've done?! We went out a couple of times. Just walked around the park and went to eat at a local diner. It wasn't anywhere near serious, we've never hung out at each others places or spent any considerable amount of time together getting to know each other. We kissed once, and that's it. He thought that this made him my serious boyfriend, which was extremely off-putting. Especially given our ages, it seemed very juvenile. I wasn't too interested in him or attracted to him. I'm only human, I can't help that. But I'm also not very interested in dating right now even though I gave it a shot. Perhaps that is my mistake, I know I'm not ready. But gotta start somewhere. I was honest with him, and told him that we barely new each other. I also told him I wasn't exactly ready to get back into a serious relationship either way, and I wasn't going to waste his time, or mine, by continuing something when I wasn't mentally in it. I figured that was the best I could possibly do without being rude and adding "I'm not interested or attracted to you." He still had a terrible reaction to that, erratically texting me all of these things, and having a conversation with himself since I didn't answer immediately. Asking me all of these questions and saying that we should hang out and talk about things. I'm thinking, what things?! We don't have a relationship. I just told you how I felt! Almost immediately he took to all of his social media with how depressed he is and how much he hates his life, etc. Alluding to the situation without mentioning me directly. I deleted him so I wouldn't have to see any of that I just think it's a little ridiculous, especially for a man in his late 20s. Is there something I could've done differently, or is he just being melodramatic? I thought what I did was acceptable, and better than just ignoring further communications from him...especially since he thought he was my boyfriend Maybe some people just can't take any type of rejection. i think you did fine and I'm a guy! But as a guy its rubbish when you told him " i barely know you etc and that you are not ready for a reship" if the right guy came along next week and you really liked him you wouldn't say after two dates i barely know you. you would probably say yes to being his girlfriend or sleeping with him if you liked him. i love how girls will rationalise anything.
Author An0nymiss666 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 I definitely see where you're coming from. If I connected with the right person, I suppose I would continue to go out with them. You never know who will come along and make you completely forget about whatever is holding you back. However, I would never make ANYTHING official or consider it serious until I got to know someone more than going out on one or two brief dates. Even if I felt a genuine interest and connection.
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