nowa1234 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Hello dear all.. I need to understand when the NC begins for me please.. I have been dumped exactly 7 weeks ago, in worst possible way, unexpectedly didn't really see any signs at all.. We were dating for a year and a half and moved in together 4 months ago. We've had our ups and down, yet I was willing to make this relationship to work.. One day, after dinner went out to the shop and then called me from outside, saying that its over. Its been total shock for me. Anyway, after this, the same evening, he was incoherently texting explaining his decision. I ignored that. Next morning he initiated contact again to discus the apartment issues (we took the apartment together, for both of us, on my name only) the story here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/515984-nc-but-how-sort-out-financial-commitments I told him i will contact him after I am free (at that point I could not to bring myself to talk to him - just the thought of it made me phisically sick) i It took me 2 weeks to pull myself together - I contacted him then to discuss the lease and so on, he wasn't too helpful, very rude and unpleasant, went really ugly, but finally we agreed on some terms&conditions regarding the apartment. The negotiation process took about a week, very vague emailing ONLY regarding the financial matters. He paid his part in 2 instalments, withing 2 weeks time. After I received first instalment I emailed him saying thank you. When the next/last instalment payment was due, he emailed me informing that hes sorting this out, to which i did not respond. I need to say here that there was no single word in our contact which would not refer to the financial situation between us. Now its been 7 weeks since he walked out on me, and I am much better, busy with myself; I am obsessing about him in my thoughts, but I am working very hard to get over it. Its been exactly a week since he has paid the last instalment. I do not feel any need of contacting him in any shape of form, so NC rules are very easy for me to obey - I just want to erase his presence from my life, so no social media, no phone calls and so on. This is not that difficult for me. The obsessive thoughts are worse.. These are I cant control, but I really try.. But I dont really understand from when my NC begins? Does the contact regarding the apartment and finances breaks the rules of No Contact? I am aware that the proper healing process can start only from the time that we erase the slightest traces of their presence from our life and block them away from everything just for the sake of NOT WAITING for them to contact... And// i want to heal as soon as it is only poossible But when my NC begun? Thank you for reading
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