Moose Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Yesterday, our Sunday School teacher had Mrs. Moose and I, and another couple with older children get up in front of the class to answer a few questions about how we managed to raise our kids. There were 2 particular questions that I found interesting, and was wondering what your answers would be: 1. What has been your best accomplishment raising your children? My Answer: (They all seek God without any coaxing, which Christ gets the most credit for. What I feel has been my greatest success, is that I provided them with a stable family in which to grow in and one that they can feel secure in.) 2. What has been your worst failure raising your children? My Answer: (My consistancy in punishing has never been consistant........ever. I never taught them how to handle their money, mainly because when they were younger, we didn't have any, and now it's because we're on the other end of the spectrum, and they have an attitude that we can get whatever we want without working for it.) I'm working on my failures, and trying not to let my success go to my head. But what are your thoughts parents?
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Well,....its different for both kids.....my boy is a little young...only 2 1/2 but I am workin on him....hes going to be a tuff one...very determined...or should I say stubborn.... For my almost 6 yo daugher: Best: She is a very compasionate little girl....always goes out of her way to please others and to offer a hand. She enjoys helping just for the sake of helping. She always tells us that she doesnt make fun of the other kids, even though they may to her. She will choose to play with the kid who doesnt have a freind. She knows that Jesus is in her heart at all times...and no matter what happens to her, he will always be with her. Worst: On the otherhand....she is very sensitive to things. Partly because we as parents would shelter her from things...and it shows in her apprehensiveness when faced with life situations. She timid so to speak. So I guess we made her a sweet little girl who is aware of others feelings....but it also hinders her in some ways. I dont see her becoming a risk taker.....she is apprehensive of things sometimes. My boy on the other hand....hes already trying to ride his tri-cycle down the front stoop stairs...hahaha...that boy has no fear...and hes only 2 1/2.
Pocky Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I don't have children. Do my cats count? Probably not. I just wanted to post in Moosey's thread.
Author Moose Posted April 11, 2005 Author Posted April 11, 2005 You know, I just love you to pieces Pocky........
Pocky Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Originally posted by Moose You know, I just love you to pieces Pocky........ Right back atcha! (Shush Tiki)
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 1. What has been your best accomplishment raising your children? Giving my daughter the gift of an open mind, and a passion for reading and learning new things. She is independent in both behavior and thought, while being empathetic, kind and appreciative of other kids' differences rather than set apart by them. 2. What has been your worst failure raising your children? She has my temper!
tiki Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky Right back atcha! (Shush Tiki) ::whispers:: get a room!! Okay, onto Moosey Moose's querstion: *Best thing I've done for my son: Give him a conscience. *Worst thing I've done for my son: (okay I have serious hang-ups about this, but I'm just being honest...) When my son was three days old, my husband was having major heart surgery. I had to choose between staying (and bonding) with my new son, and visiting my husbands bedside. I managed to pull off both, but only while staying with my parent's until my husband fully recooperated. My parents helped me out dearly with my son. My son had been circumsized at birth, and I thought it always looked a little strange. At about 9 months old, he had to be re-circumsized. He had to undergo anesthesia, the whole nine. The pediatrician thought that it wasn't done right the first time, but I can't help but to think it was because we didn't pull the foreskin back enough. She said it was fairly common, but still. My poor son, I'm for sure he has a scar on his little willie, and I hope he doesn't hate me forever for it. But I should've pulled it back more. I just felt bad touching his little pecker and pulling on it, especially since it didn't look like it'd been done right in the first place. Then on top of that, having to tend to his father, there wasn't enough time in the day. I even had to go back to work 2 weeks post-partum to make money, because my husband couldn't work. Okay, I'm sad now. Damn.
Author Moose Posted April 11, 2005 Author Posted April 11, 2005 Okay, I'm sad now. Damn.Man, I didn't mean to bring up any bad memories Tiki.....please forgive me!!!!
tiki Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Okay. That whole situation makes me so sad for my son.
Pocky Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Scars give character. I'm sure one day a woman is going to absolutely adore that tiny scar on his little friend.
brashgal Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 My best - raised children who are well-spoken, outgoing, question authority and are compassionate. My worst - not balanced the work/home situation as well as I wish - my kids are very independent as a result but missed out on team sports and the like. It's tough to do it all.
HokeyReligions Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Best: Both my kids were honest, fun-loving, stood up for themselves, questioned but did not rebel, and were happy. That was a joint effort on mine & my husband's part, along with staying involved with their teachers, friends & their parents, etc. My daughter was very compassionate. My son was too, but not like my daughter. Worst: Both of them were a bit spoiled and even though they loved being loved and adored at home, I sometimes embarassed them--especially my teenage son! Their dad did too because he would hug him like there was no tomorrow. Actually, that turned out to be a good thing for us.
RecordProducer Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 BEST: They know how passionately and tenderly I love them. It's built in their hearts, souls, and minds and will warm them up through life. I am trying to teach them to be good people, because if they are happy with who they are, the obstacles of life won't hurt them so much. I try to be supportive and treat them as if they are equal to me intellectually (the way my dad treated me...or at least that's how I felt he treated me). I try to protect them and I want them to know that. Recently I decided to not punish them anymore. I let them know they did (or said) the wrong thing, but without any consequences. They actually became much better than before. They seem to appreciate that I can forgive them, make a deal with them, and not get mad if they are bad so they return the favor and try to not be bad. Once I read at Spock's that the real good kids are good because they feel sorry to hurt their parents. I tried this system for other reasons, but it worked. When they see that I am sweet to them they want to be sweet to me. WORST: I didn't manage to save them from a lot of stress my mom and I had from our divorces (we both divorced at the same time), as well as other problems between her and me.
RecordProducer Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Tiki, dear, you're being ridiculous for worrying about the scar on your son's penis. Would you mind it on your lover's? I wouldn't. As long as he can get it up, who cares about scars. Scars are cute after all. My kids have scars all over their faces (not scares that ruin their looks), because I was a "bad" mother and wasn't around when they were falling, hitting each other or whatever...Things just happen. You thought the doctor knew what he was doing. You feel guilty for no reason cuz you're a wonderful mom! And feeling guilty is in the mom's job description. But your son won't have ANY problems whatsoever because of the scar, so please don't worry anymore.
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