SycamoreCircle Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 I'm tempted to send an anonymous email to the new flame of the guy who moved in on my ex. The guy whom she had an affair with. I would use a fake email address. I would be careful not to get too specific. The purpose of the email would be to admonish her. To alert her to his manipulative side. Help weigh this decision with me.
todreaminblue Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 so can i just check...you arent sending it to the guy who moved in on your ex but to the new girlfriend of the guy who went out with your ex why would you do that, does she know you......it borders on harassment and slander in my opinion reeks of a bad decision to be had..... 2
Author SycamoreCircle Posted March 20, 2015 Author Posted March 20, 2015 Yes, I agree, it is a bad decision. I'm not going to do it. But why do it? To introduce problems into his new relationship. Something which, I would presume, he values. I'm realizing, though, that he will get what's coming to him quite naturally. And my interference might even impede the trouble he deserves. 1
Haydn Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Really bad idea. You'll make yourself look ridiculous. They would have a laugh about it. Yep, don't do it and it is harassment. 2
todreaminblue Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Yes, I agree, it is a bad decision. I'm not going to do it. But why do it? To introduce problems into his new relationship. Something which, I would presume, he values. I'm realizing, though, that he will get what's coming to him quite naturally. And my interference might even impede the trouble he deserves. i honestly do believe that people who go around hurting others will never be happy they might think they are sycamore but they arent......you dont have to do anything to them they are already doing that and much more to themselves...pray for them.....and be true to yourself...having joy in your life will be much more satisfying to you and for your future than resentment and revenge.... i know your resentment and wanting to exact revenge comes from a place of pain....but dont you see if everyone went around exacting revenge for wrongs to be righted..everyone in the world would be stuffed up.....its a circle that ends with you.......you have a chance to find someone else now who wont cheat on you like your ex did.....and honestly she is also responsible for your pain...this guy didnt do this all by himself now did he...... i wish you well sycamore....deb 1
Haydn Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 i honestly do believe that people who go around hurting others will never be happy they might think they are sycamore but they arent......you dont have to do anything to them they are already doing that and much more to themselves...pray for them.....and be true to yourself...having joy in your life will be much more satisfying to you and for your future than resentment and revenge.... i know your resentment and wanting to exact revenge comes from a place of pain....but dont you see if everyone went around exacting revenge for wrongs to be righted..everyone in the world would be stuffed up.....its a circle that ends with you.......you have a chance to find someone else now who wont cheat on you like your ex did.....and honestly she is also responsible for your pain...this guy didnt do this all by himself now did he...... i wish you well sycamore....deb Large echo to this. Revenge is obsession. People have obsessed over me and it is not fun. Don't try to insert yourself into someone's life who obviously does not want you there. Good luck and the pain will lessen. 1
na49 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 As hard as it is, don't be that crazy ex who can't move on. You'll be the laughing stock of all of her friends, and you'll push her closer to this new man. Even if you tell him all of those things, she will deny them and he will likely believe her because he is "in love" with her. He will get what's coming to him. A month after my ex left me for her friend's brother, he dumped her saying that "feelings change, and you are too clingy" that afternoon she was emailing me. The disposable boyfriend on a shelf.
erklat Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 (edited) Yeah, terrible idea. Like really really bad. Your revenge must come from you being inactive towards her. Don't let it consume you. Live a god dang good life. Edited March 25, 2015 by erklat
writergal Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Sycamore don't send the email. You know what would be better? You're an actor and a writer, correct? Write a short play about your situation and then have 3 actors perform it. Now THAT would be better don't you think? You get to have liberty with the material, the characters, and the dialogue. AND the public gets to see it. Whenever I want to fire off an angry email I channel my energy into writing a short story or a character sketch or character dialogue. Seriously, try it out. You're a creative soul, so you might as well join the myriad of writers, poets, and playwrights who channel their personal life drama onto the page for the public to view. -end scene- 2
todreaminblue Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Sycamore don't send the email. You know what would be better? You're an actor and a writer, correct? Write a short play about your situation and then have 3 actors perform it. Now THAT would be better don't you think? You get to have liberty with the material, the characters, and the dialogue. AND the public gets to see it. Whenever I want to fire off an angry email I channel my energy into writing a short story or a character sketch or character dialogue. Seriously, try it out. You're a creative soul, so you might as well join the myriad of writers, poets, and playwrights who channel their personal life drama onto the page for the public to view. -end scene- perfect idea...the best writers, lyricists, poets, play writes are often tortured souls....passionate....explosive.....good idea writergal....deb 2
writergal Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 perfect idea...the best writers, lyricists, poets, play writes are often tortured souls....passionate....explosive.....good idea writergal....deb Thanks Deb. Mind you, this is a new idea only instituted in the past year when I realized "there's gold in them there hills," meaning my relationship debacles. Plenty o'material for short stories or short plays (unfortunately?), haha! Proof that art imitates life I think! 2
Author SycamoreCircle Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 Well, I've been writing a novel for the past 14 years(Proust, here I come) and you can best believe to quote MF Doom this one's written in cold blood with a toothpick. 1
writergal Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Well, I've been writing a novel for the past 14 years(Proust, here I come) and you can best believe to quote MF Doom this one's written in cold blood with a toothpick. Meh. Every novelist is a cliche until they get published. In the meantime, writing something funny and ironic about your situation should help your psyche exorcise all the angst you feel about it. And make you money if you get it published or produced. 2
Tayla Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 great idea writergal! Wish there was a way to collaborate on short stories by folks, Sometimes til i am done writing mine i get a eureka moment of what the heck was i thinking in that relation or scenario! it brings humility into perspective and I laugh about it. Beats crying so OP, write that play! id love to know how it pans out. 2
todreaminblue Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 i have often thought about publishing too...but i write for the pure love of writing....i think its probably too personal to put out there in the great beyond so i keep it for me...and it is therapy...unrequited love...sadness anger.....once all the volatile and intense emotions are out of me...its a certain sense of peace i feel..journaling helps too..so does writing on loveshack....deb 1
Omei Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) I did something similar to my first boyfriend the psychically abusive one, sure enough like me his next girlfriend was still in her teens (easy targets) I sent a email, tried to warn her but of course I was only seen as the jealous ex girlfriend who lies, he had already implanted his stories of me and I was crazy. You'll prob get the same reaction Edited March 26, 2015 by Omei
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