running4life Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 I like a guy.I use to work with his dad, then uncle, and sorta know his mom. Small world...this guy goes to college out of state with his ex. They also do track together. His ex is beautiful and smart. I have strong feelings towards this guy and want to see him again.He's funny, relatable, loving; I feel happy and my worries go away when I'm with him. He can't come to his home state due to an internship. I want to make an effort to see visit him. He still has feelings for his ex; even hopes to hook back up. She broke up with him for another guy and they are no longer together anymore. Any advice?
Buddhist Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 I like a guy. He still has feelings for his ex; even hopes to hook back up. Any advice? Yes. Leave it alone. While he still longs for his ex and dreams of getting back with her he is unavailable to anyone else. Even if you ended up with him, it would only take a phone call from his ex to change all that. Wait until he is truly ready to date someone else because to do otherwise is to waste your time. 2
Author running4life Posted March 20, 2015 Author Posted March 20, 2015 How will I know when he's ready? Plus, I still enjoy spending time with him as a friend.
PegNosePete Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 How will I know when he's ready? Well, how do you know he still has strong feelings for his ex? The answer you seek is, when those indicators change or stop.
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 You are lying to yourself & us. You don't really enjoy spending time with him "as a friend." You sit there & long to be his GF. You are in essence torturing yourself. If he's still hung up on his EX, at best he knows you are another human in the room, if only from the perspective that he doesn't trip over you. Other than that, he barely knows you exist. Sorry. You will know when he's over his EX because you will learn through the grape vine that he started dating someone else. 1
Gary S Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Date other guys until he's over his ex, or you might be sorry. He's not ready for new love yet.
smackie9 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 The reality is there is nothing you can do to make this work. Get over your obsession with this guy, and move on.
smackie9 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 I don't understand why you want to be with someone that doesn't have feeling for you.
preraph Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 You're ruining any chance of actually dating him by being his friend right now. He may not get over this ex for 3 years or he may spring back in a couple more months. If you get him used to unloading on you about his girlfriends, you will be stuck there in the friendzone. If I were you I would tell him that you hope he gets over his ex soon and that once he does, please give you a call because you'd like to go out with him once he's emotionally available. Don't do it now while he's not though. It's a waste of time.
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