niceguy55 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 I've been posting on and off lately. Too much to explain, but here's where I'm at. Girlfriend pretty much called it off after 3 years and a few mini break ups before. We have been talking ok and saw her and her kids once in two weeks. One thing she always said is I didn't give her a promise. I'm not sure if she meant an engagement ring or a promise ring to show something serious. . She recently said she would decline a proposal due to her being frustrated and not being in love enough. So, went and got a promise ring (not cheap) and not sure how she'll take it. I'm trying to show my dedication and yet we would need to regrow if she's willing.And I would forge ahead to give some action to some of the things we desire in life, at a reasonable logical pace...not all emotional. I should have done this before but didn't think about that kind of ring. Many great parts of us, just not sure if it will help. She does still tend to be focusing on her future and would really like to be done. I know it does not sound good, but she is mixed up too. And has taken me back a couple times before. We'll see...she may decline. Many of her reasons are fixable if she will consider again. I really care for her and her kids.
mightycpa Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 What is a promise ring? One day, I don't know when, but not today, I'll ask you to marry me! Until then, in exchange, I want you to devote yourself to me completely. Like that? You sure that says what you want to say?
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Sounds like the two of you are on different pages. What exactly do you want? Have a direct convo with her about both of your expectations in the RS... Otherwise, sounds like a lot of 'who shot john?'
Simon Phoenix Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Is this the same one who wants you to buy a house for the two of you to live it but doesn't want to date you? If so, no buying a promise ring like a teenage boy. Run. If not, I apologize and have you mixed up with another niceguy.
Author niceguy55 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 kind of. She want me to buy a house for us and her 2 kids. She would contribute some. But yes, she's not in love. I think she has love for me but too conditional. Anyway I saw her tonight and did not give the promise ring because she was very tired. There was a small kiss and some calm talk about stuff. Don't want to overdo it as this is the first time I've seen her in two weeks. May give the ring any day now and it is her b-day too. We'll see. At least there's some movement but not excited yet. We still may choose to part...I suggested a quality sit down will be good very soon....
Simon Phoenix Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 kind of. She want me to buy a house for us and her 2 kids. She would contribute some. But yes, she's not in love. I think she has love for me but too conditional. Anyway I saw her tonight and did not give the promise ring because she was very tired. There was a small kiss and some calm talk about stuff. Don't want to overdo it as this is the first time I've seen her in two weeks. May give the ring any day now and it is her b-day too. We'll see. At least there's some movement but not excited yet. We still may choose to part...I suggested a quality sit down will be good very soon.... I think you're pissing into the wind dude. Sorry. 1
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