Lion Heart Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 Thanks guys...yea the guys a creep...and a loser if he cant see what hes missing. ..I gues ignoring him is my best bet. If he ever tried to talk to me again. Ummmm. He didn't miss it. He got "it". You became "the OTHER woman" for a night. Just understand YOUR OWN boundaries. Many people (as this cheater demonstrated & you did too) have NO boundaries. If you don't want your bf or worse, your husband, to cheat, then don't be the other woman ever again. Oh and don't be a cheater either! If you respond at all to this guy, you will STILL be the OW. NC. If you have ANY DIFFICULTY WITH THIS AT ALL then Read the OW / OM threads. There's enough pain in there to sink a battle ship. Basically the very FIRST thing the cheater does is throw the OW under the bus the minute they're busted with you. This is because their REAL feelings (in almost all cases) were with the woman they are with. You engaged in an Emotional Affair at first. Read up about these to realise one starting then cut and run baby!!!! YOU have to defend your own standards from now on. You dropped them for 1 night, not 1 minute more. If you want a real bf who will love you, devote themselves to you and have the possibility of a REAL future then this is NOT the way to go about it AT ALL. I know, I'm pretty grey about this stuff - not. It's black and white. Boundaries. Put them up & go out and meet a genuine guy. Not a cheater. Best wishes Lion Heart.
Author alltheanswers Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 Lion heart I think you misunderstood. we are both single...so i am not the other woman. he and his girl broke up months ago she moved away. He does have a history of cheating on her though...this is what I am sayiing and yes...I am at least proud of myself for not falling for his tricks again.
Author alltheanswers Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 My advice is a) don't respond to him or text him ever again, or b) rather than say you want a serious relationship and not FWB, actually tell him "Look, I knew our night together was casual but not THAT casual. Since that night I do not feel you've treated me respectfully even as a friend. I'm moving on." Bolase that is EXACTLY how I feel. You totally nailed it...I don't think this guy even deserves me to explain this to him though. Yes I knew it was casual but he is just a dick. He is well known as one among my social circle...so no loss. Bolase I think your the first one to nail this on the head! yes I knew it was casual but you are right, I did not know it was that casual..so when hes feeling lonely or horny! he can just f himself lol..
Author alltheanswers Posted March 30, 2015 Author Posted March 30, 2015 Ummmm. He didn't miss it. He got "it". You became "the OTHER woman" for a night. Just understand YOUR OWN boundaries. Many people (as this cheater demonstrated & you did too) have NO boundaries. If you don't want your bf or worse, your husband, to cheat, then don't be the other woman ever again. Oh and don't be a cheater either! If you respond at all to this guy, you will STILL be the OW. NC. If you have ANY DIFFICULTY WITH THIS AT ALL then Read the OW / OM threads. There's enough pain in there to sink a battle ship. Basically the very FIRST thing the cheater does is throw the OW under the bus the minute they're busted with you. This is because their REAL feelings (in almost all cases) were with the woman they are with. You engaged in an Emotional Affair at first. Read up about these to realise one starting then cut and run baby!!!! YOU have to defend your own standards from now on. You dropped them for 1 night, not 1 minute more. If you want a real bf who will love you, devote themselves to you and have the possibility of a REAL future then this is NOT the way to go about it AT ALL. I know, I'm pretty grey about this stuff - not. It's black and white. Boundaries. Put them up & go out and meet a genuine guy. Not a cheater. Best wishes Lion Heart.\ Just so you know cheating isnt something i wilingly partake in... im pretty against it.
MissBee Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 So theres this guy ive known for a few years..on and off. He always thought I was cute I guess but he jad a girlfriend at the time. So we hung out the other night and ended up going tp bed. I told him I just didnt want it to be a cheap hookup ge assured me it wasnt. So.... the next few days pass and it seems im the one texting him. He answered right away but it was always me. I asked him what he was doing this weekend...and he responded with that he felt pressured....but I said I dont want you too and he kinda said okay...he doesnt seem into it ..what should I do...just let it go? Let it go. If he was into you you wouldn't have to be over thinking it has ALWAYS been my experience.
Author alltheanswers Posted March 31, 2015 Author Posted March 31, 2015 Let it go. If he was into you you wouldn't have to be over thinking it has ALWAYS been my experience. Yeah.... he is being stupid and a loser done.
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