gnick Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Hi I was dumped Allmost 5 months ago. She was my best friend and after she dumped me she said she wanted to be friends then cut all contact. No response from any communication attempt. I went out of my way to treat this person like gold. Just tried to be good to her. Anyway, I can't shake the feeling that I'm just not good enough. I make good money I'm intelligent and know a great deal about alot of different topics. I workout and stay inshape. I think I'm a pretty decent looking guy. I just feel like a loser and there is something wrong with me. Any ideas?
NC-Thomas Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 I feel you man. AS we get dumped, so do we lose something of ourselves, including some self-respect and confidence. I am a bright guy, had an nice job in IT, slept with many females, have my own house, enough friends and great hobbies. But I feel like ****. So, no there is nothing wrong with you. You just got suckerpunched in the face, and you are bruised. The whole "loser" feeling fades with time. And so will any lacks of confidence! Keep in shape.
KBarletta Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 It's natural that your self confidence takes a hit when you get dumped, but as you look closer at the circumstances, you should realize that nothing is entirely your fault. Take a closer look at the real reasons for the end of the relationship. If there were things you think you could have done better, change the things about yourself that you can to become a better person. But also realize that the other factors (her issues) were out of your control and do not make you a loser, or any less desirable, nor are they any reason for you to feel like there is anything "wrong" with you. Focus on changing what you want to change about yourself to become a better person, to make yourself feel whole again and to move on to become stronger. When you do that, your self confidence will find its way back.
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