is my Dad cheating?

[mtimz2]

Ok-

So last night I broke my cell phone and needed a new one, and my Dad offered to give me his because he just got a new one. I took his phone and it turns out that he left all of his data on there. There weren't really any text messages or phone calls to be concerned about, but his Facebook was left open and so I clicked on that out of curiosity. It turns out he was private messaging about 4-5 other women. They were all pretty short messages, but I was a little concerned.

 

My Dad was working in another State and would travel back and forth there every 2 weeks, and on one of the messages, it was very brief and there was no flirting between the two, but my Dad told her to meet him at his Hotel at 5:00 and he would text her if they couldn't find each other. On another message, he said he was potentially going to be working in a new State for work to someone different and maybe they could meet for lunch sometime, and she replied yes. On another one with a different woman, they were talking about good to see you last time you were in town for work and from there they exchanged e-mail addresses so they could talk on there.

 

There were a couple of other messages with women, but I think they were genuinely about work because I knew who they were. I did not know these women.

 

I was confused and this was the only evidence I had, and I almost thought I was looking too much into it, because why would my Dad just give me his phone like that knowing that this was on here? So, later that night about an hour after I came home from the cell phone store, my Dad asked me if the store had erased all of the data on the phone? I told him No, and that I would do it tomorrow. My Mom was there too and he basically confiscated the phone when I asked him for the battery charger and he said he was going to erase the data for me. I told him I would do it tomorrow and my Mom kept asking him why he felt the need to do it, especially since I didn't ask. He just replied it will take about 10 minutes and he was deleting his contacts.

 

When he gave the phone back, the contacts were still on there and I told him that, to which point he took the phone back and deleted the contacts. I noticed he deleted his facebook app, his gmail app, and a couple of other random apps that I'm not sure about. I then asked him if he was doing this to just erase the contacts and he said yes. He then gave the phone back.

 

Now, I am very confused obviously and am wondering if I am just looking too much into this or if you think he might be cheating? Any and all opinions much appreciated! Thanks!

[SycamoreCircle]

Oh LoveShack, you can turn so ugly so quickly.

 

Errr...

 

You caught your Dad in a lie. My Mom used to tell me when I was a kid, "If you'll lie, you'll cheat; if you'll cheat, you'll steal; if you'll steal, you'll kill." Where is Dad on this chain?

[Ninjainpajamas]

You shouldn't be involved in your father's business, this is not something you should be investigating and/or exposing anything you find.

 

This is a relationship between him and your mother, as personal as it may feel to you the bottom line is you don't know all the facts about their relationship history and can easily misunderstand the situation and jump to conclusions...and you don't want to be in a position to have to be told and to hear what's going, or the past, or gripes and issues from either your mom or dad...if there was something going on.

 

The reality is your dad travels for work, and there are opportunities to be unfaithful...but again you don't understand why or if he would choose that, and you shouldn't.

 

I think you got too nosey, hopefully you don't feel the need to play the rescuer for your mom...it is not that simple, and a lot of problems can come from this, and you don't want to be responsible for that can of worms. It'll be insanely dramatic if you get involved, your mom will use that against your dad for leverage, whether appropriate or not.

[beatcuff]

...There weren't really any text messages or phone calls to be concerned about, but his Facebook was left open ... They were all pretty short messages, ... it was very brief and there was no flirting between the two...There were a couple of other messages with women, but I think they were genuinely about work because I knew who they were. I did not know these women.

 

this seems nothing more than work related. your imagination is running away with you because you don't KNOW some of them.

 

i doubt my children know more than 10% of my business contacts and that's being generous.