I lied to my girlfriend and she broke up with me. Is there anyway I can get her back?

[Satu]

@Praying4Daylight how should I handle this situation if this is a **** test? I'm just so confused right now and don't know what to do. I'm giving her space for now but I want to talk to her at some point. The thing is we have had breaks before but she has always come back and texted me. I just don't know if this time is different.

 

You know what?

 

You absolutely can't think your way out of how you're feeling just now.

 

Neither can you worry your way out of it.

 

Go for a run or lift some weights, or do both.

 

Get out of your head and into your body.

 

That will calm you down and help you gain perspective.

 

Rome has not yet been burned to the ground.

Edited March 20, 2015 by Satu

[elaine567]

@Praying4Daylight how should I handle this situation if this is a **** test? I'm just so confused right now and don't know what to do. I'm giving her space for now but I want to talk to her at some point. The thing is we have had breaks before but she has always come back and texted me. I just don't know if this time is different.

 

OK what you did wasn't a hanging offense, but some people set a big store on trust.

So although some would say she over-reacted, "Going to the game, no big deal".

It is not about going to the game, it is about her not being able to trust you to tell the truth to her.

If you cannot tell her you are going to a simple game with a guy friend without lying and making up stories, then what else could you be hiding? and that I guess is going to be difficult for her to get over, especially after the last incident with you too and her past.

[juanito14]

@Satu You're absolutely right, I can't think my way out of it. I'm looking for an answer right now but I know theres no way I'll be able to solve anything. I just miss her and miss being happy. Its nice to hear you say Rome hasn't burned down just yet and I'm trying to do everything I can to keep it from falling. It's just hard when the best way to keep it together is to stay silent and give her space. In my head all she is thinking about, when it comes to me, is how she can never give me a chance again and how I'm just like every other guy who has hurt her. My perspective is all messed up right now, I want whats best for me and I know thats selfish but I just want to make her happy

[juanito14]

@elaine567 you're right and again thats why I am so worried about this. I have never lied intentionally and have never actually done anything that would hurt her but my word is at question right now. I should've just been straight up with her from the get go, honestly I shouldve just gone to the library like I said I would. I was so much more concerned with making sure she was okay on my drive to the game that i didn't mention my friend and I know that was wrong of me. What is done has been done and theres nothing i can do to change it. I just don't know how to fix it and its driving me crazy

[spiderowl]

@spiderowl I did try to explain my side of the story last night and apologized more times than I can count but she wasn't having it because of how hurt and upset she was. As soon as she saw me with my friend, who I should also mention is a guy, she said she is never talking to me again, but we continued to talk throughout the night. Not sure if thats a good sign, or a sign that she cares though since everything that she said was pretty much anger and how she won't trust me ever again. The only thing I could say to her today that I didn't last night is telling her that she is right and me not mentioning him coming was wrong and deceitful and me blowing her off for the game was wrong. How I would never do that again and just how sorry I was. The thing is if she is still angry she may not hear anything I have to say and another bad thing is that she has had trust issues due to things that have happened in the past. What sucks is I know Im nothing like those guys, would never cheat or lie intentionally.

 

That's all you can do then. I wouldn't apologise any more. If she doesn't accept it, there's not a lot you can do and trying to win her back will only serve to lose her respect. Being honourable and owning up is one thing but if that person refuses to accept your apology then that's the time to reconsider your relationship with them.