pjm123 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 What are good ways to initate texts or calls to enjoy convos with you and how do you turn convos sexual??
smackie9 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Talk about things in common, like music, then talk about friends in common or share funny experiences, etc. Once there is an emotional connection established, casually flirt back and forth with friendly banter. Once things get going, things should get heated up, but to get there everything should be receptical.....You need to guage how you proceed by they way she responds to you.
d0nnivain Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Texting is the worst form of communication in the world. It's for saying I'm running late or please pick up milk on your way home. Maybe I love you, I miss you or I want you but it should not involve long back & forth. For that kind of interaction voice is so much better so call her. Talk about the same kinds of things you discuss with your friends (other than girls): current events; hopes & dreams; the weather; sports; school; your childhood; work; the funny thing your pet did today; the next movie you want to see etc. 1
smackie9 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 texing is for socially inept/ awkward persons....talking in person is for confident people. 1
MrMeh Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Unless the girl is into you, then it's improbable. My rule is to try to set up a date as soon as possible to avoid texting. Also, aiming towards sexting can feel forced and unnatural. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 I avoid texting as much as possible. But it can be fun once and awhile. Called a woman I met online to make plans. She mentioned that I was only the second guy to ever call her in the six months she'd been doing OLD. According to her, the first guy was so bad on the phone she didn't meet him in person. So three days later (day before the date), I send a quick text with a link to the scene from Swingers with Mikey repeatedly calling Niki's answering machine. Then underneath the link I say "I bet this bad phone game brings back memories". She got a huge laugh out of it and liked that I thought about her. When you use something that reminds you of a girl, it goes over well. 1
Gary S Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Like d0nnivain and smackie9 said, ease up on the texting. All you have to do is call her for a date. 1
Justanaverageguy Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Like d0nnivain and smackie9 said, ease up on the texting. All you have to do is call her for a date. Nonsense for younger people in 2015 texting is critical to getting dates. Facebook, whatsapp and the rest of the new wave of social media. There is certainly an art to it though. Last year being recently single and getting back into the dating scene I realized my text game wasn't up to scratch so I worked on it. I'm not saying its totally amazing now but I definitely get more conversions now. The one thing I would say is while texting it is really important - you actually want to avoid getting into long winded 4 hour text sessions every night. You'll end up with nothing to talk about and bore the pants off the girl. Keep it short, sharp fun and interesting and don't be afraid to be the one who ends the text conversation first when the conversation has reached its natural end point. Say your busy, have to be somewhere or do something important rather then trying to extend or restart the conversation. This avoids making you look too interested and gives the impression you have other interests and things to do. It also means your conversations generally stay fresh and interesting. The most important text is the initiation text. The first one you send to start a conversation. It should set the tone and be fun and interesting. Avoid sending initiating texts like .... hey how was your day. These are borning, lazy and something her mum or dad would send her. They are basically hey I want to talk to you but I don't really have anything interesting to tell you. Don't try and be too crazy but try and initiate conversations with something fun and interesting that sets the mood for you to have some fun with her. 4
SycamoreCircle Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Yeah, I agree with the above post. While calling may be more honorable, it's vastly becoming outmoded. Nonsense, dear fellow, these ghastly personages who endeavor to ring a prospective romance on this curious device named the telephone to inquire of a meeting, and who could not tell a quill from a squall! Have they no decorum? Have they never been introduced to the fine art of letter writing? -Be to the point and clear -Be economical and effective in word choice -Use good grammar, avoid nonsensical abbreviations -Direct everything towards a physical meeting 3
fitnessfan365 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 As a guy that loves to call, I will say that it's damn near impossible to get a woman on the phone these days. Mainly because a lot of women return voice mails with text messages. Then you try calling again, leave a voice mail, and get another text response. So after two attempts to call and getting texts in return, I just cut to the chase and make plans via text. I'd rather hear her voice and actually have a conversation with her. But fewer and fewer women actually return a voice mail with a call back anymore.
compulsivedancer Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 As a guy that loves to call, I will say that it's damn near impossible to get a woman on the phone these days. Mainly because a lot of women return voice mails with text messages. Then you try calling again, leave a voice mail, and get another text response. So after two attempts to call and getting texts in return, I just cut to the chase and make plans via text. I'd rather hear her voice and actually have a conversation with her. But fewer and fewer women actually return a voice mail with a call back anymore. You could try scheduling a phone call. Or text her and ask if you can call. While talking on the phone is nice, text skills are important. I would be unlikely to give my number to a guy who doesn't interest me via text message (on tinder). A good opener is nice, but I'm okay with something basic if the guy is willing to stick around and answer my texts. But if he asks about my day, I answer him, and four hours later he answers with something boring and generic, I won't be able to keep him straight from the five other guys I'm taking to, two of whom actually know how to carry on a conversation. That said, guys do not seem to know how to close! Ask to meet in person! I don't want a pen pal! 1
adiamond Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Picture texts of things you guys talked about/ inside jokes/ funny things you encounter through out the day to let her know you're thinking about her. Don't text her like, "I'm at work, bored" . 1
EgoJoe Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Being in sales has made me a phone pro. The best piece of advice I can give is ABC. Always. Be. Closing. When in doubt, here's your script: "Hey girl? What's up? When are you going to stop being so basic and laugh at my jokes over coffee? I can meet you at Trendy Coffee Bar #37 at six tomorrow." 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Being in sales has made me a phone pro. The best piece of advice I can give is ABC. Always. Be. Closing. When in doubt, here's your script: "Hey girl? What's up? When are you going to stop being so basic and laugh at my jokes over coffee? I can meet you at Trendy Coffee Bar #37 at six tomorrow." The problem with a script is that it comes off like one. Women spot copy and paste crap a mile away. Glengarry Glen Ross is one of my favorites though. 1
haribogumsnickers Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Dic pic. Holding your dictionary will increase your appeal both intellectually and retardedly. 1
EgoJoe Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 The problem with a script is that it comes off like one. Women spot copy and paste crap a mile away. Glengarry Glen Ross is one of my favorites though. I agree. My point is to be funny and set a date. If you're not comfortable on the phone you need a lot more advice than just how to talk on the phone.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 (edited) It's really not that hard if you pay attention to a woman. When they're comfortable, they do not shut up. So if you have half way decent listening skills and a good memory, they give you all sorts of material to work with. Example, the woman I just had a great second date with, LOVES the Cranberries and the song "Dreams". It's on her workout playlist. This automatically reminded me of Hillary Swank in the Next Karate Kid working out to the same song. So I found the clip on YouTube. The day before our date, I'll shoot her a quick text with the video link and say "Add these moves to your workout regiment ;-P". Since the movie is terrible, it has obvious humor. But since it's workout based and has the song Dreams in the background, it shows her that I actually pay attention to her. Edited March 21, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Author pjm123 Posted April 25, 2015 Author Posted April 25, 2015 yeah all we do is hangout watch movie have sex or go dinner do something. I HAVE NO CLUE ON WHAT THE HELL TO TEXT THIS WOMEN BESIDES WHATS UP HOW ARE YOU?????????? HELP CAN I PLEASE HAVE A LIST OF OPENERS TO SEND HER AND SOMEWHERE TO LEARN HOW TO TExT HER FUNNY STUFF?????? HELP PLZ ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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