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Karin2rinkashi Established Member

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So, now that my gf has done the GIGS and she is gone. Fine! I don't want to be anyone's second best... so i don't give a ****!

 

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Do you guys too have this weird feeling in the gut.... like... When you compare her to the person she/he was before they GIGED and the person they were after they GIGED. Like, does it **** with your mind every now and then?

 

You know why it happened, yet it is like someone pulled a rabbit out of the hat. And that hat was transparent.... You know what i mean?

 

It is not a hurting feeling... more like.... WTF.... feeling....

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Yea I know what you mean man. Happened to me, no one saw it coming, when I tell people about it, they get so surprised that she was the one that left me.

 

What can you do tho? Nothing. Sucks but you gotta just let the situation be and move on. Atleast you're stronger than I am and don't want her back anymore. I'm a ****ing idiot and still wish she would come back. I guess its cuz we were both eachothers first loves but clearly she doesn't care about that.

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Yea I know what you mean man. Happened to me, no one saw it coming, when I tell people about it, they get so surprised that she was the one that left me.

 

What can you do tho? Nothing. Sucks but you gotta just let the situation be and move on. Atleast you're stronger than I am and don't want her back anymore. I'm a ****ing idiot and still wish she would come back. I guess its cuz we were both eachothers first loves but clearly she doesn't care about that.

 

My girlfriend was the first girl I properly fell for. Left me for another guy. Do I want her back? No. Do I miss her? Occasionally. Would I push her off a cliff? Certainly. It's very odd, it's basically just the mornings that are tough for me. The rest of the day I'm fine. However sometimes the thoughts of her being intimate with this guy make me feel a little bit sick to my stomach. That's the only thing that REALLY bugs me, guess it's some sort of primal instinct thing. But whatever, it'll pass I'm sure.

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Its the worst thing that can happen to someone next to a passing away from a loved one . Its not like a normal breakup it has other elements to it like betrayal and your heart feels like no other pain you've felt before .

 

I think some women find the infatuation of a new romance the deciding factor . When that dies away they realise what they have lost . But by the time that happens , we have moved on to something better . Its normally how it goes .

 

The horrible thing is we can do nothing . No matter how much begging or pleading .Noone can change a women behaviour at a given time . The only thing can works is them seeing us move on so quick and improve as a person to a point where they think .. wow he is doing better without me . What have I done .

 

Lets face a fact aswell . In order to grow as individuals in relationships and in anything we need to go through heartbreak and pain .. Its what makes the human race evolve .

 

Learn and appreciate the experiences and also learn that it really is there loss . We are the ones who will gain strength and in the end they are the ones that have to live with regret and what ifs.

 

I wish everyone who ever has been left for someone else out of the blue the very best . Its one of the hardest things I've ever been through and yes I still have that bit inside me that wants her back but I know deep in my heart .. Its unrepairable .

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My girlfriend was the first girl I properly fell for. Left me for another guy. Do I want her back? No. Do I miss her? Occasionally. Would I push her off a cliff? Certainly. It's very odd, it's basically just the mornings that are tough for me. The rest of the day I'm fine. However sometimes the thoughts of her being intimate with this guy make me feel a little bit sick to my stomach. That's the only thing that REALLY bugs me, guess it's some sort of primal instinct thing. But whatever, it'll pass I'm sure.

 

 

I know what you mean. She is with another guy now.... I don't know what i did wrong. But i don't think anymore rights would have made anything different either.... and it makes me sick too when i think about her being with someone else. Like, does she not think of me? How could she? Does she not feel the love that still might be left stuck in some part of her soul. How are they so heartless sometimes? It just bothers me...

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Its the worst thing that can happen to someone next to a passing away from a loved one . Its not like a normal breakup it has other elements to it like betrayal and your heart feels like no other pain you've felt before .

 

I think some women find the infatuation of a new romance the deciding factor . When that dies away they realise what they have lost . But by the time that happens , we have moved on to something better . Its normally how it goes .

 

The horrible thing is we can do nothing . No matter how much begging or pleading .Noone can change a women behaviour at a given time . The only thing can works is them seeing us move on so quick and improve as a person to a point where they think .. wow he is doing better without me . What have I done .

 

Lets face a fact aswell . In order to grow as individuals in relationships and in anything we need to go through heartbreak and pain .. Its what makes the human race evolve .

 

Learn and appreciate the experiences and also learn that it really is there loss . We are the ones who will gain strength and in the end they are the ones that have to live with regret and what ifs.

 

I wish everyone who ever has been left for someone else out of the blue the very best . Its one of the hardest things I've ever been through and yes I still have that bit inside me that wants her back but I know deep in my heart .. Its unrepairable .

 

 

I know, you are absolutely right.

 

But it is just the 180 that they did... it is about the sudden flip of the switch that they experienced. I can't get my head around it...

 

It is like when you start thinking about God or creation of the universe, or how far the stars are, or is there really parallel universes....

 

You know.... like it ****S with your mind man... How is it possible? 2 weeks? Thats it?

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Didn't have this happen in a romantic relationship but with an ex-best friend. I accepted it fairly easily though and just moved on, didn't go to her birthday party she invited me to, nothing at all. It was like the person I'd liked had died and after a few weeks of grieving I just cherish old better memories of us every now and then. The only thing that freaked me out was when a year later she was moving just 30 miles away and would call every single day for 6 months. The first few months she called so often we turned our phone at home off completely.

 

She didn't get the meaning of NC until I accidentally took her call; the first few moments she sounded like the old her and then the cndescending tone was back, which made me reduce my responses to "hm", "mhm" and "yes" with a very obvious dismissive tone until I ended the call "I have to go to the thing at the place"-like. That was the last I heard of her, thankfully! If she had been anyone else I'd have gotten a restraining order.

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I know exactly how you feel Kiran, it just f*cking blows my mind that she was able to leave a 5 year relationship and jump into another one so f*cking quick. But the truth is she probably had him lined up for a while and was thinking of doing it months before she actually broke up with me. It sucks, ****ing sucks so bad cuz I was with her for 5 years and we talked about marriage and everything and I did think I was gonna marry this girl one day and now she is with another guy. Its been 4 ****ing months and I still can't get over it, yea she was a beautiful girl and had a great personality but I know there are others out there, even better than her but my heart is still stuck on her.

 

I still wish she would come back and as much as I want to hate her and wish badly upon her, i just can't. This girl meant the world to me...still does even tho we haven't spoken in over 4 months. I just can't believe how heartless and disrespectful it is that she left our 5 year relationship and jumped into the arms of another guy that gave her some attention. I know its GIGS because we were eachother's firsts and she probably thinks that this guy is better but I know for a fact that the way I treated her, no other guy would do the same, she will learn in time.

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So, now that my gf has done the GIGS and she is gone. Fine! I don't want to be anyone's second best... so i don't give a ****!

 

BUT

 

Do you guys too have this weird feeling in the gut.... like... When you compare her to the person she/he was before they GIGED and the person they were after they GIGED. Like, does it **** with your mind every now and then?

 

You know why it happened, yet it is like someone pulled a rabbit out of the hat. And that hat was transparent.... You know what i mean?

 

It is not a hurting feeling... more like.... WTF.... feeling....

I think it's natural to feel hurt. You don't have to exclude that from the equation. You feel a wide range of things. In the beginning, there were nights I strangled the pillow next to me.

 

I came across this personality type on The Dating Personality Test on OK Cupid. Say what you will about the seriousness of these profiles, The Sudden Departure describes my ex pretty well:

 

OkCupid | The Dating Persona Test

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