gypsy25 Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 My boyfriend of a year and I just moved in together 2 weeks ago, he moved in to my place and I am paying almost all of the rent because he is transitioning from jobs right now and I wanted to help him out. So anyways, he and I had been talking about getting a puppy for about 2 months now. Now that we'd be living together it was something he really wanted and I was really excited about it as well. Anyways, last week he drove about an hour away to a breeder and put a deposit down on a new dog and we are supposed to pick it up this Friday. The thing is is that I have been thinking really hard about the whole situation and I don't know how practical it is. Just the fact that yes we are living together, but we're not married and if something happens and we do break up what will happen to the dog? Not only that, but the lease on my place is gonna be up in about 6 months and then we'd have to find a pet friendly place and all that stuff. I mean all of the things I think about are solvable but it's just one more thing to worrry about. So I brought all of this up to him last night and he got really pissed off and just said "Fine, we won't get a dog, I don't even want one now" and that honestly wasn't my goal, I just wanted to discuss the practical issues, but he told me I waited WAY too long to tell him this and why couldn't I have said something before, and I suppose I should have. Anyways, I do still want a dog but I just want to make sure we know what we're getting into. Do you think I should have brought it up or not? I'm sort of regretting saying anything now cause I dunno if he's gonna want a dog. Whatcha think?
Illusion24 Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Well I will tell you this...Having a dog is very expensive...I just spent $275 on my dog today at the vet She has a hip problem and needs special food...etc!! An ex bf of mine gave me the dog as a gift so I kept her..Now it's up to you how attached you are to the puppy
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 There was nothing wrong with bringing it up because you have to talk about your feelings and better sooner than when it's too late and the poor dog is in your home. I don't know how you brought up the topic or your tone when talking to him. His reaction either tells me that you didn't give him a fair chance to discuss the issue, or it tells me that he got on the defensive right off the bat and that's either due to the way it was presented or he's just a jerk.
alphamale Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 having a dog is a lot of responsibility and expense and most likely one of you two will end up doing the majority of the care-taking of the K9. if you both are having difficulty communicating about this subject and are not on the same page then you are definitely not ready for a dog yet.
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