d0nnivain Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 We're both 20, she apparently wants to be "free", so I doubt it ... but ok.. At 20 the LAST thing she wants is a marriage proposal. Sorry Timeshel. Knowing how young you are, my original theories seem more likely. She wants to go off on a grand adventure & have a whirlwind romance with an handsome Frenchman. She doesn't want a BF back home but she does want to keep you dangling on a string for the next 7 months because she wants to have a BF & a social life before she leaves. Armed with this additional info, your ages, you should cut her lose now. She will not agree to an LDR because her study abroad program is the next step in her life & you are not part of that future. Even if she does agree, she won't be faithful. If she wanted to maintain things with you she'd be gushing about how you can stay connected while she's gone, when she'll be home for break & how often you could visit her. Since she's not doing that she's looking to put you in her rear view mirror. Sorry.
Timshel Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 We're both 20, she apparently wants to be "free", so I doubt it ... but ok. I don't even know if that was serious or not. Okay. Then I'm wrong.
Author LeaveMeAlone Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Okay. Then I'm wrong. No go on, tell us why you think so please?
Timshel Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Now I'm not sure if you're serious. I did not know your age prior to your post in response to mine. If you had said so before, I missed it. That said, it does not negate the possibility for me. You have said that she has done this before but it did not come to fruition. You said that she is excited about your trip to Paris and anniversary. You said that she neither wants to end the relationship at this time or is disinterested in your relationship. This information and having a strong instinct that is based on my professional experience led me to deduce the possibility. You insist that this is poppycock and since you are the one in the relationship, I defer to your opinion.
Author LeaveMeAlone Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Now I'm not sure if you're serious. I did not know your age prior to your post in response to mine. If you had said so before, I missed it. That said, it does not negate the possibility for me. You have said that she has done this before but it did not come to fruition. You said that she is excited about your trip to Paris and anniversary. You said that she neither wants to end the relationship at this time or is disinterested in your relationship. This information and having a strong instinct that is based on my professional experience led me to deduce the possibility. You insist that this is poppycock and since you are the one in the relationship, I defer to your opinion. Hmm. well this is all interesting.
Xelha Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 I really don't think she's looking for a proposal. It sounds like she's looking to have some new experiences in life and feels like a relationship back home will get in the way of enjoying her time abroad. I don't mean that she's eager to jump into a relationship over there, per se, but it's moreso that she might feel like she has to clear everything with you before she does it once she's gone. Keeping in touch while abroad(especially when there's a time difference) can feel like a huge burden, particularly if you're not crazy about the other person. That isn't to say she doesn't care about you, just that she's not looking for a long-term relationship with you. I went abroad at about the same age, and at that point I didn't have a bf, but I know that if I had had one back home I would've felt uncomfortable going out with friends all the time, especially when there was any flirting involved. I think that if anything, discuss a LDR with her and see if she would be committed to something like that, but I strongly advise against a proposal, because if she would consider a LDR now, she probably wouldn't following a proposal.
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