aj1212 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Sat next to him at a class at uni...had a bit of a chat before the professor arrived. Initial impression: cute smile, but really quiet and shy. Basically he would keep breaking eye contact, and would like look down and smile......laugh? Idk. Bit strange. I guess the only reason it didn't bother me too much was because he has a cute face. He's not handsome, but idk there is this babyish look to him. There is something about him I think is really sweet and endearing. He isn't like any of the guys I've met/dated before, who were really outgoing and "life-of-the-party" types. Anyway......my friends are telling me I shouldn't date this guy because admittedly, he seems to be really socially awkward and a bit creepy. I would feel bad rejecting him though, because I can tell he is making a really big effort to keep talking to me, sit next to me at lectures, add me on facebook, etc. I guess I could be wrong, but I am getting the feeling that he has a thing for me. The reason why he seems creepy is because he somehow added me on facebook when I only told him my first name, and I have a pretty common first name. When I checked out his profile, he only has like 60 "friends," and his photos are all like with his family...i.e. seems to be a loner? But in person, just talking to him and stuff, he seems like a really sweet, innocent person. He has this childlike quality that for whatever reason I think is endearing. So just trying to gauge a 3rd person opinion? Do you think it would be a bad idea to date someone who is really socially awkward (to the point where I think he may have some kind of Social Anxiety Disorder)?
mr_dave Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Yeah don't date him, he probably wants a girlfriend who doesn't think he's a weirdo..... 3
writergal Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 (edited) Anyway......my friends are telling me I shouldn't date this guy because admittedly, he seems to be really socially awkward and a bit creepy. I would feel bad rejecting him though, because I can tell he is making a really big effort to keep talking to me, sit next to me at lectures, add me on facebook, etc. I guess I could be wrong, but I am getting the feeling that he has a thing for me. If your friends told you to jump off a bridge, would you? Why are you listening to your friends opinions? They wouldn't be dating him, just you would. And why would you encourage the poor guy by continuing to talk to him in class especially when you say you can tell he's making a real effort to impress you, and add him on your Facebook, if you think he is creepy and has a social anxiety disorder? No, please don't date him. Only because I think you care more about what other people think. I think you are more concerned with outter appearances than taking the time to really get to know this guy for who HE is, and not what your catty friends think of him. Are they in class with you both, or do they make these judgements about him based on what you tell them about him? mr_dave is right. Leave him alone so he can date a girl who doesn't think he's a weirdo like you seem to think. Why would you want to date a guy you have such a low, negative opinion of? That would be cruel to date him as you'll only dump him the minute your friends make comments about him, because you seem to care more about what they think, than make your own decision. How do you know he has a social anxiety disorder? Please delete him from your Facebook and leave him alone. Poor guy. I feel sorry for him. Edited March 19, 2015 by writergal 3
kendahke Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Anyway......my friends are telling me ... Stop running your relationships past your committee of friends. They're not dating him so what they think doesn't matter. Make your own decisions.
Redhead14 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Sat next to him at a class at uni...had a bit of a chat before the professor arrived. Initial impression: cute smile, but really quiet and shy. Basically he would keep breaking eye contact, and would like look down and smile......laugh? Idk. Bit strange. I guess the only reason it didn't bother me too much was because he has a cute face. He's not handsome, but idk there is this babyish look to him. There is something about him I think is really sweet and endearing. He isn't like any of the guys I've met/dated before, who were really outgoing and "life-of-the-party" types. Anyway......my friends are telling me I shouldn't date this guy because admittedly, he seems to be really socially awkward and a bit creepy. I would feel bad rejecting him though, because I can tell he is making a really big effort to keep talking to me, sit next to me at lectures, add me on facebook, etc. I guess I could be wrong, but I am getting the feeling that he has a thing for me. The reason why he seems creepy is because he somehow added me on facebook when I only told him my first name, and I have a pretty common first name. When I checked out his profile, he only has like 60 "friends," and his photos are all like with his family...i.e. seems to be a loner? But in person, just talking to him and stuff, he seems like a really sweet, innocent person. He has this childlike quality that for whatever reason I think is endearing. So just trying to gauge a 3rd person opinion? Do you think it would be a bad idea to date someone who is really socially awkward (to the point where I think he may have some kind of Social Anxiety Disorder)? It doesn't matter with this one, because he hasn't asked you out yet. And, even if a person has some kind of social anxiety and is able to muster up enough courage to approach or ask you out, it's possible that the SAD isn't so significant as to be overcome and not be such an issue between you as they become more comfortable with you. If someone who you "think" has some kind of social anxiety asks you for a date, why not give it a chance for a least a couple of dates to determine whether or not it's really an issue.
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