WonderKid Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 I was serious when I chose to put dating behind me for the better good. Deleted all the dating sites, no more CL sexcapades, and haven't been hitting on women in public much either. It changed once I got my car finally. I went to meet a woman I met online [DateHookup] about 4 yrs ago. She was 19 that time. And I was just about to delete my profile on that site; she shot me a message. She had no profile picture. I was like WTF. But I replied. She was cool and into sports. Then we exchanged numbers and began texting, and showed our faces. We shared tons of things. The long distance thing didn't workout--primarily because of me--I couldn't do it. I had no way of seeing her for real. Last year, she got a better car and she didn't come to see me, or offer, at all. I was kind of upset at that. But with me breaking things off with her, and also her finding out I had a GF, I couldn't blame her much. When I got my car though, I went to see her on the fly; a spur of the moment thing. She lives about 60 miles away. So for the first time we meet in her town, at a mall. She was shocked. I was surprised. I did not like how shy and introvert she was. Looked for advice about it on here, and someone hit me with it; saying I shouldn't try to change her. Which they were right. But I decided to give it a chance and work with her. I am glad I am doing so. What I am learning is to be patient and not become what my ex-GF was: a control freak. I think some of that rubbed off on me! And I apologized to her after the intense talk we had about that. First of all, this woman is black. Which I never thought I'd end up with a black woman. She's short and athletic/petite. Which I wasn't quite fond of--I have always been into tall women. But when I saw and met her in person it was very different feelings for me. We try to meet every weekend now. She loves the time we spend together. And she's a very caring and sweet person just like how my 2nd GF was. She's very pure. Never had a relationship. Never dated. Guys didn't even hit on her. Never experienced a heartbreak either. It is interesting because there has been many times I thought of just letting her go and never talking to her again--because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and I wanted her to work on dating other guys. But she wouldn't. And she always confided in me. And we just kept talking and staying in touch. I kept making picky excuses until I realized. There is nothing wrong with this woman. She is as sweet as they come. And she gives me the time of day. Maybe I need to meet her halfway and take my own advice. Moral of this thread is that it could be that very person you are underestimating. They don't mind talking with you or they don't judge you heavily or at all. If you eliminate artificial expectations, the view becomes more clear.
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