mariekatie Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 In the beginning of my relationship, my guy told me he was diagnosed with ADD but he wasn't on medication. At first it doesn't bother me at all as he seems fine. But as time passes, I start to notice his ADD symptoms. It's not a deal breaker and I'm seeking advice here because I want to be more understanding about his condition to improve my relationship. I admit I get really mad when he loses focus or disorganised. He has all signs of ADD Inattentiveness.. Sometimes when we are in a middle of a serious conversation, he would laugh because he got distracted by a funny video. He don't seems to remember stuff well. In the past I thought it was red flags but I realise it's his ADD acting up. Also I often don't even know what is he thinking. He would be honest with me when i ask but sometimes I can't help but feel neglected due to his lack of attention.. Other than that, he's the most amazing boyfriend I could ever get. I'm an angry & impatient person & I've never deal with anyone with ADD so sometimes it frustrates me. I was hoping people who had deal with ADD or has ADD could give me some advice. It can be pretty challenging to date someone with ADD but nonetheless, I'm not giving up. Link to post Share on other sites
Rko28 Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 My little brother has it and is one of the most loveable people I have every met. If he starts medication you will see a huge improvement in his behaviour, but you do have to be sympathetic towards his problems, if you can handel that then i see no problem at all with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 I'm an angry & impatient person This tells me you don't have the personality to date a person like him. You can work on being more patient and understanding but it will always be something forced out of you and not something that comes naturally. Soon both your lives will be miserable. This is a new relationship and he already makes you mad? How sad. You both need to part and find people better suited for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mariekatie Posted March 19, 2015 Author Share Posted March 19, 2015 My little brother has it and is one of the most loveable people I have every met. If he starts medication you will see a huge improvement in his behaviour, but you do have to be sympathetic towards his problems, if you can handel that then i see no problem at all with it. Honestly it's only on some bad days (especially pms) that I can't handle it. But I don't stay mad for more than 5 minutes. I understand his problems but I'm seeking advice on how it's really like to have ADD. I've never deal with anyone with ADD so I could only read on it online.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mariekatie Posted March 19, 2015 Author Share Posted March 19, 2015 This tells me you don't have the personality to date a person like him. You can work on being more patient and understanding but it will always be something forced out of you and not something that comes naturally. Soon both your lives will be miserable. This is a new relationship and he already makes you mad? How sad. You both need to part and find people better suited for you. I appreciate the honesty but he made me a better person. I used to be impatient and angry all the time but towards him, I just can't stay mad. I'm just afraid he would feel bad but he understands why it's frustrating for me at times. I do not want him to feel that he is not worthy so Im here to seek advice to better understand ADD. Maybe I came off wrongly because I'm bad at expressing with words & English isn't my 1st language.. I don't exactly feel miserable because I know why he is like this, I've been with him for almost a year. Well everyone have their Imperfections and your partner would make you mad. But most importantly we don't stay mad with each other & the happiness I had with him over ride the frustrations at times (mostly during my pms). He's an amazing boyfriend other than this so I'm not here to break up with him, rather I'm trying to understand the struggles he is going through. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CalvinM Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 I appreciate the honesty but he made me a better person. I used to be impatient and angry all the time but towards him, I just can't stay mad. I'm just afraid he would feel bad but he understands why it's frustrating for me at times. I do not want him to feel that he is not worthy so Im here to seek advice to better understand ADD. Maybe I came off wrongly because I'm bad at expressing with words & English isn't my 1st language.. I don't exactly feel miserable because I know why he is like this, I've been with him for almost a year. Well everyone have their Imperfections and your partner would make you mad. But most importantly we don't stay mad with each other & the happiness I had with him over ride the frustrations at times (mostly during my pms). He's an amazing boyfriend other than this so I'm not here to break up with him, rather I'm trying to understand the struggles he is going through. ADD doesn't turn you into some sort of Jekyll type monster. It mostly just messes with attention span and coordination issues. I'm a bit OCD too, but previous partners have helped by encouraging me to notice when I'm straightening my shoes, washing my hands multiple times or off in my own world. The best thing you can do is be supportive. Link to post Share on other sites
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