Anela Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 No, dear, it's real. Was married to one of those, meaning an abuse victim. She actively avoided any sort of verbal conflict, to the extent of avoiding friends of mine who had loud and rude wives. Truth. It was the "running of their mouths" comment - I'm well aware of the effects of it, physical or verbal.
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 It is not always that great to be "appreciated" for our sexuality, for most of us anyway that is kind of a private part of our life to be shared with who we choose, of course I know there are plenty of women who want a sexual reaction out of any man they see but I am not one of them and it seems like other women on here aren't as well. If you don't understand why I can't explain but if you are honestly asking just take my word for that!! Regarding "walking on eggshells" when talking with men if you're a girl, well, most of us have been well conditioned from childhood to be nice. It's not walking on eggshells though! Just not talking to people in a way that we expect them to dislike!!
SolG Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 So far no such encounters but, then again, I don't make a habit of making such comments to strangers and, with intimates, it's generally adjectives like 'ravishing' or 'delicious' or similar, not 'hot'. Not a fan of pretty or hot really. On the other hand, nor am I bothered by either (depending on how they're said of course). I find them both kind of... meh, really. Now to me pretty is up there with nice; the kind of words a young child uses to describe their teacher. Brings to mind IKEA furniture and dime a dozen pastel water colours. Moderately pleasing and functional, but nondescript. And hot; this to me is what a teenager uses to describe 'that' young teacher when hormones and blood loss to the brain have rendered him monosyllabic. And I agree with the others here that have said that it's much more comfortable to think you've reduced your SO to this state, as opposed to random strangers. While not really bothered by pretty or hot, I'd much rather less one dimensional descriptors. As per the quote above, ravishing or delicious or gorgeous or intriguing or breathtaking... Even beautiful has more depth because it's multi-applicable. But maybe that's just me :-/ 1
Nikki Sahagin Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 If a man I don't know calls me hot I think he just wants to get in me. The other day I went swimming and a guy came up to me and said, 'you should go talk to my friend, he thinks you're hot.' I have a bf anyway but even if I didn't, his approach put me off. If my bf calls me hot, I love it
Auspecial Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 (edited) you merely restated the issue and copped an attitude and didn't give a reason. While it's not something I normally would say to a woman I don't know, it wouldn't be meant as an insult and it's not like asking for sex. It is merely showing appreciation for their looks. -No, actually I answered the question with my opinion, which is what you asked for. -No, actually I didn't cop an attitude, I was pointing out a (sometimes humerus, sometimes not) truth. -I understand that is how you feel, but I am telling you that's not how many women feel. Edited March 20, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fixed quote
BlueIris Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Not at all. Women do plenty of things that piss me off that have nothing to do with women's lib! But I do think that women have been hypersensitized because of women's lib. And having watched this for a better part of 50 years, it isn't funny. It has ruined lives. I’ve seen far more lives ruined by people thinking that others are supposed to be what they want them to be. Make peace with the fact that some folks don’t think the way you do. …. Do women walk on eggshells and worry about every word that comes out of their mouth so as not to insult men? No. If anything, just the opposite! …. While it's not something I normally would say to a woman I don't know, it wouldn't be meant as an insult and it's not like asking for sex. It is merely showing appreciation for their looks. So do what you want. If you call a woman “hot” and she reacts the way she wants… How are you oppressed or mistreated? So long as no one’s punching someone in the face, you both get to think the way you want to. 1
SleekArchitecture Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Neither, hot does come off as sexual and is okay sometimes, especially when said before a make out session with someone you are close too. But hot can be associated with really weird ideals. Pretty, pretty what, pretty okay, pretty normal, pretty good. It is underwhelming. Striking and beautiful are the best of terms of endearment. The most complimentary. Add smart to it and you've got a deal.
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