Gloria25 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Ok, I was listening to this radio personality talk about his wife on this new TV show... Every time he refers to her he says "my beautiful wife". Ok, why not my "talented" wife? My "funny" wife (cuz she's staring in a comedy). My fav podcaster lately is getting tired of people who start off talking about their kids by saying 'our/my beautiful children'. My fav podcaster is like 'who cares if they are beautiful'...and I agree. I think that like some psychological testing, where they show you images and what's the first thing that comes to your mind means something. If the first thing that comes to your mind regarding a mate and/or children is "beautiful" then, what more qualities do you expect and/or see in your mate and/or kids? 3
Robert Z Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Why do you assume that they mean physical beauty? When you love someone, don't they look beautiful to you? 14
autumnnight Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Exactly. Just because they say beautiful first doesn't mean they do not also value the other things. Plus, I think some things are just habit, like saying how are you to someone as you pass them in the hall without stopping. Honestly, sometimes I wonder if people just wonder stuff out loud or if some of the things we get annoyed about on LS are actually that big a deal? 3
Frank2thepoint Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 I agree with both Robert Z and autumnnight's point of view. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But I also agree and understand what Gloria is saying. There is a innate obsession with physical beauty, and it's wired into human nature. It's usually the first example people use to describe to others, about someone significant to them. Even strangers are not immune to the labeling. Such as obsessing over the physical beauty of celebrities more often rather than their accomplishments. 3
miss-alex Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Same here - when someone says "my beautiful wife/children" I do not immediately assume that they mean "physically beautiful." Rather that they value their outer AND inner beauty/talent/intelligence, etc. If someone said "my hot wife," that would be a different thing. (But this is just my personal perception, maybe also influenced by the fact that I am not a native English speaker and the distinctions between "beautiful," "hot" and "pretty" etc. might seem slightly different to me. You guys English speakers have these three words, whereas in my native language, I could only use one word as a translation for them all.) 1
gaius Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 She's probably ugly so he has to say that. I never hear Tom Brady preface wife with beautiful. 2
Author Gloria25 Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 She's probably ugly so he has to say that. I never hear Tom Brady preface wife with beautiful. Lol.... But, I appreciate the responses. I did think that "beautiful" can be used to address the attributes rather than physical appearance of someone... But, I leaned more towards physical appearance cuz when my fav podcaster raised the issue, the people didn't come back with "well, I wasn't talking about their looks". Cuz yea, when I say "beautiful" sometimes I'm talking about looks, sometimes their persona, sometimes a combo of the two. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 My beautiful Gloria25.. 25, for the amount of times my heart beats for you every minute 2
Davey L Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 When guys say a girl has a nice personality it's usually taken as a euphemism for "she's ugly". Which is a shame because when I say it I mean it like I say it. 2
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 She's probably ugly so he has to say that. I never hear Tom Brady preface wife with beautiful. Or more likely the "fav podcaster" who is sick of people saying "my beautiful" whatever has to hate it because she is hideous herself inside and out!! 3
Frank2thepoint Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 When guys say a girl has a nice personality it's usually taken as a euphemism for "she's ugly". Which is a shame because when I say it I mean it like I say it. If a guy says his girlfriend/wife is smart, there will be someone that will exclaim the woman is ugly. If a guy says his girlfriend/wife is beautiful, there will also be someone that will exclaim that the man is just focusing on her looks, and not her talent/brains. It's just best to say "I like turtles" and eat a pencil eraser. People will leave you alone and not try to start an argument. 2
Author Gloria25 Posted March 20, 2015 Author Posted March 20, 2015 If a guy says his girlfriend/wife is smart, there will be someone that will exclaim the woman is ugly. If a guy says his girlfriend/wife is beautiful, there will also be someone that will exclaim that the man is just focusing on her looks, and not her talent/brains. It's just best to say "I like turtles" and eat a pencil eraser. People will leave you alone and not try to start an argument. Ok, how about my "lovely" wife? I mean, the radio guy I was talking about? I hear what you guys are saying about use of the word "beautiful", but I think if he's talking about her in the context of the new comedy show she is on, my "beautiful" wife for me just seems to make people think he "wants" to focus on her looks. 1
Satu Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Ok, how about my "lovely" wife? I mean, the radio guy I was talking about? I hear what you guys are saying about use of the word "beautiful", but I think if he's talking about her in the context of the new comedy show she is on, my "beautiful" wife for me just seems to make people think he "wants" to focus on her looks. "Lovely" is good 1
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