Leigh 87 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 It's funny because the fact that she used to be a fat girl growing up made her really humble and develop a fantastic personality. But now that she loves fitness, her body is catching up and she doesn't realize how sexy she is. She isn't self involved, stuck up, or entitled. QUOTE] omggggg I grew up a fat ugly gal too! And then I became slim without even trying with large boobs and bottom (the figure that stops traffic, I have to cover boobs up to avert attention) Plus I had braces and my acne cleared up. People on here think I am conceited since I extol the virtues of my new "body", however, I don't think I am hot at ALL and I am even getting plastic surgery on my nose soon. I simply enjoy being POSITIVE rather than playing the " oh no poor me I grew up ugly" card. So guys think I come across confident in real life as I focus on the things I like about myself, but at the same time I will NEVER... even after my nose job, I will never think I am the prettiest girl around. Merely to "some" men, not the majority.I find growing up ugly and never getting what I want due to my looks, has served me well. I had to do well in school and learn how to command praise for my talent (in grade school it was art, for instance) and now I excel academically when I study. I love coming from where I am and I am sure this girl does too! It is a real treat to blossom as an adult! Still to this day I always think, at least once a day: thank God I am not ugly anymore. I gotta admit, it is nice to receive mail attention at times" Except uninvited bottom smacking - which happened to day when a stranger slapped my @ss at college, and then ran away laughing. But that's another story:mad: I love having a nice bottom after growing up chubby I have to admit, I enjoy showing off my curves and I am sure this girl is a more positive person because she can now show herself off and relish in her new found male attention (as opposed to women that have ALWAYS had male attention and adoration). Heck, I had men run the other way from me - in grade school one boy said : I don't want to sit next to leigh because she is disgusting". Then when I lost my virginity in high school, everyone laughed because such an "ugly" girl had sex. They all made vomit noises as I walked into class to demonstrate their distaste in an "ugly" girl having sex. So be careful - just sayin - I have to get therapy for my bullying of the past and for the time being, it has rendered me pretty useless insofar as having an emotionally healthy relationship goes.....
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 IDK...I just think when two people really "click" emotionally, sexually, mentally and spiritually, there's not a whole heck of a lot of "work" to do. And if there is, something's just not right. Of course I am speaking from experience, with my current. We don't really have to work much at anything, including maintaining our connection ....we just connect and it's pretty much effortless. We just click! And have from day one. To he honest, wouldn't be with him this long if we had to "work" at it. Ugh, what's the point, I am fine and happy on my own too. As is he. But he enhances my life, I am happier with him than without, we support each other, respect each other's need for space and privacy, have long substantive talks about love, life, the world, and we rock in bed! What's there to work at? I dunno, maybe we're an anomoly.... Not to hijack the post but how old are you and how long have you been together with your boyfriend?
katiegrl Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Not to hijack the post but how old are you and how long have you been together with your boyfriend? 37 and five years. Two LTRs before this one, first one four years, second one five years. I ended both those prior relationships. And even though we got along well (was engaged to the second), they didn't hold a candle to "this" one. Neither of us is going anywhere.... 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 That's great. And just to clarify about "working" in a relationship, I was not referring to the drudgery that is often associated with the word but rather effort. If you're feeling like your relationship is another task on your To Do list you're dreading, then maybe it's time to rethink your relationship. Working at it in a happy relationship just means that you make each other a priority however that fits into your lives. You have to first want it and when you do, it can feel effortless especially when you've found someone that dances to the same beat as you do. 1
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