Superman2024 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 For the women here who have experience with OLD, what are some of your favorite first messages from guys or what specifically do you want to hear in a first message? How do you like the conversation to escalate from there?
d0nnivain Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 I wasn't on OLD long but the best message is original, pithy, short & shows that the person read the other person's profile. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 ^^^What she said. Short and simple, and a little wit and humor thrown in never hurt.
Toodaloo Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 For the women here who have experience with OLD, what are some of your favorite first messages from guys or what specifically do you want to hear in a first message? How do you like the conversation to escalate from there? I loved "Well I don't have a monster truck but I do have a tractor...!" I don't like anything that even smells anything less than confident and comfortable in their skin. So the worst are "I guess I am number 13 in a list of 25..." and stuff like that.
Toodaloo Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Another example of a bad one... "I read your profile and it seems you have the quliteies im looking for." guys you are not shopping on ebay for a car... A great one was "Hiya. I have to ask what's the choice tonight then ballet or monster trucks?" Do you see the difference? On is asking a question the other is referring to me as well... meat...
Gary S Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 It's not so much about the message but who it comes from. They like messages from guys they are attracted to and will even respond to a wink when they like him. 4
hudson701 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 It's not so much about the message but who it comes from. They like messages from guys they are attracted to and will even respond to a wink when they like him. This 100%. I'm considered attractive by both my male and female friends. I googled a tinder blog today about the best PUA lines to use on tinder aka cocky arsehole game. One of the openers was: "Roses are red, violets are blue, I think you're fu--king beautiful. Now give me your number". Make no mistake, I think this is an absolutely vulgar opening to use. Anyway, I put it to the test earlier, I even struggled to type as it was so crude. I directed it at a hot, 24 year old brunette I matched with this morning: Me: "Roses are red, violets are blue, I think you're fu--king beautiful. Now give me your number". Her: " haha aww thanks! Sure it's 0797..... " I nearly fell off my chair when she replied. It worked. I've since tried it again with another match and she has responded in the same way. So ladies, what is it about arsehole game that is so damn effective? Why does it turn you on? And if anybody thinks I am trolling, I am more than happy to upload the screen captures for you to see just how beautiful these women are. 1
Gary S Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 ^^^yeah, well if they are young and dumb you can cuss all day long. So much for class!
Anela Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 One that made me laugh the most, was a teenager hitting on me. No way was that going to happen. I can't remember much else - I just appreciated people being nice.
DoesntGetIt Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 This 100%. I'm considered attractive by both my male and female friends. I googled a tinder blog today about the best PUA lines to use on tinder aka cocky arsehole game. One of the openers was: "Roses are red, violets are blue, I think you're fu--king beautiful. Now give me your number". Make no mistake, I think this is an absolutely vulgar opening to use. Anyway, I put it to the test earlier, I even struggled to type as it was so crude. I directed it at a hot, 24 year old brunette I matched with this morning: Me: "Roses are red, violets are blue, I think you're fu--king beautiful. Now give me your number". Her: " haha aww thanks! Sure it's 0797..... " I nearly fell off my chair when she replied. It worked. I've since tried it again with another match and she has responded in the same way. So ladies, what is it about arsehole game that is so damn effective? Why does it turn you on? And if anybody thinks I am trolling, I am more than happy to upload the screen captures for you to see just how beautiful these women are. That made me realize that my best pickups have been when I didn't give a **** and did something like that. One was "You, me, doing <this thing (not sex)>, what do you say?" and the response was "Hell Yeah". Another time I was with a girl and I had mentioned something I had done as "the last thing I'd want to ever do to you" so she asked what the first thing I'd want to do was and I simply said "**** you like crazy" to which she replied "Let's go" and headed out so fast she forgot her jacket and I had to grab it. Maybe I do need to act more like that more often, it has always worked and being kind, caring, interested, etc. has been hit and miss.
Gloria25 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 For one, their name... I don't get how they some how forget and/or omit their name. Two, by the 2nd or third e-mail exchange I'd like to hear them ask to meet in person. I push for a first meet ASAP when dealing with OLD. I don't have time to waste and want to meet in person to see if they are who they say they are (no fake pics) and if there is chemistry. 1
Gary S Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 ^^^everybody should be "signing" their name in the bottom of their first message. Don't they teach people how to write letters anymore in school? 2
Author Superman2024 Posted March 20, 2015 Author Posted March 20, 2015 I think I generally write pretty good messages and carry most conversations, but I'm never sure when to get flirty or how far to go with it or even if I should until we meet in person. I'm always messaging Christians so I'm not sure the sexual messages would work in my case!
edgygirl Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Disagree. I prefer a witty or cute message from a guy who's okay looking than a smiley from a hot guy. It's not so much about the message but who it comes from. They like messages from guys they are attracted to and will even respond to a wink when they like him.
somedude81 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 It's not so much about the message but who it comes from. They like messages from guys they are attracted to and will even respond to a wink when they like him. Somebody should do a test and make two accounts. In one account the picture should be of a normal guy, the other one will use a male model as the picture. Both accounts send out the same exact message and see which one gets the most responses. Any guesses as to the results?
Anela Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Somebody should do a test and make two accounts. In one account the picture should be of a normal guy, the other one will use a male model as the picture. Both accounts send out the same exact message and see which one gets the most responses. Any guesses as to the results? You could do the same as a woman, and get the same results.
Dybbuk Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Personally I like a message that is short and sweet, but makes a reference to what I wrote in my profile. I also really like messages that don't go the very typical route of "Oh you like the Walking Dead too?" and really tried to pick out a more personal aspect of my profile to comment on. Best messages also interjected a bit of humor in them as well. 1
hudson701 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 You could do the same as a woman, and get the same results. But women don't send messages though. They simply wait for the offers to come in and pick the best one. Tough life.
Gaeta Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 You can send me a simple hello and if I like what I see in your profile I will reply. You can send me a message that is funny and catchy and if you are not to my liking that won't make me reply to you. I am going on a second date tonight with someone that sent me 'hello' as a first message. After I replied I discovered a very articulate, chatty, funny and witty guy. The first message is not that important. 1
Anela Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 But women don't send messages though. They simply wait for the offers to come in and pick the best one. Tough life. Right. Except that I have sent plenty of messages of my own, and so have others that I know. You aren't paying attention, and that's a problem for a lot of men who aren't doing well with any women, anywhere. You are looking at the world through blinkers. You won't connect with a woman that way.
venusishername Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 (edited) Talking about "First" messages: The messages I LIKE and will tend to respond to (if I'm interested in the guy) refer to something I wrote in my profile, or will ask a specific question, pay a specific compliment, funny, etc. Someone who takes the time to write a short paragraph is always a candidate. I like the ones that start with "Wow, you sound great! Or your beauty is breathtaking, I'd really like to get to know you, etc. Here are the ones that get deleted: You're too hot to be singleWhy up so late?Hey/hi/what's up (period)How come you haven't met someone in real life?Crude sexual comments and propositionsI actually had someone message me twice before being blocked trying to pimp (yes, pimp) his roommateOveruse of "LOL" and poor spelling (just my thing)You're not being very responsive (BLOCK) Edited March 20, 2015 by venusishername
hudson701 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Right. Except that I have sent plenty of messages of my own, and so have others that I know. You aren't paying attention, and that's a problem for a lot of men who aren't doing well with any women, anywhere. You are looking at the world through blinkers. You won't connect with a woman that way. Yes I have been paying attention. The problem with OLD is that it is a 24/7 validation portal for women who are constantly glued to their iPhones. They receive so much attention their ego becomes the size of the moon and often they think their SMV is a lot higher than what it actually is. It's only getting worse and worse... It will be the death of real life interaction as all women need to do is turn to their phone screen for that ego hit. Google the statistics on number of messages sent by men vs women. The founder of okcupid conducted an excellent, thorough study of online behaviour. Men chase. Women choose. It's how it goes. 1
somedude81 Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 You can send me a simple hello and if I like what I see in your profile I will reply. You can send me a message that is funny and catchy and if you are not to my liking that won't make me reply to you. I am going on a second date tonight with someone that sent me 'hello' as a first message. After I replied I discovered a very articulate, chatty, funny and witty guy. The first message is not that important. Real cool for being honest. That's how I think most women actually are. The first message doesn't matter at all. They just don't want to admit it. Or they might not be aware of it themselves what they actually reply to.
Anela Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Yes I have been paying attention. The problem with OLD is that it is a 24/7 validation portal for women who are constantly glued to their iPhones. They receive so much attention their ego becomes the size of the moon and often they think their SMV is a lot higher than what it actually is. It's only getting worse and worse... It will be the death of real life interaction as all women need to do is turn to their phone screen for that ego hit. Google the statistics on number of messages sent by men vs women. The founder of okcupid conducted an excellent, thorough study of online behaviour. Men chase. Women choose. It's how it goes. Except that you aren't listening to a woman right now: me. I've been there, done that, treated men like human beings, and dealt with being ignored by men, as well. You're putting all of the blame on the shoulders of women, when it doesn't belong there.
Anela Posted March 20, 2015 Posted March 20, 2015 Real cool for being honest. That's how I think most women actually are. The first message doesn't matter at all. They just don't want to admit it. Or they might not be aware of it themselves what they actually reply to. Except that one woman doesn't speak for us all, and you are only seeing honesty where you're in agreement with a woman. I didn't like opening my messages, and seeing, "hi" everywhere. Just "hi".
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