wantnotshould Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 So basically what the title says. I got a confirmation for "The clitoral truth" in my email. She purchased it using her card through my account. She had insecurities when it came to sex and I guess she wants to learn how to please a woman better. But COME ON. You are going to buy a book like that through you ex's account? I hadn't realized that I hadn't changed the account password, so I just did. I emailed her the confirmation and said umm.. I'm changing my account password. You will have to use your account from now on. Is she doing it to make me think about it? Obviously she did it consciously. My card is the account's main card. She had to add her card in, so it wasn't an "oops, didn't notice I was under your account deal." She's trying to get into my head isn't she? and she succeeded huh?
OneBigIdgit Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 yes. Sorry but I do think if it wasn't intentional at first, then she probably enjoyed your reaction
Author wantnotshould Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 She replied this: "Jesus you are being brutal. I never disrespected or treated you poorly to be treated like I was an *******. Okay that's fine " I honestly believe she is clueless as to how inappropriate that is.
Lorelai Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 She replied this: "Jesus you are being brutal. I never disrespected or treated you poorly to be treated like I was an *******. Okay that's fine " I honestly believe she is clueless as to how inappropriate that is. If all you said was what you admitted -- "um, I'm changing my password, you're going to have to use your account from now on" that's a wee bit of overreaction. Because it's terribly brutal to expect someone to use their own Amazon account instead of yours. Just horrible. Really.
NC-Thomas Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 LOL. Next time she messages you, tell her thanks for the book and I will use the knowledge on the next girl I will meet. No, kidding, go NC, I think she just wants to get a response and **** with your mind. Don't give her the pleasure of it. Give her nothing but silence and emptyness. Thats the best revenge >
darkmoon Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 if i did that to a guy it would be a deliberate come on
Author wantnotshould Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 (edited) Lorelai: I think she's referring to that and the NC (2-3 weeks). I have only contacted her for the stuff she needs to pick up from my apartment, and for this now. I think in her mind, she would break up with me and then we would be friends. She would have all the benefits of having me in her life and also get to date and bang others. We ended on good terms, but I was devastated. I was already dealing with a blood clot, anxiety and depression when she dumped me. So it was a rollercoaster. There's no way I could be her friend so soon. And at this rate, I'm starting to reconsider this friendship deal. What is going through her head? I swear it's like I don't even know her anymore. NC-Thomas: The books are headed to her house unfortunately. Darkmoon: What do you mean "a deliberate come on"? Edited March 19, 2015 by wantnotshould wording
Author wantnotshould Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Oh, and she had bought a shirt through my groupon account. I cancelled it and emailed her the same thing. "You used my account, I'm canceling the order. Please use your account." That could be the other thing. Why is she using my accounts? Is she trying to log into all my accounts?
lop98 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 well that's crazy and of course she's doing it with the only purpose of giving you a hard time and making sure your way out isn't a clean or easy one. You shouldn't have contacted her to state the obvious, it will be evident you change the passwords when she's unable to log in. You gave her the attention she wanted. Now change your passwords everywhere else, block her emails and carry on. I have to say though, I respect her originality... this is a good one, resentful but still hilarious.
mightycpa Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 She replied this: "Jesus you are being brutal. I never disrespected or treated you poorly to be treated like I was an *******. Okay that's fine " I honestly believe she is clueless as to how inappropriate that is. I had the same thought as darkmoon at first. I thought maybe she bought that to see if you'd react playfully, and flirt with her. But then I started thinking. She is clueless, and collects "friends" in real life just like you might on Facebook. She can't abide the thought that you don't want anything to do with her, and she's shameless and without boundaries. She takes some pride in this somehow, and you're getting in the way of her pride. I had an ex like that, but the breakup was reversed in a way. I cheated on her all the time, and one day she found the pictures in the fraternity historian's picture album. So she dumped me, and rightfully so. Then I spent the next four years avoiding being her friend, before she got enough disrespect from me so that even she would get the message. Can you friggin' imagine? Yours is a lot like that, I'm afraid.
Author wantnotshould Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 I don't think I'd go as far as saying she's collecting "friends" in real life. But I do think she is clueless as to how a break up works. She's never had her heart broken, therefore she has no idea why I need to detach from her. She hasn't fully grasped the concept of "I was still involve with you when we broke up" and you weren't. That's why it's so easy for you to think of going straight to friends, and why I need to separate completely from you. I do think she's shameless and without boundaries in that aspect like you said. She is just clueless. This is good though, because it's more reasons we wouldn't work out. It'll make it easier on me.
NopeNah Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Jesus! Not laughing at you, I'm laughing at her! Seriously? How dense is this chick?
PegNosePete Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Why is she using my accounts? Is she trying to log into all my accounts? Crazy people do crazy things. That is about the best reason you'll get I'm afraid! But more importantly, why do you give 2 short ships? You should simply change all passwords and ignore her. If she's doing it to get your goat then it's certainly working. So just prevent it from working by changing all your passwords, and forget about it.
Toodaloo Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 This is the baboon equivalent of shaking its red backside in your face and screaming you can't touch this... ... Now I want to dance like MC Hammer, but back on point. Change all passwords to all accounts. Go no contact so you don't see her shaking her hiney at you... if the stuff at your house is just clothes etc and they have been there for over 1 month throw them out. Grieve and understand that you will get over this and find love again.
Author wantnotshould Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Sycamore Circle: She's 23, I'm 24. NoLimit, PegNosePete, and Toodaloo: I went through all my accounts, at least the ones I remember and changed my passwords. So she won't be able to access them anymore. Toodaloo: I like your baboon analogy. It just seems incredibly childish if that's what she's doing. Anyways, the stuff she has in my apartment still is mostly objects. She took most of her clothes last week. She has fishing equipment, books, longboards, her 55 in TV, games, pictures, decorations, etc. A lot of crap. It should be gone by the end of this week. If it's not I'll give her friend the chance of picking it up and dropping it off. I don't feel good throwing it out, or selling it as it is not my stuff. I also made the mistake of asking her to allow me to "get better" before leaving my apartment empty. Rather than telling her to take it all back when she broke up with me. So I feel that it is partially my fault. I have been telling her to come pick it up for 2-3 weeks now.
Author wantnotshould Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 I don't want her back. Why does contact, even this type of idiotic contact still affect me?
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