thatdudewithlonghair Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Okay, i will try and make this as quick as possible. Me (21) and my ex girlfriend (20) dated for about a year and a half. I would consider our relationship a healthy one for the most part. We had out times like every couple does, but i was mostly happy throughout the entire relationship. However we got to a point where everyting seemed routine if you know what i mean. Whenever we would hang out i was always the same conversations with the same activities (i live in a decently small town so activites are pretty limited) i guess things got boring. On top of that, i could see that our relationship was headed down a slippery slope so i tried (probably to hard) to fix things before it was too late. I should also mention that she got pregnant towards the end of our relationship so we both had some very adult desicions to make together which put ALOT of stress on both of us Anyways, jumping to about 4 months ago, we were still techniclly dating but i could tell that she had already checked out and im sure she could tell that i was on my way too, but i wanted to make it work and i told her this through text because that was the only way that we communicated by the end. And i still to this day havent gotten a reply from that text nor have i sent her any other texts after that one. That was the last form of communication we had Shortly after that ordeal i was having a difficult time dealing with the rejection and i got tired of seeing her flirty comments and pics all over facebook so i deleted her. Not in hopes she would come running back, not in hopes of making her angry. I just didnt want to see that **** on my newsfeed. And it was shortly after this that i learned about her new boyfriend, which hurt even more, i assume they were talking before we broke up due to the fact that they were dating 3-4 weeks after we broke up. I should also mention that there was this cute girl that moved next door to me that seemed to have an interest in me, my ex knew this and i knew this but i assured her several times that she had nothing to worry about. I never did anything with her, i was faithful the entire time. Both of us had jealousy issues, but it was something that we were able to deal with. i never once cheated on her, and she tells me that she never once cheated on me. i still dont know if i believe that or not due to the incredibly fishy stories that ive been fed but i trusted her while we were together. So to summarize all of that, ive been NC for 4 months now and have no idea what she is up to, nor does she have any idea what im up to, I know that she is still with this boyfriend of hers but the dude looks like a goof and not really what i thought was someone she would ever go for. So he may be a rebound but maybe not. Maybe they're happily in love for all i know Ive been keeping myself busy. Im currently in trade school taking my second year carpentry course. I own my own home. Im putting lots of money in the bank and trying my hardest to keep myself occupied. I guess what im saying is im not moping around my house like a sad sack. Im trying to apply myself. But i still think about this girl every. single. day. Am i wasting my time? Should i atleast try to contact her? or is that something she should have to do if she so desires? is she waiting for me to reach out? Or should i just leave well enough alone?
Smokeshow Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I posted a thread about contacting my ex after a similiiar time frame, yours 4 months mine 5, I'm doing it because I don't care what type of response I get or if I get one at all. Are you in that position yourself mentally? If not then do not contact her.
NopeNah Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Yes you are wasting your time. If I could write a letter to the 21yr old me,my life would be so much different! Get out and enjoy the world! Work,plan for your future,save money,travel,sleep with beautiful women as often as possible,ect.. Get on with your life,bro!
Author thatdudewithlonghair Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 I posted a thread about contacting my ex after a similiiar time frame, yours 4 months mine 5, I'm doing it because I don't care what type of response I get or if I get one at all. Are you in that position yourself mentally? If not then do not contact her. I feel your situation is a little different seeing as your only looking to get laid :s 1
Smokeshow Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I feel your situation is a little different seeing as your only looking to get laid :s I think you're missing the point, I'm contacting my ex because I'm indifferent towards how she will respond. Your ex is with someone right now so by you contacting her while you still have romantic feelings for her will only set you back especially if you don't get the response you are looking for. If she wants to talk to you she will find a way, one way or another. Just trying to help you so that it doesn't set you back to square one 1
xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 I think you're missing the point, I'm contacting my ex because I'm indifferent towards how she will respond. Your ex is with someone right now so by you contacting her while you still have romantic feelings for her will only set you back especially if you don't get the response you are looking for. If she wants to talk to you she will find a way, one way or another. Just trying to help you so that it doesn't set you back to square one The highlighted. As a dumpee, you cannot contact the dumper because from her perspective you are still holding onto the past. If the dumper wants you, they will find a way to contact you. When my ex of 3 years broke up with me the first time around, he still managed to contact me through email after a month of NC. This time around he left me and got with another girl. I don't expect him to come back any time soon, but if he were to come back, he has my cell, my house number, my email, and he also knows where I live. Even if I still sometimes miss him, it's not my place to beg him back. If he wanted me, he would go through the ends of the world for me.
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