bobbyt Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Started talking to a guy online, swapping numbers and arranging a date within a week. Went on the date (my first ever) got a little flirty towards the end, i.e playfully pushing each other and making playful digs, but he took me home after 2 hours and didn't "make a move" i messaged him saying thanks, he responded "no kiss!" ended up turning around and coming back for me (things did get a little handsy). He then had to go abroad for a business trip for a week, still messaged me but only to moan about work. And there was also sexting. He seems to only respond when it is about him or sex. He does actually ask how I am every so often. He also told me I looked stunning in a new picture. We arranged date two but he cancelled the night before due to being ill. We hadnt actually arranged a time to meet and he didn't message back until i had prompted him twice telling me he was ill (we had been discussing the date that morning). He has now told me that he is going away again for work in a few weeks (this time 6 weeks). He said "if you want us to carry on that is fine". I asked what it was he actually wants from this and he said he is going with the flow. Still seems really bothered about sex. I actually like this guy and obviously he likes me in some way. However, he fails to text back when it shows he has read a message and been online numerous times since. Am I going to end up getting hurt? I am worried this is one sided and he says what he thinks I want to hear. I have a habit of panicking, putting my guard up and backing off in these situations and don't want to do that if this is down to me!
Vintage79 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I'd pass on him and try to see other people - he seems principally interested in sex and not that interested in you. When he gets back if you're not seeing someone else, by all means, see him again if you're interested, but just be cognizant of his likely intentions...in particular because it doesn't sound like you've really dated before. 1
Author bobbyt Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 I was in a 3 year relationship but just been enjoying single life. The relationship I was in just happened, we didn't date first.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Just to clarify, when you say your first date ever, you mean your first online date right? The reason why I ask is because it would be pretty weird to be old enough to date a guy that goes abroad for business trips and to never have had a date before.
Author bobbyt Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 First online date, and actual date lol he is same age as me. Just done rather well for himself lol.
Author bobbyt Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 As I said, I was in a 3 year relationship but just fell into it. Basically, that started as just "fun" I am rubbish with picking up on signs from guys and backed away because I didn't want a relationship.
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