Going from a lady to an easy woman because of tattoo/piercing?

March 18, 2015

Dear forum members,

I am just wondering what the general consensus on this is, especially among the male members here

Does having a tattoo and/or a piercing make a woman look "easy" or even "trashy"? Let's say that you get to know her, you think she's a lady, but when you find out she has a tattoo, does that make her less ladylike/decent/respectable?

Background story: Because I always have to wear dresses and suits at work, I have been perceived by colleagues and supervisors as a kind of Jackie Kennedy-esqe woman (or so I have been told). Respectable, decent, ladylike, well-mannered (being a protocol officer helps ), whatever. But when we went on a teambuilding holiday recently and they all saw my tattoo and a belly button piercing, they seemed extremely surprised...in a "ladies are not supposed to have tattoos/piercings" kind of way...and that they find it very sexy, but "too sexy for a lady like me." What is this about?! Are we just a bunch of prudes that happen to work together or do men really feel this way?

(side note: I have just a simple piercing, nothing dangling or too big and the tattoo is similar to this: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/c5/b1/4e/c5b14e1904bd42025b2c975682f98a3a.jpg

March 18, 2015

One of my company's directors is a beautiful woman, she has her forearm almost closed in tattoos, something close to this: http://www.mociarane.com/images/girl-face-rose-vine-tattoo-forearm.jpg

She also has a nose piercing like this: http://piercingidea.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/pretty-girls-with-nose-rings.jpg

Does this make her look slutty/easy? No.

Does it make her look less serious? No.

Does it define who she is? No.

Anyone who judges a person by their looks like this should be put in a fire..

March 18, 2015

I think we would all like to think that tattoos are no indication of a person's personality or life style and yes, tattoos are now very common.

BUT perceptions linger, and as many businesses rely on appearances, then anyone who assumes their tattoos will be embraced by all employers is in for a big shock.

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March 18, 2015

I've wanted a tattoo for almost 3 years but to this day couldn't figure out what picture I want on my body forever. Besides, it'd have to be on a real well-hidden spot anyway; it's hard to get a spot at university to study medicine as it is, and being tattooed won't improve my chances. Same counts for colorized hair; I'd love a bit of purple in my hair but refuse to threaten my career chances, so I'll stay brunette.

March 18, 2015

A lot of times women who do this sort of thing are at least partially seeking more attention. Women hungry for attention are often motivated to do other things to get or maintain attention. Some men find this sexy.

March 18, 2015

Tatted man here.

I don't mind a woman with tats at all. I don't think it makes them look easy or anything.

......Now if you have a tramp stamp, then we'll have to talk.

I kid.

You're fine. Tattoos are a visual expression of self. Besides if anyone thinks you're easy, they're not worth keeping around anyway.

March 18, 2015

I'm a tatted guy, and my GF has tats. I personally love tats on women and I think it's super hot.

People who matter don't mind, and people who mind don't matter.

March 18, 2015

The difference between people who have tattoos, and people who don't have tattoos, is that the people who HAVE tattoos really couldn't give a rat's behind if you DON'T have tattoos.

It;s a one-way prejudice, and reveals the small, petty-minded, narrow viewed people at a stroke.

I work for an extremely well-known High-street store, in the UK. (M&S).

Very well-known.

World famous, I would say. Branches internationally, too.

They have a matchless reputation, and working for them has already opened doors for me, and I'm just a sales assistant.

There are some members of staff on all levels have tattoos.

The manager has a tattoo. (it's a woman).

The guy who deals with the warehouse and delivery schedules, also has tattoos.

At least 5 of my floor colleagues (including my supervisor) have tattoos.

Our Area manager (male) has tattoos.

I honestly think you really need not worry too much about the pre-conceived ideas others have.

Remember, those who have, don't care. Those who haven't, probably have vices you'd really rather not know about anyway!

March 18, 2015

Next time the company sets up some outside of work event, dress appropriately.

Don't think you can get casual, relaxed, etc with people you work with. While lets say an even with alcohol and/or dancing doesn't mean you can do twerk and/or come dressed like Miley while you kick back a few cold ones.

Also, better to keep your "friendships" outside of people you work with.

Now, I have many tatts and piercings. What would have offended me is not the tatts/piercings, but how you dressed. At a couple of places I've worked at, some people come showing a tatt or two. One time I had a meeting with an ex-military attorney who wore one of those cheesy short-sleeved business shirts - which showed his tatts. I didn't have an issue with him (even though I hated those attys I had to battle with), but I lost respect for how he came to my office with a client dressed like that.

Some business are specific. If you have tatts, better cover them up with make-up, bandaids, or something.

I hate how tattoos have become so mainstream now a days. Lots of losers/posers think if they have one or two they instantly become cool. I also hate the people who don't have the body for it. Yes, that butterfly on your kankle just changed you into a hottie

But, I'm also glad how tattoos are no longer related to sailors, freaks, and people with issues.

I don't know why I got tattoos. My 6 yr guy had a couple and I thought they looked cool on him. Plus, I do enjoy the needle being dragged across my skin to relieve anxiety/stress. But, I'm not overboard with either tatts or piercings. I like the one on my nose. The one on my belly is an incentive for me to keep it trim, sexy, and flat. I can't stand eyebrow piercings and some other over the top/tacky stuff.

BTW, I didn't even know the giant one on my lower back was considered a "tramp stamp" and I got it waay before seeing "The Girl With a Dragon Tattoo".

March 18, 2015

Next time the company sets up some outside of work event, dress appropriately.

Don't think you can get casual, relaxed, etc with people you work with. While lets say an even with alcohol and/or dancing doesn't mean you can do twerk and/or come dressed like Miley while you kick back a few cold ones.

Also, better to keep your "friendships" outside of people you work with.

Now, I have many tatts and piercings. What would have offended me is not the tatts/piercings, but how you dressed. At a couple of places I've worked at, some people come showing a tatt or two. One time I had a meeting with an ex-military attorney who wore one of those cheesy short-sleeved business shirts - which showed his tatts. I didn't have an issue with him (even though I hated those attys I had to battle with), but I lost respect for how he came to my office with a client dressed like that.

Some business are specific. If you have tatts, better cover them up with make-up, bandaids, or something.

I hate how tattoos have become so mainstream now a days. Lots of losers/posers think if they have one or two they instantly become cool. I also hate the people who don't have the body for it. Yes, that butterfly on your kankle just changed you into a hottie

But, I'm also glad how tattoos are no longer related to sailors, freaks, and people with issues.

I don't know why I got tattoos. My 6 yr guy had a couple and I thought they looked cool on him. Plus, I do enjoy the needle being dragged across my skin to relieve anxiety/stress. But, I'm not overboard with either tatts or piercings. I like the one on my nose. The one on my belly is an incentive for me to keep it trim, sexy, and flat. I can't stand eyebrow piercings and some other over the top/tacky stuff.

BTW, I didn't even know the giant one on my lower back was considered a "tramp stamp" and I got it waay before seeing "The Girl With a Dragon Tattoo".

Well, nowhere did I say I dressed inappropriately/like Miley Cyrus...we had a couple of teambuilding activities on the beach, beach volleyball, etc., so obviously, I wore a swimsuit sometimes. That's how they got to see my tattoo. At work, I can never wear anything backless, so they haven't seen it before (my office is so conservative that we must even wear stockings in summer).

I was more referring to their reactions, i.e. that they seemed to think a tattoo was irreconcilable with an image of a lady (which I don't really understand). I don't see why a simple tattoo should mean that a woman is less "ladylike"/more on the easy side and I was wondering if this is true in general or just what the opinions are on this.

March 18, 2015

Dear forum members,

I am just wondering what the general consensus on this is, especially among the male members here

Does having a tattoo and/or a piercing make a woman look "easy" or even "trashy"? Let's say that you get to know her, you think she's a lady, but when you find out she has a tattoo, does that make her less ladylike/decent/respectable?

Background story: Because I always have to wear dresses and suits at work, I have been perceived by colleagues and supervisors as a kind of Jackie Kennedy-esqe woman (or so I have been told). Respectable, decent, ladylike, well-mannered (being a protocol officer helps ), whatever. But when we went on a teambuilding holiday recently and they all saw my tattoo and a belly button piercing, they seemed extremely surprised...in a "ladies are not supposed to have tattoos/piercings" kind of way...and that they find it very sexy, but "too sexy for a lady like me." What is this about?! Are we just a bunch of prudes that happen to work together or do men really feel this way?

(side note: I have just a simple piercing, nothing dangling or too big and the tattoo is similar to this: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/c5/b1/4e/c5b14e1904bd42025b2c975682f98a3a.jpg

The societal concern probably has little or nothing to do with the mere having of a tattoo.

Society is far, far more concerned with knowing one is the sort of person who would make the choice to get a prominent tattoo. (if you have one deeply hidden, like, perhaps, below the belt, but not too far, that's a different story)

(if we were all cows, and each had a brand burned into their flesh with no choice in the matter, nobody would give a darn, and we probably wouldn't hold it against one another unless a certain brand represented a lower class group/gang)

And look at Mike Tyson as a unique example... everyone knew, with clarity, that he was a bad person and he only later made the choice that was to have a tattoo emblazoned right on his face!

Of course that doesn't mean everybody who opts for prominent tattoos is a bad person, but do you really want someone who makes such choices making business decisions where you work, or at the company you own?

It's a risk... just like most risks... and the uncertainty amid the calculations is astronomical!

And I think the reaction you experienced was that of people first creating images/impressions and then finding out that their images/impressions were not accurate... which is something that can really do a number on people.

March 18, 2015

I hate how tattoos have become so mainstream now a days.
Lots of losers/posers think if they have one or two they instantly become cool.
Yes, that butterfly on your ankle just changed you into a hottie
I'm also glad how tattoos are no longer related to sailors, freaks, and people with issues.
I don't know why I got tattoos.
I do enjoy the needle being dragged across my skin to relieve anxiety/stress.
I can't stand eyebrow piercings and some other over the top/tacky stuff.

These ^^^ comments are from someone who does have tattoos!

If I knew a Jackie-esqe woman and learned she she has tattoos, I'd just think, well, so much for that impression... this lady is one of those who feels that pictures on her body will make life better somehow, and she felt it strongly enough about it to override the inhibitions that keep most people from flipping through the catalog and saying, oh what the hell- I'll take the one on the bottom left of page 246.

Personally, I don't even put bumper stickers on my car. I do think the graphic Tee's on Big Bang Theory are pretty cool though.

It's your body so you can do with it as you please, but you knew before you got a tattoo that it would appeal to some and have the opposite effect on others. Whatever makes you happy.

March 18, 2015

Well, nowhere did I say I dressed inappropriately/like Miley Cyrus...we had a couple of teambuilding activities on the beach, beach volleyball, etc., so obviously, I wore a swimsuit sometimes. That's how they got to see my tattoo. At work, I can never wear anything backless, so they haven't seen it before (my office is so conservative that we must even wear stockings in summer).

I was more referring to their reactions, i.e. that they seemed to think a tattoo was irreconcilable with an image of a lady (which I don't really understand). I don't see why a simple tattoo should mean that a woman is less "ladylike"/more on the easy side and I was wondering if this is true in general or just what the opinions are on this.

I didn't say you pulled a Miley...maybe that was an extreme example.

Ok, I get it - swimsuit event. But even then, you could have worn something over it. Venus.com has a lot of like oversized T-s/dresses out of sheer cloth that are stylish and can cover up a bathing suit. I have a few of them.

In the military, we had water PT. Well, the other female, who was caught cheating on her husband, was ugly, and had the body of a boy before puberty, came in her itty-bitty two-piece. I wore a bathing suit, but wore one of the brown T-shirts the military issues to us over it. Get my drift?

About their reactions? I can't say if they were offended at the tatts/piercings or you showing them. Again, my opinion, is that I would have been offended that at an office function (even outside of the office per se), you wore something that showed them. I feel the same way at my current and past workplaces. There's people who come to an office setting and you can clearly see their tatts. I wear a lot of long sleeves and turtlenecks.

March 19, 2015

I have 4 tattoos, all hidden from view, so nobody knows I have them.

However, I have been judged harshly for them (been told they'restupid, trashy, etc.), and because of this keep their existence hidden from others. Nobody needs to know that I have them and nobody needs to see them.

March 19, 2015

I have 4 tattoos, all hidden from view, so nobody knows I have them.

However, I have been judged harshly for them (been told they're stupid, trashy, etc.), and because of this keep their existence hidden from others. Nobody needs to know that I have them and nobody needs to see them.

(sound of me hurriedly taking notes...)

(... and opening up a world of the unknown, with so many long-sought answers likely hidden in the darkness and mystery)

March 19, 2015

I do not like tattoos on men or women and it would be a deal breaker. Yes, people do judge others by tattoos. I do not judge, but it looks trashy to me, even if the person is not trashy. I do not think the person is trashy because they have them, but it looks low class.

March 19, 2015

Honestly I don't like tattoos on women. In most circumstances it makes the woman look trashy. It just comes across as something that the woman is doing because she thinks it was cool or all her friends are doing it. Tramp stamps and God forbid, tattoos on the breast

The major exception for tattoos on a woman are the ones that have an actual special meaning to her. It should also be in a tasteful location. The main reason why I don't have any tattoos is that I can't think of anything that it is so important to me that I would want it to be permanently on my body. For the record, both of my parents have a tattoo. My mom has the first initial of my name, her name and my brothers name, which actually spell out T.N.T. My dad has a tattoo of Curious George on a bicycle with his arms in the air. My dad is an amateur bike racer and his name should be easy to guess

As for piercings, ears only. Maybe a navel piercing or very small nose stud. Any part of the face, nipples, clitoral hood etc. big fat NOPE.

March 19, 2015

To answer the question, there have been studies the supported the premise that people think women with a lot of tattoos were more promiscuous and 'easy'.

I wouldn't worry about your co workers, especially if you've been working there for a while. I'm sure they'll get over it.

I am lucky to be working in an environment that is tattoo friendly. As far as people judging me negatively, well, I have a full sleeve tattoo, a nose ring, red hair, I lift and play roller derby.

I guess I can't really blame people for thinking I'm some kind of freak lol

March 19, 2015

To answer the question, there have been studies the supported the premise that people think women with a lot of tattoos were more promiscuous and 'easy'.

I wouldn't worry about your co workers, especially if you've been working there for a while. I'm sure they'll get over it.

I am lucky to be working in an environment that is tattoo friendly. As far as people judging me negatively, well, I have a full sleeve tattoo, a nose ring, red hair, I lift and play roller derby.
I guess I can't really blame people for thinking I'm some kind of freak lol

You sound really cool, actually!

I agree. OP don't worry about your coworkers' views of tattoos. It's none of their business if you have visible tattoos. Prejudice will always exist, unfortunately. So, your best defense is a good offense (did I just use a sports term? Yikes!). If any of your coworkers make a snippy comment to you, turn it around into a compliment and that should hopefully diffuse the antagonists who like to ruffle feathers of those whose differences threaten their own insecurities.

March 19, 2015

To answer the question, there have been studies the supported the premise that people think women with a lot of tattoos were more promiscuous and 'easy'.

I wouldn't worry about your co workers, especially if you've been working there for a while. I'm sure they'll get over it.

I am lucky to be working in an environment that is tattoo friendly. As far as people judging me negatively, well, I have a full sleeve tattoo, a nose ring, red hair, I lift and play roller derby.
I guess I can't really blame people for thinking I'm some kind of freak lol

I think they look good and are fitting for certain occupations and hobbies. But, I would be shocked if I hired a lawyer and he showed up in court with a short sleeve dress shirt with two full sleeves of tattoos.

March 19, 2015

If someone doesn't consider me to be a lady, I consider that a compliment. I associate the word with too many negative things.

If I see that someone has a tattoo, I consider them to be a free spirit. As in, they don't really care what others think of them. That's a good thing.

March 19, 2015

I don't assume anything when it comes to tattoos. You'd be surprised the type of people who have them. I don't judge either, I'm pretty neutral overall. Sometimes they look hot, other times meh.

I used to have a crush on a professional wrestler called Lita, and she had a massive shoulder tattoo. Since then, I've always kinda liked them on women.

March 19, 2015

For me it depends where and what of that will determine my perception.

March 19, 2015

Yes of course it makes an impression to most guys in general, it'll mean you're a bit more "wild" and outgoing to their interpretation...basically a woman with tats is more likely to be "open-minded" and liberal...as conservative Sally wouldn't dream of tarnishing her image.

Sally might not do anal....but tat girl probably most definitely does.

People judge, that's nothing new. But how you act, carry yourself, and your style can obviously make a big difference in perception.

With that being said, I'd expect men to be a bit more flirty and loose once they see your tats...at the very least it makes for conversation...however other guys might deem you an auto slut and not exactly relationship material. It just depends on the guy, his values, his own style, perception as well...but in general it'll have an impression on men indeed whether good or bad.

In Los Angeles I think you get a lot less cool points or rep as a rebel/artist as you used to, it's kind of just a hipster thing these days.

March 19, 2015

If I see that someone has a tattoo, I consider them to be a free spirit. As in, they don't really care what others think of them. That's a good thing.

Is that a good thing? Caring how one is perceived, the respect of one's fellow man, is a universal characteristic in societies... are you sure you thought that statement through?

I think people get tattoos for the opposite reason... because they do care how they are perceived. They believe that it will enhance their image in the eyes of certain people they relate to, at the cost of detracting in the eyes of others. They are effectively choosing the class to which they relate and wish to belong––an in-group/out-group expression. Interestingly, the emphasis always seems to be on whether or not one has a tattoo, and not the message or content itself.

Not that I'd call it definitive, but I found one research report relating to Differences in Personality. Attributions Toward Tattooed...

Edited March 19, 2015 by salparadise

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