HBK3317 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I just wanted to ask some questions to get an outsiders perspective on things. please answer if you can relate or give me some insight about how not to feel bad thinking about them... 1. Do you feel like your ex was the most beautiful girl you could ever be with? I mean my ex was very hot and beautiful and I just can't fathom about finding someone better or even remotely as beautiful as her... (Forgive me if I come across as a shallow person but it's something which prevents me from moving in big time) 2. Do you get worked up about thinking that she would be arm in arms with someone else? I know it shouldn't matter but this is something which drives me crazy. I know it's an inevitable eventuality but I can't move past it. 3. This will be very stupid but here goes nothing... Do you think about if she would be also missing you? I know she won't but still... 4. Do you feel you can't rather don't want to be in a relationship ever because you can't deal with this again? Well these are the queries which really burden me so if you can please help me realise that it's really over because my ****ing brain is working against me. Thanks
mightycpa Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I just wanted to ask some questions to get an outsiders perspective on things. please answer if you can relate or give me some insight about how not to feel bad thinking about them... 1. Do you feel like your ex was the most beautiful girl you could ever be with? I mean my ex was very hot and beautiful and I just can't fathom about finding someone better or even remotely as beautiful as her... (Forgive me if I come across as a shallow person but it's something which prevents me from moving in big time) 2. Do you get worked up about thinking that she would be arm in arms with someone else? I know it shouldn't matter but this is something which drives me crazy. I know it's an inevitable eventuality but I can't move past it. 3. This will be very stupid but here goes nothing... Do you think about if she would be also missing you? I know she won't but still... 4. Do you feel you can't rather don't want to be in a relationship ever because you can't deal with this again? Well these are the queries which really burden me so if you can please help me realise that it's really over because my ****ing brain is working against me. Thanks 1) Yes, although how likely is it that either of us went out with the most beautiful girl in the world? I mean, really? 2) It saddened and repulsed me. That's why I made myself think that whenever I thought about her. 3) All the time, right? Then I pictured her the way you described in #2, and it seemed much less likely that she was thinking about me. 4) Yes, but not because of that, but because I just wasn't interested. 1
BlackbirdSong Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 1. Yes 2. Yes 3. Yes 4. Yes I'm dying inside everyday. She's moved on with the new guy and doesn't care about me. It's killing me. 1
AIJ Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I just wanted to ask some questions to get an outsiders perspective on things. please answer if you can relate or give me some insight about how not to feel bad thinking about them... 1. Do you feel like your ex was the most beautiful girl you could ever be with? I mean my ex was very hot and beautiful and I just can't fathom about finding someone better or even remotely as beautiful as her... (Forgive me if I come across as a shallow person but it's something which prevents me from moving in big time) 2. Do you get worked up about thinking that she would be arm in arms with someone else? I know it shouldn't matter but this is something which drives me crazy. I know it's an inevitable eventuality but I can't move past it. 3. This will be very stupid but here goes nothing... Do you think about if she would be also missing you? I know she won't but still... 4. Do you feel you can't rather don't want to be in a relationship ever because you can't deal with this again? Well these are the queries which really burden me so if you can please help me realise that it's really over because my ****ing brain is working against me. Thanks 1 - yes. My ex was incredibly attractive. I doubt I'll ever be able to find someone as attractive as her again, but in all honesty I think I was being rather shallow when I entered a relationship with her and I'd much rather be with someone that isn't ridiculous attractive that is more compatible with me personality wise. So, this one doesn't really bother me much. 2 - I don't need to 'think', I've seen her in another boys arms already and at first it really, really angered me but then I thought, if she's capable of moving on so quickly and jumping at the first boy that comes along, she's not worth it at all. Don't really care anymore, can't see that one lasting too long anyhow, and even if it does, I won't know/care when it ends 3 - used to, she very clearly was missing me in some respects, stalking my Twitter and whatnot. However now I don't really care what she's doing, how she's feeling, who she's thinking about, it's none of my business anymore. 4 - erm right now it's a case of don't WANT to be in a relationship. Much happier being by myself, we'll see how things go when University comes around. Don't see the point starting something with someone at this point in my life when I'll be moving in a few months time and meeting LOTS of new people. However my ability to trust girls has taken a massive hit, so we'll see if it's a case of CAN'T rather than not wanting in the future. Time will tell. 1
Murtz Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I just wanted to ask some questions to get an outsiders perspective on things. please answer if you can relate or give me some insight about how not to feel bad thinking about them... 1. Do you feel like your ex was the most beautiful girl you could ever be with? I mean my ex was very hot and beautiful and I just can't fathom about finding someone better or even remotely as beautiful as her... (Forgive me if I come across as a shallow person but it's something which prevents me from moving in big time) 2. Do you get worked up about thinking that she would be arm in arms with someone else? I know it shouldn't matter but this is something which drives me crazy. I know it's an inevitable eventuality but I can't move past it. 3. This will be very stupid but here goes nothing... Do you think about if she would be also missing you? I know she won't but still... 4. Do you feel you can't rather don't want to be in a relationship ever because you can't deal with this again? Well these are the queries which really burden me so if you can please help me realise that it's really over because my ****ing brain is working against me. Thanks 1. I thought she was when I first met her. I look at her now and I don't know if it is because she is changed her style or if I am just over her, but she is no longer looking that grant. btw we broke up over a year ago. 2. I want her to be happy still. I would rather be arm in arm with someone she cares about than going around having one night stands. My ex took over a year for her to be comfortable with having sex when we were in a relationship, when she broke up she now has one night stands. It just who she was. 3. Not a stupid question. I think that all the time. Trust me, she misses you more than you think. Just because she left doesn't mean you weren't a big part of her life. She wanted you once before, so part of her still probably does, but more parts tell her no. 4. I feel like I don't want to deal with this again until I find THE 100% perfect women. We just need to have patience out there. 1
Author HBK3317 Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Thanks for the reply guys... It's comforting to know I am not the only one with these weird thoughts in mind... I hope the day when this passes comes soon.
HowMightI-live Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I just wanted to ask some questions to get an outsiders perspective on things. please answer if you can relate or give me some insight about how not to feel bad thinking about them... 1. Do you feel like your ex was the most beautiful girl you could ever be with? I mean my ex was very hot and beautiful and I just can't fathom about finding someone better or even remotely as beautiful as her... (Forgive me if I come across as a shallow person but it's something which prevents me from moving in big time) 2. Do you get worked up about thinking that she would be arm in arms with someone else? I know it shouldn't matter but this is something which drives me crazy. I know it's an inevitable eventuality but I can't move past it. 3. This will be very stupid but here goes nothing... Do you think about if she would be also missing you? I know she won't but still... 4. Do you feel you can't rather don't want to be in a relationship ever because you can't deal with this again? Well these are the queries which really burden me so if you can please help me realise that it's really over because my ****ing brain is working against me. Thanks 1 Yes 2 Yes 3 No ( I highly doubt that) 4 No (I'm looking forward to loving someone again)
gnick Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I don't think my ex was the most beautiful but she was very cute and just had something about her I loved.my ex wife was physically perfect and a pro all natural body builder but I would pick my ex girlfriend every time
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