confusedlamb Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 this is my first post but Ive lurked for a while and you guys seem to give good advice. I'll apologize beforehand. My dilemma is basically Ive been wanting to be with this chick for 6 years and it finally happened last week. We made love. She was flirty after and texted me immediately after she left saying how she wants to see me again calling me "babe" "love" etc. And she started most conversations. And she is easily the prettiest girl I've been with. I went out of town for a wedding and for some reason she was under the assumption I was going to be out of town until I move all the while texting me how she misses me and stuff. Then a couple days ago she became a little distant and I was drunk and texted her the other night. I woke up to a triple text from her apologizing that she has been really busy and said "I want to see you before you leave love". I double texted her and said I was drunk and that Ive been back home and said "lets hangout tonight if you can." She texted me back just a one sentence response completely ignoring my question to hangout again then the conversation died down. My question is where should I go from here? Leave it alone or try again? And for a weird side note she texted the morning after we had sex and said she had a nightmare I had sex with her bestfriend. And I do have a lot of feelings for her. Cliffs: -wanted to be with this girl for 6 years finally did -texted me all the time and started most converations -thought I was out of town when I really wasnt -drunk texted her, woke up to a triple text from her -completely ignored my request to hangout that night
road Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Your writing is confusing. Are you moving away permanently? Did she not know you were moving away until after you hooked up? If that is the case then she is wise to see that long distance relationships do not work and decided to end things.
PinkCarnations Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 You need to tell us exactly what was texted... Otherwise its hard to figure out why she went cold.
Author confusedlamb Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Yes she knew I was moving away, it is permanent. I wasn't really looking for a long distance relationship. And I texted her "I understand if I dont see you before I leave to just take it for what it was. I leave this saturday and just didnt want to end on a weird note." There was a little more, I basically said sorry if I acted some type of way because I thought I came across as a bit of an *******. And she replied with like 3 paragraphs saying how she was sorry she's been busy and she really wants to see me before I leave.
Author confusedlamb Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 You need to tell us exactly what was texted... Otherwise its hard to figure out why she went cold. Don't know how this works for replies. But I forgot to mention that after she responded with the triple text I texted her basically that I leave Saturday and that I was a little drunk and over thought the whole situation. Then I had to double text to clarify I meant that I was leaving the state saturday because she was under the assumption that I meant I was coming back from out of town and not moving yet and I also said we should get together that night and she responded with a one sentence reply without mentioning my invitation to hangout.
wb1988 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Confusedlamb your writing is difficult to understand. Your use of "basically", "I came across as a bit of an" and "love" makes me think that you're a Brit. 1
Author confusedlamb Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Confusedlamb your writing is difficult to understand. Your use of "basically", "I came across as a bit of an" and "love" makes me think that you're a Brit. Haha I'm sorry I'm typing on a phone it makes it a little more difficult to write eloquently. I'll try and paraphrase. -This girl I've wanted to be with for 6 years finally came over but it's the week before I leave the state permanently. -at first she was constantly texting me always using nicknames to address me and always started conversations. -Ever since she thought I was going to be out of town she became distant which was about 4 days ago. -I got drunk the other night and texted her my "feelings" and how I didn't want to end on a weird note. -I woke up to 3 seperate texts from her apologizing and saying she really wants to see me before I leave. I then texted back about how I was drunk and that I just over thought the situation. -I then had to send another to clarify that I was no longer out of town and mentioned that we should hangout later that night. She then replied with a one sentence response without even mentioning me asking to hangout. I'm just really confused how it could go from so hot to cold, I feel I may have been a little to distant in the beginning or something. I feel like an a** hole.
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