Ally-65 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 It's been 3 weeks since the "final" break up and I am doing fine. I have spent alot of time focusing on all the "issues" that he had and firmly believing that I can do much better than him. The only catch is that we Work for the same Company. We very rarely see each other as he Works in another branch. However, every now and then he will be at my office, like yesterday when we had a personale meeting. I wasn't sure how I would handle seeing him, as it was the first time since the BU. I was nervous as I did not really know the best way to act. As it turned out I just completely ignored him. I was "normal" and friendly to everyone but I did not say a single Word to him, nor did I look at him. He was very obviously aware of this but now I am wondering if to continually ignore him is just too childish. I was very hurt and upset at the break up but is it just better to let him think that I am over him and fine about it all. Any thoughts ???
FancyFace Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 An act of self preservation is not immature. So silence to help you get over a breakup is perfectly normal. It would be very rich of him to think that after a breakup (especially if he was the one to break it off) you guys would be chums. Continue to maintain silence and NC until you get to a point where it isnt even a conscience decision anymore because you are so indifferent to any interaction had with him.
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 No, you're handling it just fine. Immature would be if you flicked bits of rolled up paper at him during the meeting. 2
mightycpa Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 It takes two to tango. He may be over you, or it may be difficult for him. You can't know without asking. If you feel this is awkward, then you could contact him, and be forthright so that he doesn't get his hopes up: Montague, it's no secret that I ignored you yesterday at the meeting. I felt very awkward, and I wasn't sure how to act around you as this is all very new to me. As I examine my emotions, I find that I'm no longer grieving the end of our relationship. I thought that maybe you feel the same way, and this avoidance is just silly. But maybe not, and you need more time. I don't want to ignore you just because, but if you need more time and space from me, then I understand exactly what you're going through and I won't make things more difficult for you. Here's my offer: if it doesn't bother you to see me, please come say hi next time we're in the same room. If you don't, then I will respect our boundaries and steer clear from you until you've changed your mind, no hard feelings. You look good, so whatever you're doing, keep it up! MatildaThere, see, isn't that nice?
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