coug90 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 PostQuestionsmyTake Should I text him (my ex) for closure? Long story short, my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. We didn't date very long but long enough for me to get attached fast. He was an excellent sweet talker and I fell for his illusion. I thought I was over him but I'm not. But the way he broke up with me leaves me pained and in the dark. We were fine up until one moment when I didn't give into what he wanted (I won't go into detail here but I'm sure you guys will understand.) But after I said no, he just vanished. Not a word since. Not even a break up text. Nothing. I've been wanting to text him for closure but it's been 2 months. And he'd probably think I'm pathetic. Am I not even worthy of at least a Break up text? Even that is low. I don't know what to do. I know he probably won't reply or has me blocked or if I texted him, he'd block me, I don't know.* We have known each other for years, even were friends before our relationship so that's what makes it difficult for me to forget and move on. It's hard to accept he's out of my life for good now even though I know it's probably for the best. I do know he's already on dating sites so maybe he needs constant attention and I do know he always had/has to have a girlfriend. I've blocked all communication social wise so I won't see what he's up to. But it's still difficult for me to move on. I don't know to text him or not I'm little experienced with relationships as well, so this has hit me way harder than him. I'm the last thing on his mind, since he basically dumped me. So yeah if anyone has any opinions on what I should do, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you. It bothers me too because I've seen his recent posts on Facebook and such and he's doing things alone. Like I guess he's happier single than being with me. I know I should move on and forget him but it's just difficult Was he using me to fill a void? I do know he recently broke up with his ex (idk how long before he randomly contacted me after 2 years of nothing to ask me "out)? Like who does this to someone, promising they'll never leave them and doing everything a normal boyfriend would do then just vanished after not getting what they want? He said he liked me for a long while too so....what the **** Have an opinion? Please share
lumberjac Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Silence explains a lot already, he wasnt truly into you, and yeh he was probably only after the sex, not a real relationship. I think you are doing great considering that was 2 months ago when this happened. Now think about it, you've been fine these 2 months without the closure from him, and 2 months is not a short time. So do you really need to contact him and make him tell you when he just vanished like that? chance is what he's going to tell you is not going to be pretty, and you'll just get upset by it. To me, why it happened doesn't matter, the important thing is what happened. He left you life, so does he really deserve for you to put in effort to contact him? its your call
Stercrazy Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I agree. You "say no" and this guy that you've known for years goes MIA? Without any communication? Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Who cares why he left without a word. Continue to be mindful of who you are and the fact that you deserve better....period. You will find someone more compatible.
Author coug90 Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Thank you for your opinions. I know he's basically an ******* and not worth my time but it still hurts. Like I'm almost over feeling sad daily but now I'm just irritated and hurt. He basically lied his way into my pants or what he wanted and didn't get so he bailed. It's immature and cowardly how I see it. Isn't this what high schoolers do? Just run away? I was so happy because I thought he was for real when he was only an illusion. I feel sorry for the next girl.
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