writergal Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Ok, I texted I'm just going to ask, are we ever gonna see each other again? Or are we destined to be friendly acquaintances? What do I have to lose? At least I'll know for sure. Not necessarily. What if he responds to your text with a vague answer? What action will you take then? Will you write him off, or continue letting him text you with no 3rd date on the schedule? Even if he texts you back something like, "yes, I'd like to go on a 3rd date with you..." but doesn't schedule it, then he's stringing you along. He needs to make the move. Or, you need to ask him out on the 3rd date and see if he says a direct "yes" or gives you a flakey answer that isn't a definitive "yes" or "no." This is why texting is such a nuisance with dating, and why using the phone for these types of convos is best. But then again, after 2 dates, if he left you hanging already for a 3rd date, isn't that an answer in itself that he's not interested in a 3rd date with you? I just don't have a good feeling about this guy's intentions. I hope I'm wrong though. Maybe one of the other guys that you are dating will yield a better outcome. 1
somedude81 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Ok, I texted I'm just going to ask, are we ever gonna see each other again? Or are we destined to be friendly acquaintances? What do I have to lose? At least I'll know for sure. Hmm, that was a serious text. I think it would have been a better idea to simply ask him out.
xxoo Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Your text was fine. I read it as silly. Good. You've brought up the topic of another date. If it doesn't very easily turn into making plans, take it as a no. It should be easy.
Author mstie Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 You guys were right. I got hopefully soon, I've been busy. When I was single all that time I was lonely but at least I had my sanity. Tempted to just delete his number 1
somedude81 Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 You guys were right. I got hopefully soon, I've been busy. When I was single all that time I was lonely but at least I had my sanity. Tempted to just delete his number Yeah, just delete the number. Nobody is too busy for two weeks to go on a date. If you ever find yourself in this situation again, I still think the best thing to do is to just ask him out yourself. Something like, "Hey, lets go see the new movie on Friday."
writergal Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 You guys were right. I got hopefully soon, I've been busy. When I was single all that time I was lonely but at least I had my sanity. Tempted to just delete his number Argh! See? He is stringing you along. What a lame response to your text. "Hopefully soon. I've been busy." Give...me...a...break. "I'm busy" is the oldest excuse in the book to avoid someone. Pfft. If he really wanted to see you again, he would have responded, "a 3rd date sounds great. Are you free [such and such date and time]?" With all the social media there is, he has no excuse not to know what his schedule is in advance. Please. Delete his number. Get back your sanity. A man who leaves you hanging is a man who should be hung. NEXT! 2
xxoo Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 You guys were right. I got hopefully soon, I've been busy. When I was single all that time I was lonely but at least I had my sanity. Tempted to just delete his number Yeah, he's not interested. Good to know. Waste no more thoughts on him
katiegrl Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Yeah, he's not interested. Good to know. Waste no more thoughts on him I agree but now you know and you can move on. Don't respond to him anymore. Disappear from his radar. I am glad you asked, and so should you be! Otherwise you could have been exchanging texts with him until hell freezes over.. Now you are free mentally and continue your search... 1
PegNosePete Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Yeah, he's not interested, delete him and move on. You lost nothing (including "dignity") by asking though, so good job. And at least now you're not sitting there wondering what's going on. 2
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