Aubade Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Hello! I didn't know where to post this and I went for Dating. I hope it's fine. I didn't go for Long Distance Relationships because there wasn't any relationship going on Anyway, I'll make it as short as possible so it's better for everybody. I'm a guy from Spain who is currently working in a hostel in Lisbon, Portugal. I met this girl from Finland, she spent a week here solo. The thing is we shared some words and everytime we met in the hostel we exchanged looks and smiles. The last day she left me a note thanking me for everything and wishing she could have kissed me. In the note it was also her adress at home and her name, in case I wanted to contact her on facebook. She left, and after a few minutes I decided What the hell, let's go for it! So I ran like a chicken with its head cut off and found her on the stairs of the metro for the airport. We kissed, exchanged some words and she left to take the plane back. I'm not idealizing anything, because I know very little of her. It's just this girl that I liked, and it's something that it doesn't happen to me often at all. Strangely, I care about her a lot, as if I had met her for a long time. Shoud I write her? Or should I leave it in the past as a good memory and not ruin it? She said that she would really like if I wrote her or if we could see each other again one day, but I don't know if those were just nice words of the moment. Thanks so much for reading! Edited March 18, 2015 by Aubade
writergal Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I think you should write to her. It's only a 3.5 hour plane ride between Finland and Spain, so you two could easily visit each other. What have you got to lose? Did she leave you her email address or just her street address? Do you have her phone number? If you do, then you should call her first. That would be sweet to call her.
Author Aubade Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 I think you should write to her. It's only a 3.5 hour plane ride between Finland and Spain, so you two could easily visit each other. What have you got to lose? Did she leave you her email address or just her street address? Do you have her phone number? If you do, then you should call her first. That would be sweet to call her. Thanks for replying so fast, writergal! And I really like your picture She wrote me just her full name and her street adress. I know I should have asked for other ways of contacting but at that moment I wasn't thinking straight And I checked the data base of the hostel and she didn't leave any e-mail contact. Yes, it's not much distance at all comparing to what could have been if she was from New Zealand but I don't really know if that's what she would be up to in the future, if let's say things went fine. Maybe I was just her "spanish guy I met while travelling and it was fun and that's it" and that would be perfectly fine. It's not a heartbreak or anything, and I could get over it easily. So I guess I'm fearing just rejection? Anyway thanks for your answer again, it's sweet. 1
writergal Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Send her a cute, flirty postcard to her street address. Include your email and the hostel's phone number. See if she emails you after that. *crosses fingers for you* What have you got to lose, but some postage stamp cost and the few minutes that it takes you to write the postcard to her. I love this. It's so old school. Ah, proof that romance isn't dead! 1
orangetree Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Contact her! You could talk for a bit on Facebook or by phone and you could visit her or she visits you. It's really not a long flight. I lived for 1.5 years in Barcelona when I studied my Master's degree. You being from Spain probably know it's the 'city of sin', meaning tons of drunk Erasmus students and broken relationships Then, one day, I met a guy in a bar, a mutual friend introduced us. Turned out he was from different country and also lived in that different country, even a different continent! I was quite disappointed because I really liked him from the first moment we started talking. We later kissed, and spend two wonderful days together until he had to go back to his own country. When he left I really thought that was it, I'll never see him again and it will remain a wonderful memory. Fast forward to now- We've been together for almost three years now, live together and plan on getting married. So yes, it IS possible 3
Author Aubade Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Contact her! You could talk for a bit on Facebook or by phone and you could visit her or she visits you. It's really not a long flight. I lived for 1.5 years in Barcelona when I studied my Master's degree. You being from Spain probably know it's the 'city of sin', meaning tons of drunk Erasmus students and broken relationships Then, one day, I met a guy in a bar, a mutual friend introduced us. Turned out he was from different country and also lived in that different country, even a different continent! I was quite disappointed because I really liked him from the first moment we started talking. We later kissed, and spend two wonderful days together until he had to go back to his own country. When he left I really thought that was it, I'll never see him again and it will remain a wonderful memory. Fast forward to now- We've been together for almost three years now, live together and plan on getting married. So yes, it IS possible That's wonderful I really like that you guys got together after all that distance ... It's fantastic. Thanks for giving me courage to write her because I haven't done it yet, I'm still a bit scared actually haha. Anyway, hoping the best for you two! :)
writergal Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 (edited) Aubade I had a little translation help (thank you Google), but I wanted to remind you that es mejor tener una oportunidad de vivir con pesar. And a love poem by Pablo Neruda to spur you on. Edited March 19, 2015 by writergal 1
Author Aubade Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Aubade I had a little translation help (thank you Google), but I wanted to remind you that es mejor tener una oportunidad de vivir con pesar. And a love poem by Pablo Neruda to spur you on. That's true! I think that if you have a chance, and you don't take it, no matter what happens next, then that regret must be hard to live with. Thanks for the push! 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 You fell for the beautiful blonde goddess didn't you? Don't even ask me about international lovers >.< …even just the thought of it is exhausting, maybe later I advise. *le sigh* 2
writergal Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 That's true! I think that if you have a chance, and you don't take it, no matter what happens next, then that regret must be hard to live with. Thanks for the push! Si! Si, senior! Que sería una locura no tener una oportunidad!! (Google translate ) You fell for the beautiful blonde goddess didn't you? Don't even ask me about international lovers >.< …even just the thought of it is exhausting, maybe later I advise. *le sigh* Ninja, you crack me up! Had your fair share of international affairs? Hmm? Do tell. *le curious*
Author Aubade Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 You fell for the beautiful blonde goddess didn't you? Don't even ask me about international lovers >.< …even just the thought of it is exhausting, maybe later I advise. *le sigh* Hahaha she wasn't blonde but I get what you mean I had some international experience in the past and it was good actually, but yes, complicated. So I want to give this a try, and as I don't even know what's going on her head probably she will reject me the first day or something and in the future I will have to laugh about it. But I would really love to hear your opinion about it one day, so please feel free to share it even if it's a short and exhausting one
Lostweekend Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Your story brought a huge smile to my face. The fact that she left that message for you like that obviously means that she liked you. The fact that you ran after her and kissed her was so romantic!! So far so good. You are both being honest and up front, no games! She could have just left, no note. You might just be sitting there now wishing you had some way of getting in touch with her. Good news is that you do have a way of contacting her! Ball is in your court. Wish you all the best of luck!! 1
Author Aubade Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 Hey people, it,s me again. I just wanted to make a quick update, if that's not too selfish from me. Well, in the end I sent her a postcard and got in touch with her online. We sent each other long messages about things we like, jokes and so on. It was really good, but since the start I got the feeling I was more interested on her than the other way. Actually, I sent her a message on thursday night, she read it and didn't reply. And the talk about meeting again never came up. So I think I rushed things and messed up, which is a shame because I really liked this girl. So I'm starting to move on and stop writing her. Do you think it's a good idea? Thanks for the replies and if you have something to add I will happily read it before closing this chapter/illusion.
DatingAdvise Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 The mistake you make is texting this girl way to long. Your Phone is for setting up definite dates! Period. If a girl senses you a more in to her then she is in you and u make no dates, she assumes you are gay or you dont have te confidence to ask her out, thats a turn-off. You are communicating friendship now.
Author Aubade Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 The mistake you make is texting this girl way to long. Your Phone is for setting up definite dates! Period. If a girl senses you a more in to her then she is in you and u make no dates, she assumes you are gay or you dont have te confidence to ask her out, thats a turn-off. You are communicating friendship now. You are right and I thank you for your advice for future dates haha. However, this girl lives in another country, so I couldn't ask her for a date, just talk to her and see if she was still interested (in that case I could visit her soon because I'm traveling around Europe from next month)
DatingAdvise Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 The best thing what you can do in this situation its make a Skype video date with her.
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