8th day of NC

[thorin]

This is the end of 8th day of NC, and a month of less contact. It was her who told she doesn't love me, and me who decided to break the contact. I'm feeling quite better than at the beginning, maybe thanks to LC earlier.

 

But the thing is, I understand her. She just doesn't feel the same as me, and I love her. She doesn't have anyone else, actually she's always been saying she doesn't really want relationships.

 

We used to meet everyday for a year, and aside of RS thing we became best friends. I broke it off because I didn't want to be in love, and look as she dates other guys and finally does something with someone.

 

So I am feeling not only that I lost a girlfriend and best friend, but also that she didn't do anything wrong, told me that honestly, and desperately wanted to remain friends, so we could still meet eachother and spend time together.

 

Bah, after the worst feelings softened a bit, I began feeling really...nostalgic? I don't cry after her already, and even often go out, meet other girls, actually I was kissing with 2 newly met girls during those 8 days (drunk, not proud of it), but I just really miss going out with her, her morning calls, texts, and I still think about breaking NC and keep lessened friendship with her.

[BlackbirdSong]

I'd keep NC. You're just setting yourself up for a slow, painful, heartbreak.

[privategal]

This is the end of 8th day of NC, and a month of less contact. It was her who told she doesn't love me, and me who decided to break the contact. I'm feeling quite better than at the beginning, maybe thanks to LC earlier.

 

But the thing is, I understand her. She just doesn't feel the same as me, and I love her. She doesn't have anyone else, actually she's always been saying she doesn't really want relationships.

 

We used to meet everyday for a year, and aside of RS thing we became best friends. I broke it off because I didn't want to be in love, and look as she dates other guys and finally does something with someone.

 

So I am feeling not only that I lost a girlfriend and best friend, but also that she didn't do anything wrong, told me that honestly, and desperately wanted to remain friends, so we could still meet eachother and spend time together.

 

Bah, after the worst feelings softened a bit, I began feeling really...nostalgic? I don't cry after her already, and even often go out, meet other girls, actually I was kissing with 2 newly met girls during those 8 days (drunk, not proud of it), but I just really miss going out with her, her morning calls, texts, and I still think about breaking NC and keep lessened friendship with her.

 

Trust me I went the friendship route after breakup and it was then many years of a friendship with unrequited love. It always hurt, was always looking at the constant calls, emails, texts like...see! He still loves me hes always in touch.

Fact was...it wasn't love it is for a dumper the best gift you can give them (your friendship) ad they then dont feel bad that they broke your heart , they still get your.attention and your involvement in their life and all your support and really you get nothing.

Its like being fired from a job you love but you still go and sit and your desk every day and help out. Day 8 will soon turn to day 18, then 80 and you will be so amazed you got there and you can breathe again, find yourself again, even smile again.

A warning around the 4 week mark is when many people break NC as this is when the most anxiety and fear starts to play tricks with your mind...stay strong...write here alot. You will be fine, I can tell. Keep going.

[HBK3317]

Fact was...it wasn't love it is for a dumper the best gift you can give them (your friendship) ad they then dont feel bad that they broke your heart , they still get your.attention and your involvement in their life and all your support and really you get nothing.

Its like being fired from a job you love but you still go and sit and your desk every day and help out.

 

This, right here, this is gold. Read this till you memorise it and go full on no contact. Trust us dude there's nothing but pain and heartbreak down the road you want to travel.

 

Just let go because right now you can no matter what she says or does. She had her chance and she blew it don't satisfy her ****ing ego by giving her your valued friendship.