NC and your success so far

[Mi7522]

I just wanted to let everyone know that NC is the best way to move on.

I have been in strict NC for just over 5 months now and things do get better.

My RS was fairly short approx 4 months but I became very close to her, her kids and her family. It was tough and still is tough but I am a much stronger person because of it.

I want to know how you are doing coping with NC and to try to give people on here some hope that things do get better. How long have you been strict NC and how are you dealing with it? Let's here some stories for motivation for the heartbroken

[erklat]

I'm in NC for over a year. A proper NC, from my end not one media

stalking, I even politely ask to change topics if someone mentions

her by accident.

 

It's a hard journey and only lately after year and a half are pieces of

my life starting to finally fall together and now I'm on a winning streak.

 

I'm moving now due to work. It was only last night that I remember that

on March 15th was year and a half from our breakup.

[FancyFace]

I have been NC for 4 months now. The first two months were absolute torture. I thought I was gonna die from a broken heart, either in my sleep or by taking a leap of a very tall building. It was only about halfway in the third month where I stopped having to fight myself to not stalk his social media.

 

I am so much better now. I still think about him everyday but its not every single waking moment that I do so. I can go for hours without thinking about him and when I do, its not from a place of love or longing. Just waiting for indifference to show up. Had I stayed in contact, I think I would still be at sqaure 1.

[Twigyy]

Week 3 of NC for me, and I guess I'm the lucky few who don't get breadcrumbs. It's getting better everyday, and missing her lesser now. Hope the future will be better. Stay strong everyone.

[FancyFace]

Twigyy, I did not get any breadcrumbs either.

 

One day I was with the man I thought was gonna make me his wife and the mother of his children, the next minute I was a virtual stranger to him, like I didnt even exist. I really struggled with how easily forgotten and replaced I was and to be very honest a part of me always will.

 

But like you said, we are lucky because we have been forced to just take the hit right to the jaw, get up and move on. Its a bittersweet blessing in disguise.

[Mi7522]

No breadcrumbs for me either. At first I thought there was something wrong with me because it seemed like everyone was getting them but now when I look back I'm happy she respected me enough not to do it so that I was able to move forward with my life.

[BlackbirdSong]

Zero breadcrumbs here either. Over 5 weeks into NC and I'm still dying inside. I'm still praying that she's going to contact me, but even if she does, I don't know what I would say. I'm still so hurt and crazy thoughts have been consuming me. I'm starting to truly believe that she really didn't love me and the past two years were a lie.

[Mi7522]

I think if the person who initiates the BU is emotionally mature then there is less of a chance you will see breadcrumbs from them, usually they know the consequences of their decisions and can live with them. Kind of sucks from our point of view but I respect them for not putting us through further pain

[CopingGal]

I've been NC for 2 and 1/3 years. I had gotten to a point where I almost stopped thinking about him everyday...where I was much better. But I got so lonely that about 3 months ago I slipped backwards and now I think about him all the day and the pain he caused. I'm just so very, very lonely. I haven't dated anyone since him. The only one I ever found that I really wanted to date after him turned out to be an alcoholic. I kicked him out of my life, just like I kicked my ex out of my life. Both of them were selfish, very dysfunctional, and engaged in non-stop lying, so I kicked them both to the curb.

Edited March 24, 2015 by CopingGal

[Jonp219]

Zero breadcrumbs here either. Over 5 weeks into NC and I'm still dying inside. I'm still praying that she's going to contact me, but even if she does, I don't know what I would say. I'm still so hurt and crazy thoughts have been consuming me. I'm starting to truly believe that she really didn't love me and the past two years were a lie.

 

I pray that mine will contact me too someday. If she does the first thing I will let her know is that I don't want to be friends. After that whatever happens, happens.

[LYNNLH]

I just wanted to let everyone know that NC is the best way to move on.

I have been in strict NC for just over 5 months now and things do get better.

My RS was fairly short approx 4 months but I became very close to her, her kids and her family. It was tough and still is tough but I am a much stronger person because of it.

I want to know how you are doing coping with NC and to try to give people on here some hope that things do get better. How long have you been strict NC and how are you dealing with it? Let's here some stories for motivation for the heartbroken

 

Exactly a month NC to date. More than 2 months post BU. Getting better but having some setbacks today..probably because it is my birthday today. Feeling down...but..that said..

Things do get easier and better. I relish in the thought that I have built a shield around me and will never hear nor speak to this person ever again for the rest of my life...this is what keeps me going...