I cnt decide whether or not to ask a girl out I wrk with or if she is even interested

[mrmash]

Heres the deal, I work in retail and have been working there for about 1/2 months now like everyone else because the store has not long opened. In no time at all I started getting to know people and what not at work and started to this girl I now refer to as "N" I speak to her everytime she is in Friday/Saturday/Sunday and if I don't "initate" conversation she does. While I'm working I have noticed that when I'm not "blatenly" looking she is standing over where she is and looking at me. Now I'm not one to toot my own horn and I aint great looking or anything, I think the totally opposite I think Im downright ugly. I recently got into trouble at work because I'm spotted talking to her quite a large amount. I have spent numerous lunch's/dinners with her and she always asks me what time my dinner is and what not. Now I don't know if she is single or not, but I had the confidence on one dinner to ask her if she wanted to go out for a meal the week and she said that she wasnt sure what time because she was going out elsewhere but would let me know.

 

Im not sure if she forgot to tell me conveiniently or accidently but I personally forgot myself. Anyway she was going on holiday in a weeks time, but thats besides the point, anyway I had a long day at work and was going out for a drink after, I asked her if she wanted to go and she said she wanted to go home and get changed first. So I thought that was cool, anyway I myself thought that was a straight out no so I didnt bother going. I saw her the week after and again neither of us said anything because either she didnt want to bring it up, personally again I forgot.

 

She's gone on holiday now and has been for 1 week and will be back next week. Now I'm not sure what to do now, I like her alot, of which I know about her. Anyway I'm unsure of what I should do next, what course of action I should take next. Any advice you can give me would be great.

 

The Mash

[HoldOn]

Well, here's a girl's perspective.

 

If you want to go out with her, then you have to ask her in advance. She can't be expected to be ready to go out with you on a moment's notice. Ask her out for dinner or drinks a few days in advance, then you'll know if she is interested.

 

Also, how could not not know if she is single? You've talked to her a lot not to know this.

 

Anyway, I bet she is interested becuase she spends so much time with you, but she is looking for a real clue that you actually want to date her.

[BigB]

I agree, ask her to do something together with a few days advanced notice. If she blow's that off she's probably not interested.

 

You've never asked her if she has a boyfriend?

 

"Do you have a boyfriend?" works great as code for "I like you"

[mrmash]

cheers guys, I do not KNOW but I have had clues and hints if you follow me as to kowing that she doesn't of course the only thing thing that has through me off is one of my mates that I work with says she does because she was according to him "apparently" on the phone to him after work, cose she was askin g "what you doing now" " u going out 2nite" but I think thats bs as it is and he's just trying to throw me off for his own reasons.

[Shasta]

She could have just been talking to one of her girlfriends...dont think that just because she's asking someone what they are doing that it is a boyfriend. You just need to straight out ask her if she has a boyfriend or not, and if she says no just respond with "Well would you like to maybe go out and get something to drink (insert date here)?" If she is into you, she will want to go.