Vintage79 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Move on, let him live his life - you'll both be happier in the end. Edited March 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Agh Amy What you do is you go radio silence. You let him deal with his sh*t and you keep out of the way. Next time don't go sleeping with other womens boyfriends, even if they were yours first. That way only leads to the dark side and you getting a really bad name for yourself. Chin up chook, we all make mistakes every now and then but stay away from this one. The only contact you should have with him is to get those pics of you deleted. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 That's a very petty thing to do. If he had a GF and had sex with you, did you think it meant something more? Just because you had sex with him doesn't mean he's obligated to your wishes and desires. 1
Zahara Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I just want him back So, you want a cheater back, one that has the potential of using your nude pictures against you, one that used you for sex, one that doesn't love you anymore. USE YOUR BRAIN. THINK. Step out of your psychosis for just a few minutes. You're panicking and you fear it's ended. It's normal. But wanting someone back that has treated you like garbage? Stop the emotional dramatics. or I want revenge.. You can tell the girlfriend. Chances are he will butter her up and she will believe him. Chances are he will portray you to be the nutty girlfriend that can't let go. And she will go along with it. If you want a douchebag back, likely she's just as blinded as you are. And he could repay that revenge by using those naked photos. If at 18 you're tolerating this type of BS in your life, you're likely going to condition yourself to keep accepting more losers in your life. 3
kendahke Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Monday night I slept with my ex (who I still have feelings for) who has a girlfriend (who he left me for). We were texting for weeks but he hasn't text properly since I left that night, which is making me feel so used and mad that I just want to text the new girl and tell her everything. I have messages from him which prove his a cheater, but he also has naked pics of me which he could use against me, so what should I do I'm so confused I just want him back or I want revenge.. 1. She already knows he's a cheater because he was with you when he got with her. 2. He didn't use you. You attempted to sex him back into a relationship with you and it blew up in your face. 3. Just because he's not acting like he's in a relationship with you after he smashed it, you want to be mad? He's acting like he's been acting since he broke up with you: not in a relationship with you. You just let him smash, that's it. You need to leave him alone. Block him from all contact means and get on with your life. He can't possibly be the only man out there, but you also need to go through a period by yourself where you purge him from your consciousness--and clearly, that hasn't taken place or else you wouldn't be where you find yourself. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) The answer is plain to everyone except you. You got your heart broken. We have all been there. You don't like the answers we've given you: namely that your EX isn't worth being this upset over because he's a cheater & probably a user. True that doesn't dispel your pain but you need to start thinking with your head, not your heart or your nether regions because they aren't serving you well right now. Edited March 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3
preraph Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 The only way to feel better about this is to move on. You have to think of it like this: The man cheated on you, so he wasn't very nice to do that, and yet you want to hold on to someone who had no more respect for you or any love for you or he wouldn't have done that. A person who has any love for you doesn't want to make you feel bad, doesn't do things to make you feel bad intentionally. This is about you deciding you deserve better than this. The best revenge is usually visibly going out and living well, having fun with friends and moving on. Seriously, that's what no ex wants to see. So go do that and work on accepting that he wasn't good enough to want to hold onto. 1
Gary S Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Breakup drama. Baby-mama drama. The best revenge is to get it on with another man... that also gets you away from the ex and the other woman and avoids all the drama. It's good therapy. Time will heal also. Nothing will take your mind off the old flame like a new man can!
Redhead14 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Monday night I slept with my ex (who I still have feelings for) who has a girlfriend (who he left me for). We were texting for weeks but he hasn't text properly since I left that night, which is making me feel so used and mad that I just want to text the new girl and tell her everything. I have messages from him which prove his a cheater, but he also has naked pics of me which he could use against me, so what should I do I'm so confused I just want him back or I want revenge.. First of all, men don't use women, women allow themselves to be used. You slept with your ex, you are not in a position of power. He may have cheated on his girlfriend with you, but you slept with someone you know has a girlfriend. That makes you just as wrong as he is. Let this go. Do not contact or speak with him again. Delete his number from your phone and start allowing yourself to heal. You don't want him back, you want closure. That's not going to happen. And, don't let boyfriends take naked pictures of you. 3
William Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Moderation reminds all members of two things: 1. Most importantly, all members shall be treated with the utmost respect. 2. It is appropriate to report similar threads to moderation for review. It is not appropriate to form arguments or foment an inquisition based upon member's past posts. For more specific information on this policy, please see the sticky thread posted by a moderator in one of the forums this discussion took place in: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/325385-am-i-posting-right-forum-read-here-update-july-30-2013-a#post5090926 Hence, moderation cleaned things up a bit, merging the earlier threads without editing, consolidating discussion into one thread in BBU. Please continue the discussion here. If a thread move is appropriate, simply notify us and we'll review for that. Thanks! ETA, I usually give the benefit of the doubt regarding postings being formed while moderation is working but that generally is only for a few minutes after the timestamp of our directives. Edited March 18, 2015 by William Add link to policy
stillafool Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Monday night I slept with my ex (who I still have feelings for) who has a girlfriend.. We were texting for weeks but he hasn't text properly since I left that night, which is making me feel so used and mad that I just want to text the new girl and tell her everything. I have messages from him which prove his a cheater, but he also has naked pics of me which he could use against me, so what should I do I'm so confused I just want him back or I want revenge.. Don't be confused he just had sex with you and doesn't want anything more. You can tell his gf if you want to but all that is going to do is make him chase after her to get her back and blame you for destroying his relationship. They will get back together and you will still be confused. It's best to just let it go and start dating other guys. This is heartbreak 101 and most people go through this but you will be okay.
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