Amy77 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Okay so last night I met up with my ex, who now has a girlfriend - the girl he left me for. He left me 2 months ago and it broke my heart , drunk text him last week and 2 days ago he told me he is now in a relationship with the girl he left me for. Last night he text me and we secretly met up (had to climb through his bedroom window) and had sex. I then left as my friends were waiting for me downtown and had no idea where I was. As I left he said he would text me tommorow or that, and yet he still hasn't texted.. What should I do I don't want to get my heart broke all over again?
Diezel Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Maybe you should have thought about that before you snuck up into the bedroom of the man who left you with a woman he is still "currently with"? How about forget this guy and stop doing this to yourself? 7
Zahara Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 (edited) As I left he said he would text me tommorow or that, and yet he still hasn't texted.. What should I do I don't want to get my heart broke all over again? Your heart is in for another tear down. He left you for her and is seeing you on the quiet for sex. Jumping out of windows -- where is your self-respect? If anything he's just going to demote you to easy sex rather than promote you to girlfriend. Men don't find women that behave this way attractive, but dependent and weak. If he felt strongly for you, he would have never left you for someone else. Edited March 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 What were you thinking?!?! Seriously, what on earth were you hoping would happen by sneaking into his room and f*cking him? He BROKE YOUR HEART and you chose to lower yourself to HIS level and for what? Do you think he's become a better man since cheating and leaving you? Do you think he's going to be faithful to you as he's sneaking you in through the bedroom in the middle of the night while he still has another girlfriend? COME ON! You can't be this naive. 6
elaine567 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Okay so last night I met up with my ex, who now has a girlfriend - the girl he left me for. He left me 2 months ago and it broke my heart , drunk text him last week and 2 days ago he told me he is now in a relationship with the girl he left me for. Last night he text me and we secretly met up (had to climb through his bedroom window) and had sex. I then left as my friends were waiting for me downtown and had no idea where I was. As I left he said he would text me tommorow or that, and yet he still hasn't texted.. What should I do I don't want to get my heart broke all over again? From ex-gf you demoted yourself to booty call, well done. Get some self respect and block him out of your life. 6
Author Amy77 Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 I'm never usually so stupid and I know how bad it seems when written down like that above, but I'm 18 and literally he was the first person I ever properly loved, I have so much feelings for him that no one else can fill.. I just guess if he's thinking about me it's better than him not thinking about me, as long as I meet him he will continue to think of me so maybe we will get back together?
stillafool Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Wow, what a great way to award him for the sh-t storm he took you through. You do know he is not going to leave her to come back to you don't you? Why, he can still be in a relationship with her while you will crawl through a window to still give him sex with him. He must be the only man in your town. 2
Diezel Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I'm never usually so stupid and I know how bad it seems when written down like that above, but I'm 18 and literally he was the first person I ever properly loved, I have so much feelings for him that no one else can fill.. I just guess if he's thinking about me it's better than him not thinking about me, as long as I meet him he will continue to think of me so maybe we will get back together? Literally, almost anyone can fill those feelings for you better than he can. Even a rock.
BlackbirdSong Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 What you don't understand Amy is that if you used no contact and ignored him, he would come crawling back to you through YOUR window. Guys can't stand when girls ignore them, even if they act like hardasses up front saying they don't care. He would have come back to you eventually. His rebound relationship will eventually end and you would have had the power to determine whether or not you wanted to take HIM back. You still may be able to do that down the line, but your actions right now just give him the "cake and eat it too" power. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Think of last night as your goodbye F*ck. He cheated on you. Now he's cheating with you. First love or not, he's a cad. The minute you are sneaking it's a problem. If you can't both walk through the front door in broad daylight together, there is no point. 1
elaine567 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 By sleeping with you whilst he has a gf, shows you he is a cheater, and that is not the type of man you want long term as you could never trust him to be true to you. If he can sleep with you when he has a gf, he can sleep with others while he is with you. As you slept with him knowing he has a gf, he will never trust you again either as he now knows you are capable of sleeping with an attached man behind his gfs back. 2
organizedchaos Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Okay so last night I met up with my ex, who now has a girlfriend - the girl he left me for. He left me 2 months ago and it broke my heart , drunk text him last week and 2 days ago he told me he is now in a relationship with the girl he left me for. Last night he text me and we secretly met up (had to climb through his bedroom window) and had sex. I then left as my friends were waiting for me downtown and had no idea where I was. As I left he said he would text me tommorow or that, and yet he still hasn't texted.. What should I do I don't want to get my heart broke all over again? You've already crossed that line and it shouldn't take a bunch of strangers on the internet to tell you so.
girl-in-boots Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 OP You're 18. You're going to get your heart broken, you're going to break someone else's heart maybe unintentionally maybe without giving a damn. You're going to make mistakes and you're going to do things perfectly. You're 18. I can promise you that you will get over it and will move on and in 20 years you'll tell the embarrassing story about how you snook into some blokes window had sex and then snook out in the middle of the night. Hell it may even be a drunken confession to one of your friends who was waiting for you that night. My point is you're 18 life is about doing things and sometimes hoping for a miracle. Don't beat yourself up about it. All hope isn't lost. You're not condemned to a life of just being a guys booty call. You will find another love although you will always remember your first love but as I said you will get your heart broken maybe not by this boy again but by another. When it happens then just breathe, feel the pain, cry the tears and then like billions before you, pick yourself up when you're ready and move on. 1
Zahara Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I'm never usually so stupid and I know how bad it seems when written down like that above, but I'm 18 and literally he was the first person I ever properly loved, I have so much feelings for him that no one else can fill.. I just guess if he's thinking about me it's better than him not thinking about me, as long as I meet him he will continue to think of me so maybe we will get back together? You're 18. Life doesn't end with this one assclown. And love isn't enough when it comes at the expense of your self-respect and dignity. Yes, he's thinking of sex with you, that's about it. Aim higher. Stop lowering yourself to such extents. 1
Lorelai Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Last night he text me and we secretly met up (had to climb through his bedroom window) and had sex. Always remember -- if a person will cheat with you, they will cheat on you. No one ever wants to believe that. We like to think that they really didn't care about the person they're with in comparison to their feelings for you, and so they'll treat us differently. but it's just not the way it works. If I was in your shoes, I'd tell his new GF about it. It won't necessarily mean that they'l split up or anything, as people don't like to believe bad things about someone they love. But she deserves to know he's a cheater (even if she doesn't believe you) and you deserve to know if they've been using protection -- because there are worse things you can get from this situation than a broken heart. Like AIDS.
mightycpa Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I was that guy a long time ago... I called her back a year later for a second session. I really did like her a lot, if that's any consolation. Just not as much as the one that replaced her.
ApexTitanium Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Well now you know you shouldn't want him back. If he's willing to cheat on his current gf with you, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you if you guys got back together? See there, I just did you a favor.
Price2Play Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Well now you know you shouldn't want him back. If he's willing to cheat on his current gf with you, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you if you guys got back together? See there, I just did you a favor. BINGO!! APEX nailed it on the head. My ex did me the same favor, makes me feel 1000% better about the whole situation.
Tarot777 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Wow! Everyones being a bit harsh. Don't worry darlin xoxo We all make mistakes, at least now you know what a creep he is, getting your heart broken always sucks. 1
Author Amy77 Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Monday night I slept with my ex (who I still have feelings for) who has a girlfriend.. We were texting for weeks but he hasn't text properly since I left that night, which is making me feel so used and mad that I just want to text the new girl and tell her everything. I have messages from him which prove his a cheater, but he also has naked pics of me which he could use against me, so what should I do I'm so confused I just want him back or I want revenge..
Ronnie33 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Monday night I slept with my ex (who I still have feelings for) who has a girlfriend.. We were texting for weeks but he hasn't text properly since I left that night, which is making me feel so used and mad that I just want to text the new girl and tell her everything. I have messages from him which prove his a cheater, but he also has naked pics of me which he could use against me, so what should I do I'm so confused I just want him back or I want revenge.. Telling her won't guarantee that you will get him back and revenge probably won't make you feel better if they end up staying together anyway. He probably hasn't text you because he either feels guilty or doesn't want you to think it's going to be anymore then sex. Go find a single guy who you can have your own relationship with. Your ex is an ex for a reason. Edited March 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fixed quote
d0nnivain Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 You are 18. He cheated on you with her. He now cheated on her with you. She doesn't need you to tell her he's a cheater. Your desire to stir up trouble for revenge is immature. But everybody is immature at 18 so my statement is an observation not a crack against you. Going forward, don't give men naked photos of you. You will forever have this hanging over your head. You are also right. If you interfere in his life by telling his GF he will most likely distribute those photos. Do you really want them getting back to your parents or your teachers? Let him go. He's not worth it. 5
elaine567 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 And this is why giving guys nude pics of yourself is such a bad idea. Alls fine until you split or he becomes a controlling jerk and starts blackmailing or abusing you. Do not leave yourself open to abuse, best to forget about nude pics. Hopefully this guy won't use them against you. His now gf by sleeping with him behind your back, knows what he is capable of, she is not the innocent here. Do not get involved, it could backfire on you big time. He is not worth bothering about, spend your time finding a better man.
Author Amy77 Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Monday night I slept with my ex (who I still have feelings for) who has a girlfriend (who he left me for). We were texting for weeks but he hasn't text properly since I left that night, which is making me feel so used and mad that I just want to text the new girl and tell her everything. I have messages from him which prove his a cheater, but he also has naked pics of me which he could use against me, so what should I do I'm so confused I just want him back or I want revenge..
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