okc85 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I know 'rewiring' our thinking takes time and practice, but I just seem to get stuck on negativity. I don't think it's justified or makes any sense. I try to pump logic into my head, but my negative feelings override the logic. I had a short-lived relationship with someone, I knew it was going to end very soon because we live in different countries (separated by an ocean) which makes it impossible to date each other. I wound up visiting her overseas for a week as a sort of 'farewell' thing, but I didn't have that mindset at all. So we continued to chat via whatsapp, etc, after I got home, and it was painful for me. And i felt so damn silly for feeling so hurt. I knew from the very start that our relationship couldn't last long term due to geography, but I still felt so heartbroken. Eventually, we stopped talking because I couldn't put my feelings aside. Right now, I just wonder why I can't ever grasp onto the positives. The experience had PLENTY of positive attributes. I got to experience things I never experienced before, went to Europe, met a great person, etc, but still, at night, I just think about how sad I am that it's over, and how I let my feelings ruin the friendship. I don't like being this negative. Maybe I just need more time, maybe I haven't moved on yet. But I know deep down I should be very grateful for the experience, not upset, even if my heart still hurts sometimes.
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