ASV Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Okay, this has been bothering me a lot lately. I'm fairly young, but I think I've had enough party for the rest of my life. Most of my dates have been through (poor but consistent) night game, which I'm beginning to abhor by now. Maybe out of shyness, maybe out of excess of offer-and-demand making me look less desirable than the other hundred of men who have already approached the same women. But the fact is that I'm a bit tired of ONS. I'm still mourning my ex, who I met casually at night, and even we made out the same night we knew each other, she confessed me that I was like her 4th or 5th. True or false, I couldn't care less by now. Nevermind. What I mean is that I kinda miss some naïveity or innocence in those women who have been previously ASSAULTED zillions of times at night, yet I don't really trust in online dating sites, for they have revealed me insecure people with no physical attractive at all. So there goes my question: where do you, dudes and dudettes, look for nice, charming, interesting people? I've always considered me a really good choice, had my self-esteem well boosted, but lately I'm getting a bit frustrated because of myself feeling rejected, oddly enough at the time I'm eating more, working out a lot, and feeling leaner and bigger. They say "you don't search, you just find", but if I was kept under lock at home I wouldn't have met my excellent but now gone ex, who in fact didn't party a lot at all. Should I ask every woman out there what's their favourite Kubrick movie? Should I approach more and more at the uni? Maybe I just need to travel more? Should I join a theater group even if I dislike it? Any story of success will be highly appreciated, for the thought of being unable to find an equally nicely looking and interesting woman is frightening the hell outta me.
Redhead14 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Okay, this has been bothering me a lot lately. I'm fairly young, but I think I've had enough party for the rest of my life. Most of my dates have been through (poor but consistent) night game, which I'm beginning to abhor by now. Maybe out of shyness, maybe out of excess of offer-and-demand making me look less desirable than the other hundred of men who have already approached the same women. But the fact is that I'm a bit tired of ONS. I'm still mourning my ex, who I met casually at night, and even we made out the same night we knew each other, she confessed me that I was like her 4th or 5th. True or false, I couldn't care less by now. Nevermind. What I mean is that I kinda miss some naïveity or innocence in those women who have been previously ASSAULTED zillions of times at night, yet I don't really trust in online dating sites, for they have revealed me insecure people with no physical attractive at all. So there goes my question: where do you, dudes and dudettes, look for nice, charming, interesting people? I've always considered me a really good choice, had my self-esteem well boosted, but lately I'm getting a bit frustrated because of myself feeling rejected, oddly enough at the time I'm eating more, working out a lot, and feeling leaner and bigger. They say "you don't search, you just find", but if I was kept under lock at home I wouldn't have met my excellent but now gone ex, who in fact didn't party a lot at all. Should I ask every woman out there what's their favourite Kubrick movie? Should I approach more and more at the uni? Maybe I just need to travel more? Should I join a theater group even if I dislike it? Any story of success will be highly appreciated, for the thought of being unable to find an equally nicely looking and interesting woman is frightening the hell outta me. Well, the truth is, you never know who you're going to meet or when or where you will meet the right person/people. It's a numbers game sometimes. But, yes, try new things . . . I've met a couple of nice men while on my bowling league. My ex-husband has met a couple of nice women at the grocery store He will go up to them and ask advice about ingredients to make a particular dish. If they engage him beyond that question and don't have a ring on their finger, he will say, hey, you seem really nice and compliment them and ask if they would be interested in having coffee or a drink with him Be adventurous And, be relaxed always. It will help if you let go of the fear of never finding someone. Those kinds of fears have an odd way of coming through when meeting people. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Try a meetup.com group, take a class, go outside of your house, go to work. Or even in your home on your PC with online dating. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Truth is you can meet people everywhere. I met a lot of new people in business networking situations & through volunteer activities. Taking a class is a good idea, something non academic. Joining a club of some kind. Attending singles events. OLD. Through your Church. In the area where you work but not necessarily at your employer. 1
Author ASV Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Hey, much appreciated. Didn't know about meetup.com and it is definitely something I was looking for. As for my work, well, I'm not meeting a lot of new people daily, but both classes and clubs seem a good idea to me, since I'm someone both interested and interesting to talk about books, movies and different sorts of media culture. So thanks for your responses.
Gary S Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Classes, groups, and meetup groups are the best way for crushes to develop.
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