shell_fish Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I feel like I can't take my partner's selfishness anymore, and he'll never change. It's such a small example, but this morning, something happened when we were dropping our daughter off to daycare (right next door to where I work). I asked him, "Could you drop her off for me, while I go into work because I'm late, and I don't want to walk in any later, it looks bad to my supervisor". He said fine. Two seconds later, he goes, "Actually, I might just have you go in, because I don't want to walk across the parking lot, it's cold." I lost my temper because everyone else was walking outside including babies, but he wanted to stay in the car and didn't care I was late- so I said "It's cold, big fricking deal" and turned around and saw the daycare teacher standing right next to me, how embarrassing! So I should blame myself for the words I chose, but I'm fed up with his selfishness, it's just another of many examples of him always thinking of himself first, and I'm so tired of it. Now it's lead to me embarrassing myself in front of someone important. Yes, it was my choice to speak that way. But would you/have you left a person like this? What were they like?
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Whatever you do, you need to remember that you have a child together. How is he as a parent? Does he have any redeeming qualities, the things that made you fall in love with him? Are you having any other relationship issues or is this it? I agree, that was one ballsy and selfish move on his part. I would not tolerate that kind of attitude from my partner for very long. A relationship is a two way street and parenting should be something you do together, share responsibility so one parents doesn't feel like their drowning all the time. Is his selfishness enough to end a relationship just on it's own merit? Not sure. We don't have much more to go on but that one example. If you care to elaborate about other things he's done, it might help.
PegNosePete Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I would talk to him about his selfish behaviour, and request that he be more considerate of you, and less of an ass. If he refused to change, or said he would and didn't follow through, then yes I would consider leaving. You don't deserve to be treated this way. But talking, telling him how you feel, and giving him a chance would be the first step.
ApexTitanium Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I'm the opposite, she left me because she was selfish, I keep chasing her wanting to give up myself for everything she wants. Guess that's my love.... 1
BlackbirdSong Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Ignore his ass for awhile, he'll come around. Then you can tell him what's making you upset. If he changes his behavior, awesome. If not, you can think about leaving. I know your situation is much tougher because you have a child.
Eaglestar83 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 You have a child with him, that is big and a decision to break up should not be taken so lightly. Talking about your partner here might help you vent out a little, but nobody on here knows him better than you do. Was the example you gave a selfish act? Yes sure, but what else has this man got going for him? How long you been together? Is he a decent father and a human being? Only you can answer all of that. Feel free to vent out but ultimately your solution is to calmly sit him down and talk to him. Sometimes we just take our partners for granted and he may not be aware of his behaviour. Don't be passive aggressive, or try to punish him later on in some other way, he will not get it if he didnt register your upset in the first place. He is not a mind reader. So please, go talk to him Good luck
alphamale Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 yeah i've dumped a number of chicks cause they were self-centered
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