Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 EDIT2: Is she the best you can do? Some girl 2 states over you've never gone out with? Sheeeesh -_- Edit rebuttal: Unfortunately YES she is the best I can do, and I don't mean to say that in a way that implies that I would be settling with her. She is GORGEOUS, smart as a whip, well read and she and I have a laundry list of things in common that I've only been finding out since we reconnected on Facebook. This being in addition to the fact that I can't use online dating, I work in a male dominated industry so it's not like I can date people from work, and I an't afford the Millionaire Matchmaker.
elaine567 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 YOU need to man up and go and see her and sweep her off her feet or you block her completely and forever go " ...and what if", or you keep up the friendship in the vain hope she will decide to choose you after she has had her fill of everyone else. As you say you have little other "romantic" options then I suggest you tell her to stop talking about her other guy friends to you, and you make a date very soon to go visit her with the intention of having a real relationship with her. If she definitely shows a lack of interest in you coming to see her, then I suggest you start taking an interest in other girls she may know, ie complimenting them on social media and make it look like she is not irreplaceable - jealousy may get the better of her. If you start pleading, then you are gone. If she is really not interested and sees you just as a friend, then at least you tried. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 When she mentioned not getting sex, your response should have been when would you like to come by you to fix that? You blew that soft ball. She would worked with you to pick a date / time or she would have shut you down & you would have known you were in the friendzone never to come out.
preraph Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Was speaking to her last night and she just blurted out "I need sex, but this guy I like is shunning me and won't return my calls" and then goes into detail about other guys she spoken to in the last year or so. Suddenly speaking to me like I'm one of her Girlfriends. Which would certainly account for why no man has sent her nice stuff before if she has no boundaries like that. I guess when she wants to get laid, there's no need for niceties, or at least that's what she's putting out there. I do not get that she is playing hard to get or friendzoned you. I do get that she's probably not at all into waiting and building a relationship online and that if you really think you might want her, go to where she is. She may be too blunt for most guys.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 OP I don't care if she's the girl of your dreams, you haven't gone on a date with her so it doesn't matter what she's said to you. To those encouraging him to waste his time and money to travel 2 states to visit her and "sweep her off her feet", get real... I can recognize a massive friendzone when I see one, and her telling him how she wanted this other guy to **** her basically means he has no chance with her. On top of that, no guy with an ounce of self-respect would pursue this girl romantically after hearing that. Also if you have the attitude that she is the best that you can do and she's as gorgeous and smart as you say, then you don't deserve her. Why would she settle for some guy who is undesirable to other Women if she's so desirable herself? Sorry if I'm being harsh, but I'm trying to be helpful here. You have no future with this girl, move on. Try improving your self esteem and confidence and try your luck with other women.
angiefly Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 OP, while she is certainly immature, she doesn't owe you anything... Have you guys even talked about exclusivity? Bet you haven't, seeing as you aren't even dating. Since she doesn't owe you anything -AND- you aren't dating, I think it'd be too much to go off on her and tell her you want nothing to do with her. IMO, if this were me, I'd walk away. If you aren't done yet then you can try to talk to her. It's up to you and next time I wouldn't wait so long to take out/spend time with some one you're interested in... if you don't have time for a relationship then, chances are, it won't work out. You get what you put into it. Good-luck! 1
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Also if you have the attitude that she is the best that you can do and she's as gorgeous and smart as you say, then you don't deserve her. Why would she settle for some guy who is undesirable to other Women if she's so desirable herself? Sorry if I'm being harsh, but I'm trying to be helpful here. You have no future with this girl, move on. Try improving your self esteem and confidence and try your luck with other women. To clarify what I mean: "unfortunately" for me I wasn't born into the master race! Unfortunately on most dating sites black men are considered worthless. I once got on POF and only got 3 messages in a month, then as an experiment I made a new profile with the exact same text but used the picture of a random average looking white guy I found online, and that profile got 37 messages in 2 days!!!! The next week I tried the experiment again, but with a black model from a Macy's catalog and the same average looking white guy, same lopsided results! The last 2 girls I was "dating" said outright "I love you with all my <3 but my parents are racist and they'll disown me if I bring you home, so I'll sleep with you but I can't be your GF" My dating problems have NOTHING to do with confidence and Self esteem, I've written 5 books, and I work on Wall St. if I were white I would have more women than an NBA player (that is hyperbole, not to be taken literally). Which is part of the reason why I have so much admiration for her, she has dated every race and every color and never gave a crap about who says what to her.
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 OP, while she is certainly immature, she doesn't owe you anything... Have you guys even talked about exclusivity? Bet you haven't, seeing as you aren't even dating. Since she doesn't owe you anything -AND- you aren't dating, I think it'd be too much to go off on her and tell her you want nothing to do with her. IMO, if this were me, I'd walk away. If you aren't done yet then you can try to talk to her. It's up to you and next time I wouldn't wait so long to take out/spend time with some one you're interested in... if you don't have time for a relationship then, chances are, it won't work out. You get what you put into it. Good-luck! Why would that be too much??? What woman posts picture of herself on the internet with flowers and chocolate from a man that they have no interest in? Especially since the other guy she mentioned could see it and all the comments that her friends made about how I'm such a catch.
Versacehottie Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Why would I think that a girl that constantly telling me how good I look, how talented I am, how much she wishes she "could could be more like me" is putting me into the Friendzone??? Especially when we've had multiple conversations that imply dating... Her: IDK how you're single Me: I like women that are classy like BMWs but I'm surrounded by Kia dealerships Her: So which one am I a BMW or Kia????? Me: BMW all the way! 7 class baby. Her: That's real good No platonic friend of mine, male or female, has bought me a birthday gift since I had an ice cream party when I turned 8, in fact most people have the attitude "you should be glad that I even wrote on your FB wall". I don't know any girl that buys birthday gifts for a man they're not interested in. Particularly a woman that is living hand to mouth and has to count every penny. Ok, wait you're a writer? Surely you can do better than this!! BTW, that is a materialistic-type response on her end and inherent you KNOW what type of person she is which is why you are discussing these cars. I stand by my assessment that she's a user or golddigger. Basically, why is she accepting presents from you and then speaking to you about other guys. I know the BMW vs. Kia is just an example but very telling by content. She is playing you, prepping you for playing and all those sorts of things. BTW, she dates all colors of guys because she only cares about the green. She's still trash if she talks like a ho about getting together with another guy potentially when she knows you like her. Pass. Fail. Move on. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 (edited) To clarify what I mean: "unfortunately" for me I wasn't born into the master race! Unfortunately on most dating sites black men are considered worthless. I once got on POF and only got 3 messages in a month, then as an experiment I made a new profile with the exact same text but used the picture of a random average looking white guy I found online, and that profile got 37 messages in 2 days!!!! The next week I tried the experiment again, but with a black model from a Macy's catalog and the same average looking white guy, same lopsided results! The last 2 girls I was "dating" said outright "I love you with all my <3 but my parents are racist and they'll disown me if I bring you home, so I'll sleep with you but I can't be your GF" My dating problems have NOTHING to do with confidence and Self esteem, I've written 5 books, and I work on Wall St. if I were white I would have more women than an NBA player (that is hyperbole, not to be taken literally). Which is part of the reason why I have so much admiration for her, she has dated every race and every color and never gave a crap about who says what to her. Oh please, don't pull the race card. Are you not attracted to other Black Women either? I'm skeptical about your results on the OLD Test that you did as well, keep in mind guys need to initiate messages on OLD, not just expect to receive them. I don't care what your accomplishments are, but the way you interacted with the girl in your first post screams that you don't know what you're doing with Women. OP, please don't be one of those people who comes here for advice, and kicks and screams when they don't hear what they want to. Everyone is telling you that you're going about it all wrong. Own up to that fact and improve yourself and get back out there going after DIFFERENT women. This particular girl has no interest in you except as a friend. Edited March 17, 2015 by barcode88
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Oh please, don't pull the race card. Are you not attracted to other Black Women either? I'm skeptical about your results on the OLD Test that you did as well, keep in mind guys need to initiate messages on OLD, not just expect to receive them. I don't care what your accomplishments are, but the way you interacted with the girl in your first post screams that you don't know what you're doing with Women. OP, please don't be one of those people who comes here for advice, and kicks and screams when they don't hear what they want to. Everyone is telling you that you're going about it all wrong. Own up to that fact and improve yourself and get back out there going after DIFFERENT women. This particular girl has no interest in you except as a friend. When I said "I got 3 messages" I meant 3 responses and the white profile got 37 (using the same initiation message). Besides even more black women responded to the white profile. Regardless of who the President is people of color are still considered inferior and that's just a cold hard fact of life. All of my close friends are white and NONE of them have anywhere near as many issues with dating as I, even the ones that are broke, overweight and live at home with their parents, as opposed to me who makes a lot of $ and hasn't lived with his parents since he was 17. I don't understand why it's such a bad idea to send a care package to someone that's already spent a great deal of money on you, with no request for reciprocation. The last girl I was "dating" decided to sleep with me because I did something similar. And IDK what self improvement I'm supposed to be doing! If someone is dead set in their opposition to "race mixing" what am I supposed to say to convince her otherwise? I dress well (even gay men compliment me on my clothing), everyone tells me how interesting I am and how I always add more to any conversation. I didn't post this with any idea of what I wanted to hear, the only thing I'm annoyed at is anyone who says that she has no culpability when she has clearly sent signals that she was interested. Besides was I just supposed to come out on the first day "I've had a crush on you since we were in 10th grade, even though we haven't seen each other or spoken in > 11 years I want to fly out there to sleep with you"????
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 (edited) When I said "I got 3 messages" I meant 3 responses and the white profile got 37 (using the same initiation message). Besides even more black women responded to the white profile. Regardless of who the President is people of color are still considered inferior and that's just a cold hard fact of life. All of my close friends are white and NONE of them have anywhere near as many issues with dating as I, even the ones that are broke, overweight and live at home with their parents, as opposed to me who makes a lot of $ and hasn't lived with his parents since he was 17. I don't understand why it's such a bad idea to send a care package to someone that's already spent a great deal of money on you, with no request for reciprocation. The last girl I was "dating" decided to sleep with me because I did something similar. And IDK what self improvement I'm supposed to be doing! If someone is dead set in their opposition to "race mixing" what am I supposed to say to convince her otherwise? I dress well (even gay men compliment me on my clothing), everyone tells me how interesting I am and how I always add more to any conversation. I didn't post this with any idea of what I wanted to hear, the only thing I'm annoyed at is anyone who says that she has no culpability when she has clearly sent signals that she was interested. Besides was I just supposed to come out on the first day "I've had a crush on you since we were in 10th grade, even though we haven't seen each other or spoken in > 11 years I want to fly out there to sleep with you"???? Sorry but as a White Guy I'm only attracted to White Girls sexually. Black girls just don't do it for me. Did you ever think that maybe a lot of the White Girls you're chasing after don't want to date a Black Guy because they're not sexually attracted to them? It has nothing to do with racism. No one likes a negative person, and based on your racial outlook on society, I can tell you have a lot of negativity. And let me repeat one more time, I DONT CARE WHAT SIGNALS SHE IS SHOWING YOU!!! She is PROBABLY just being a flirt with you because she knows since you're 2 states away that it will never happen anyway. The FACT is that you've never dated her, so you shouldn't have ANY expectations at this point. The fact that she's talking about wanting to get ****ed by another guy means she doesn't intend to date you. Edited March 17, 2015 by barcode88
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Ok, wait you're a writer? Surely you can do better than this!! Each and everyone of us has to work with the hand that life dealt us NOT the hand that we want. So with the environment being what it is NOT REALLY, as I said before whenever I've been on dating sites the women could care less how many books I've written or how much money I have, they just see dark skin and keep on moving. This girl is the prettiest, most well traveled most encouraging I've ever met. She almost has a 6th sense for when I'm stressed. I wrote my last book start to finish in 6 DAYS, because of her: she inspired it with just one sentence! Nobody has ever been able to inspire me like that. And now for me to hear about her wanting to be with some guy who is a broke, transient, alcoholic who's never even been outside of his home state (let alone the USA) is beyond depressing.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 (edited) Each and everyone of us has to work with the hand that life dealt us NOT the hand that we want. So with the environment being what it is NOT REALLY, as I said before whenever I've been on dating sites the women could care less how many books I've written or how much money I have, they just see dark skin and keep on moving. This girl is the prettiest, most well traveled most encouraging I've ever met. She almost has a 6th sense for when I'm stressed. I wrote my last book start to finish in 6 DAYS, because of her: she inspired it with just one sentence! Nobody has ever been able to inspire me like that. And now for me to hear about her wanting to be with some guy who is a broke, transient, alcoholic who's never even been outside of his home state (let alone the USA) is beyond depressing. I'm sorry if you're expecting sympathy here for your sob story, you're not going to get it. Nut up and shut up and get out there and date some women. Stop saying "I can't" and just DO IT. I'll add one more thing that you're doing wrong, you're putting this Girl on a pedestal like she's some perfect creature for you. If you knew what you were doing with Women, you wouldn't be making this mistake. Everyone has difficulty they have to overcome. I'm naturally really skinny, and was actually really scrawny until the past 2 years or so since I've gotten older and begun to fill out a bit more (As well as hitting the gym - me taking action). Girls weren't attracted to me throughout High SChool and most of College due to my physique. I've also had to overcome being Shy/Introverted, and having lived a somewhat sheltered life. These are all shortcomings that I have identified with myself and taken action on by doing things such as trying new things and taking risks, meeting new people and getting out of my comfort zone, getting my own place and being independent, etc.! If I've gotten my life in order and learned from my mistakes, as well as how to improve myself, why do you expect me to feel sorry for you OP? tl;dr version: Make the best out of the hand that you get dealt, don't whine about it. Edited March 17, 2015 by barcode88
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Sorry but as a White Guy I'm only attracted to White Girls sexually. Black girls just don't do it for me. Did you ever think that maybe a lot of the White Girls you're chasing after don't want to date a Black Guy because they're not sexually attracted to them? It has nothing to do with racism. LOL, if you were alive during slavery you would feel different about black women (BTW 12 years a slave is def worth watching). To clarify too many women have said to me outright that they like me but can't bring me home because their family and/or peers were racist. That's not the same as not being attracted to someone. And it's not just white women, many Asian and Hispanic have had the same issue. As for those white women that aren't sexually attracted to black men that IS racism. That is the result of the media in the USA constantly portraying black men as lazy, ignorant and dangerous! Saying that you aren't attracted to a whole race goes against the laws of evolution, no other animal species makes that kind of discrimination. A golden lab and a black lab will reproduce without hesitation, a minx cat and an orange tabby will also gladly reproduce, only humans ever go about saying how they "prefer" to be with people of a certain race or color. Not to mention that many of my white friends only date Asian or Hispanic women and they don't have any problems, many of my Jewish friends only date gentile women and they don't have any problems. But when it comes to black men I'm supposed to stick to "my own kind". Answer me this: If it's not racism, why is there so much more interracial dating in other countries? If you go to England, Singapore, Egypt you can't throw a rock in any direction without hitting an interracial couple. Even when I went to Poland where most people have never seen a black person, even on TV, more women there were interested in me than women here! 1
NYC-BigKat Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 She may have made the comments about the other guys as a way to motivate you to get your ass out there. As in, if you don't get your ass out here SOON, you're gonna lose me!!! It's a shyt test.. so yeah it's best you move on... Yup sounds like she's playing games & doesn't know what she wants or will & has changed her mind about u. Sheesh the minds of girls today smh .
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 LOL, if you were alive during slavery you would feel different about black women (BTW 12 years a slave is def worth watching). To clarify too many women have said to me outright that they like me but can't bring me home because their family and/or peers were racist. That's not the same as not being attracted to someone. And it's not just white women, many Asian and Hispanic have had the same issue. As for those white women that aren't sexually attracted to black men that IS racism. That is the result of the media in the USA constantly portraying black men as lazy, ignorant and dangerous! Saying that you aren't attracted to a whole race goes against the laws of evolution, no other animal species makes that kind of discrimination. A golden lab and a black lab will reproduce without hesitation, a minx cat and an orange tabby will also gladly reproduce, only humans ever go about saying how they "prefer" to be with people of a certain race or color. Not to mention that many of my white friends only date Asian or Hispanic women and they don't have any problems, many of my Jewish friends only date gentile women and they don't have any problems. But when it comes to black men I'm supposed to stick to "my own kind". Answer me this: If it's not racism, why is there so much more interracial dating in other countries? If you go to England, Singapore, Egypt you can't throw a rock in any direction without hitting an interracial couple. Even when I went to Poland where most people have never seen a black person, even on TV, more women there were interested in me than women here! Umm sorry... But a person's sexual preferences is not racism... Did you ever think that a White Woman might not be attracted to a black person the same reason I'm not attracted to Black Women? And not all White people will date Asians, and vice versus. I'm not even going to bother trying to explain anything anymore, because your views are very radical, and you don't seem to be taking heed of any advice that is given to you. Please tell me though what your intentions are for posting this here? Because no one seems to agree with you, but you don't seem to care.....
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 I'm sorry if you're expecting sympathy here for your sob story, you're not going to get it. Nut up and shut up and get out there and date some women. Stop saying "I can't" and just DO IT. Answer the question then, if a woman has decided that I'm not BF material because I'm not part of the master race what am I supposed to say to convince her otherwise??? What is there to "just do"???? Everyone has difficulty they have to overcome. So what I should bleach my skin like Michael Jackson and just tell people that I'm Sicilian? , why do you expect me to feel sorry for you OP? I'm not a religious person at all, but I have to agree with Joel Osteen when he once said "you have to have compassion for people, especially when they're dealing with problems that that didn't cause" Nobody asked me if I wanted to grow up in a negro-phobic society where my friends never spend a Saturday night alone, but I have to work 5x as hard just to get a response on POF. Make the best out of the hand that you get dealt, don't whine about it. That's the whole point, pursuing this girl WAS making the best of the situation.
sandylee1 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Now I wouldn't blurt out those comments if I was into a guy, but she may feel you haven't clearly asked her out and isn't sure where all this chatting is leading to. She may be hoping it'll push you to make a firmer move on her by mentioning this other guy. Trying to get you jealous to see if it bothers you. She wants more than flirting.
Author Coup La-La Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Umm sorry... But a person's sexual preferences is not racism... Did you ever think that a White Woman might not be attracted to a black person the same reason I'm not attracted to Black Women? And not all White people will date Asians, and vice versus. A person's sexually presences forms in the initial years of life, when they are exposed to their first concepts of right/wrong, good/evil, pretty/ugly, much of which is based on skin tone, so yes you're right, both you and most of the girls that won't date me are the product of indoctrination of the superior beauty of Caucasian people. It is almost universally believed (even at a subconscious level) that black people are stronger, faster and more durable. When Psychologists in a recent experiment studied what words people associate with black people, one of the top results was "invincible", so from a purely biological/evolutionary standpoint white women should be MORE attracted to black men than anyone else, but unfortunately whenever you watch the news in America it's the same BS every night "black man goes to jail" "black man drops out of school" "black man abandons his kids", someone who didn't know better would think that white people never get incarcerated. Do you really think that all this has no effect on people's psyches? I noticed that you didn't answer the question: Why is there so much more interracial dating in some countries?? Why did I have so much more success with women in Poland who don't speak a word of English? Why have I met so many black men from England who come to America and say "I don't get anywhere near as much play in the US as I did back home"???? Part of the problem here is that the system of indoctrination works in YOUR favor, which explains why you are so quick to dismiss my concern.
Versacehottie Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Each and everyone of us has to work with the hand that life dealt us NOT the hand that we want. So with the environment being what it is NOT REALLY, as I said before whenever I've been on dating sites the women could care less how many books I've written or how much money I have, they just see dark skin and keep on moving. This girl is the prettiest, most well traveled most encouraging I've ever met. She almost has a 6th sense for when I'm stressed. I wrote my last book start to finish in 6 DAYS, because of her: she inspired it with just one sentence! Nobody has ever been able to inspire me like that. And now for me to hear about her wanting to be with some guy who is a broke, transient, alcoholic who's never even been outside of his home state (let alone the USA) is beyond depressing. I meant if you're a writer, you can surely be better with your flirting game with words!!! You should technically have the advantage compared to people who do other sorts of work. I agree that we are all dealt different hands and have to work with what we've got. On paper you sound like you should have no problem. If you concentrate on what believe she might find wrong with you or what is blocking her from liking you (or other women), you are doing yourself a disservice. Doesn't a girl who would like a broke, transient alcoholic guy raise a red flag to you?? You don't find it completely insulting that she spoke to you about another guy like you were nothing!! That is her character. She is screaming it at you loud and clear. If she generally knows your position about her and willing to go at status quo (ie vague, nothing status to each other) YET accept your gifts and lead you on, she is not trustworthy, honest, compassionate, cultured or thinking of you. She is a user and attention wh*re. Normal people are not comfortable with that level of attention when they do not reciprocate it. My best advice to you is to believe that you are the amazing person you have described yourself to us here. Be kind to yourself that you had this little blip and it was the goodness, kindness and nostaglia in you that WANTED to see the best in her. Channel those into other avenues to find people. (General consensus is that internet dating is tough no matter who you are). This girl will just be more heartache if you latch onto her any longer. Yes she is cruel, not oblivious at all--knows exactly what she is doing and doesn't care. Meh, on the hard to get part. Neither here nor there she is not motivated by real relationship things.
sandylee1 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 To clarify what I mean: "unfortunately" for me I wasn't born into the master race! Unfortunately on most dating sites black men are considered worthless. I once got on POF and only got 3 messages in a month, then as an experiment I made a new profile with the exact same text but used the picture of a random average looking white guy I found online, and that profile got 37 messages in 2 days!!!! The next week I tried the experiment again, but with a black model from a Macy's catalog and the same average looking white guy, same lopsided results! The last 2 girls I was "dating" said outright "I love you with all my <3 but my parents are racist and they'll disown me if I bring you home, so I'll sleep with you but I can't be your GF" My dating problems have NOTHING to do with confidence and Self esteem, I've written 5 books, and I work on Wall St. if I were white I would have more women than an NBA player (that is hyperbole, not to be taken literally). Which is part of the reason why I have so much admiration for her, she has dated every race and every color and never gave a crap about who says what to her. This has nothing to do with race and there is no 'master race '. The fact that you think that way is totally of base and quite frankly says a lot about you. You clearly view yourself as inferior, so no doubt others will see you like that as well. If you are only looking to date a certain race, then you could be on the wrong dating sites . It may well be that the majority of female members are Caucasian and prefer to date within their own race. That doesn't mean black guys are useless. Try sites where women specifically want to date black guys. If a girl tells you her family is racist, stay away from her and them. I have absolute zero tolerance for racists and their ignorance. 1
angiefly Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Why would that be too much??? What woman posts picture of herself on the internet with flowers and chocolate from a man that they have no interest in? Especially since the other guy she mentioned could see it and all the comments that her friends made about how I'm such a catch. I'm not saying she isn't leading you on and that she isn't responsible for HER part in this BUT she doesn't owe you anything. And her posting those pics really mean nothing...some people post that kind of stuff to make themselves appear to be "more" desirable. The only thing you can control is yourself and your actions. If I were you, I'd find someone who loves you for YOU... race and all. BTW it's hypocritical of you to call someone racist for not wanting to date black men yet you won't date a woman of your own race??? Pot meet kettle. 1
Author Coup La-La Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 This has nothing to do with race and there is no 'master race '. The fact that you think that way is totally of base and quite frankly says a lot about you. You clearly view yourself as inferior, so no doubt others will see you like that as well. If a girl tells you her family is racist, stay away from her and them. I have absolute zero tolerance for racists and their ignorance. I use the term "master race" as a sarcastic reference to the idea that darker skin people are less attractive, it's not that I am suggesting that I believe myself to be inferior, it's the fact that that is the general philosophy we have in the US. i.e. when is the last time you heard the media call a white person a "thug" or an "animal"? In the US I've met an unreal amount of Asian women that only date white men, but I've only ever met 2 that exclusively date black men, and both of them were ridiculously unhealthy. Now obviously there are individual cases, but I'm talking about trends, i.e. one of my coworkers is an orthodox Jew that married to a Palestinian, but in general you don't see that a lot. Even your suggestion of going on sites where women are specifically looking for black men...this is in sharp contrast to my friends (just about all of whom are white) can go on almost any dating site without having to look for a specific niche like I do. Thus me making sarcastic references to the "master race". And it's all nice and good to sit in an ivory tower an pontificate about how I should avoid racists families and girls that come from them, but when you've been hearing NO for a long time it changes your outlook, especially in a case like mine where almost all of my friends were sleeping with everything in a skirt, or getting married and having kids.
Author Coup La-La Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 it's hypocritical of you to call someone racist for not wanting to date black men yet you won't date a woman of your own race??? Pot meet kettle. While yes it's true that the majority of women that i've pursued relationships have been white or Asian, I never said that I refuse to date black women. And I would like to point out the double standard here: When someone says that they don't date within their own race they are "prejudice" and show signs of "self hatred" but when people say that they only date within their own race, then it's "just their preference".
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