towardthefuture Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 No longer want her back. I've met a woman I'm pretty attracted to and click with although it'll have to be short term as she's moving next month. But at least that makes the whole 'plenty of fish in the sea' thing feel a lot more real. Yesterday I was feeling somewhat distraught, but today I'm just overcome with wishing I knew the extent to which she lied and cheated on me. It's hard to describe what this feeling is, but it feels like my self-respect has finally gotten back to a tipping point where I think she's just............ scum. I don't think about me 'ruining' the relationship, I think about her disrespecting what we had and trashing my ability to have a memory of my first love as an honest person. It started so pure and ended so messy and it's all her fault. I find myself wondering if she cheated at all the opportunities she had to cheat. Before I was wishing for some kind of contact. Now just I hope one day she comes clean to me and apologizes for what she did. Anything else from her is unwanted.
sabd Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 The chances of her coming clean, admitting everything she did and apologising are slim to none. Don't even entertain that wish. People disappoint us in the most appalling ways sometimes and its best to just let it go otherwise we'll tie ourselves into knots looking for something they just can't give. 1
ZiggyZoo Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I've been through this, with my ex-husband who cheated on me and left me for the other woman. The good thing is that you'll move past it and no longer care even that the cheating ever happened. You're already in a really good spot, where you aren't unnecessarily blaming yourself for the end of your relationship. That's a hard place to get to sometimes. But I'd say just hang out and let time do its thing and her actions won't even enter your thoughts.
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