snipit3172 Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 just a question for guys really if a girl sleeps with you on a first date would she ever really be serious girlfriend material
Mr Spock Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 I hate these types of questions. Why is it always the woman who feels she needs to question it? How about who wants to date a guy that TRIED to get into your pants on the first official date. Stop wondering if you're good enough for someone and start wondering if someone is good enough for you.
Author snipit3172 Posted April 10, 2005 Author Posted April 10, 2005 mr spock the only reason i asked is that i normally wait a couple of months before having sex with someone its just that with my last boyfriend because he was so gorgeous i could not control myself and slept with him on the first night but 5 months later he called it off with no explaination and im just wandering if maybe he thought i was just not girlfriend material trhats all
Mr Spock Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 Chances are that he was attracted to you and thought you were potential girlfriend material but after 5 months as he got to know you better he realized you weren't in fact, what he wanted. It happens to everyone at some point.
Author snipit3172 Posted April 10, 2005 Author Posted April 10, 2005 well i would not really know cos he just stopped calling one day and that was over 6 months ago but its weird cos he always said he was always comfortable with me and he would spend nearly every day at my hoiuse or if he did not he would ring text or email me all the time he was thre best relationship i ever had and thats probably why i keep trying to work out what went wrong
alicia24 Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 I'm not trying to be rude, but maybe he found someone else that interested him more. Screw him, you are too good for childish bull ****. He should have at least been man enough to tell you why he wanted to end things. But to comment on the first date sex thing. I think that guys do not have have as much respect for you if you give them the goods on the first date. My BF and I went out about 4 times and then we slept together. It wasnt that long before we had sex, but I am glad i didnt give it up the first night because then i would the girlfriend that slept with her biyfriend on the first date. And then he would probably wonder how many other guys I did this with. NONE just for the record. So my advice is to wait until the second date at least.
UCFKevin Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 Certainly. Sex is sex. Happens sooner or later. If it's sooner, big deal. I don't think less of a girl for it. I was with a girl for two and a half years and I believe we banged the first night.
faux Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Originally posted by snipit3172 just a question for guys really if a girl sleeps with you on a first date would she ever really be serious girlfriend material The only answer I can provide you with is, "That depends".
Fuzzy Chickens Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 In my mind, sex on the first date would only make me think MORE of her as girlfriend material.
WithOrWithoutYou Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I don't think it really has an impact one way or the other one whether a guy considers a woman to be "girlfriend material". Maybe for some men it does, but then, those are probably not the sort of men you want to be dating in the first place.
JoL Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 If the guy didn't think of you as girlfriend material because you slept with him on the first month, i dount he would wait 5 months to dump you for it. He wouldnt have dated you at all. He probably lost interest or something like that. On another note- i agree with the above posts...why do women feel this urgent need to defend their sexuality? If a man had did the same thing he would hardly be apologetic or worried about what the girl thought. It's time to put an end to such stupid double standards...and if he did dump you for this reason (which i doubt) then you're lucky you got out before he unleashed the rest of his mysogynistic bulls@it upon you.
MySugaree Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 SOTFD ("sex on the first date date") is not automatically the death knell of a relationship. It depends, overall, on the quality of the date and sex. Was there good chemistry, conversation, connection and caring--the 4C's needed for any relationship with legs? If so, it's usually irrelevant (to most mature, well balanced guys) whether there was SOTFD. Focus on the total picture, but keep him coming back for more, both sexually and otherwise. Good luck.
Illusion24 Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I personally have never had sex on the first date...But as an adult you have to realize that sex is part of the game...If you as a woman are being turned on and need some satisfaction then do it... It's called growing up...If the guy sticks around even for a month...It's obvious he like you
billybadass36 Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I agree with what everyone else has said, but for SOME men, there is a mild Madonna/Whore complex, i.e., for them, there are women they bang, and there are women they marry, and the two don't overlap. Not saying it's right or wrong, but for some men, that's an issue. Probably wasn't the case in your situation, though, since the guy did stick around for 6 mos.
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