brandon1992 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Hey guys I'm new to this site but Heres a little bit about myself. I am recently single again. I was in a very controlling relationship and she ended up cheating on me with 2 different guys a couple times each. Me being newly single I am living the single life going out with friends from work and trying to meet new people. I go dancing with some friends at a line dancing club and there is a lot of hot girls there. They play slow songs so the people I go with tell me to ask girls to dance with me but I'm a really shy person. What can I do to be less shy? The girls I go with tell me girls are shy to and they are not mind readers so how are they suppose to know I'm interested in them. Where are some places to meet new people? Thanks in advanced.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Take more risks, go out instead of staying in, speak up louder and control conversation. I'm a little bit shy too, but I always try and be mindful of my shyness and compensate for it so I'm not a total bore around people lol. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but when society programs women to go after the Alpha male who is the opposite of shy, you can't exactly just go with it
Assada Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 You've just got to fake it to make it man. If you dont like being shy, become someone that isnt shy. Talk to the girls like they are a long lost old friend. No one will ever turn down a long lost old friend. Also, remember buddy, you dont have anything to lose
DoesntGetIt Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I've had to overcome shyness in my life, it isn't easy. For starters, do you have a drink or two? That can help take the edge off and make it a bit easier to approach women. What you have to remember, is that nothing really bad can happen here. If you don't go up to them you have zero chance of anything happening and can miss out on something great. If you do go up and they say no thanks, then you know for sure. Nothing got worse. In fact, it got better as you no longer have to wonder about it. Just keep reminding yourself that the worst thing that can happen is they say no, the best thing that can happen is they say yes. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You can do it, and the more you try your hand at it, the easier it will become. 1
Vintage79 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 There are a variety of things you can do - chances are you're putting too much pressure on yourself, because you're not used to chatting with people all over the place. Just start talking to people everywhere that you have no romantic interest in, and you'll get a bit more comfortable talking to new people...it's hard, but there's not a silver bullet. Online dating is always easy for those who are shy as well...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I've had to overcome shyness in my life, it isn't easy. For starters, do you have a drink or two? That can help take the edge off and make it a bit easier to approach women. What you have to remember, is that nothing really bad can happen here. If you don't go up to them you have zero chance of anything happening and can miss out on something great. If you do go up and they say no thanks, then you know for sure. Nothing got worse. In fact, it got better as you no longer have to wonder about it. Just keep reminding yourself that the worst thing that can happen is they say no, the best thing that can happen is they say yes. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You can do it, and the more you try your hand at it, the easier it will become. Yup.. You miss out on 100% of the shots you don't take.
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