Davidcee Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 My ex gf broke up with me because she said over the years that we've been together i started to get more dependent on her. she would also get mad at times because i am the jealous type like really jealous thats one thing i hated about myself. Anyways She said that i started to go to her for everything. she said she was like a my mom but i thought she went overboard with that. I know i was dependent on her but not like how she described a mother to me, but i did depend on her at times because i thought she will be there if i needed anything just how i would be there if she ever needed anything. She would come to me for many things as well but i never took it as a bad thing i took it as a good thing because i was always going to be there for her. what can i do to change to better myself and so she can see that i am not the same person. Before she said anything of this we had like a little argument and i felt like i needed space so i ignored her for a week and she said during that week she cried to sleep and missed me and didn't know what to do she realized all the things i just mentioned. she said that she went to her sister in law for some advise and told her everything her sister in law basically told her all these negative things which caused to see me as a bad person but in reality i was honestly a good bf and she would even say it her self. I gave her all the love i had and made sure she was happy. I didn't things i would never see myself doing for a girl but only her because i knew she deserved it but now she sees me as a bad person to be with. can someone help please...
bigtrouble Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 (edited) I feel your pain bro... I went through it as well... But be strong... Trust me you are better off... When she's down you loved her more... But when tables turned, she sees you differently... And now instead of listening to her heart... She seeks advise, only to justify her bad thoughts of you... Sorry for you loss... But it does happen... Better now you see her for what she is... Than later on... Get back up, live your life for yourself... Do it for yourself and not for her... There are better women out there... Who would meet us halfway... Who can be a true partner... For better or worst... Edited March 16, 2015 by bigtrouble
mightycpa Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I gave her all the love i had and made sure she was happy... can someone help please...yeah, I can help you. You ignored her for a week and she thought, "wow, this is pretty ****ed up" and then Sis didn't like you ignoring her sister, so she badmouthed you a little, and it didn't take much to convince your ex... a preaching to the choir type of exercise. Bottom line is that your relationship couldn't withstand the bumps. She didn't love you enough to hang with you through the rough spots, even though they don't sound that rough. Maybe you were a little co-dependent, maybe you weren't. Only you know if that's a valid complaint, but even if it is I'm not sure it is an actual reason. It sounds more like an excuse, like a way to explain it with something you'd recognize, so that you'd believe it was her reason. She may not even have a concrete reason, and may simply feel the time and circumstances are right, but she needed to tell you something. After all, nobody really admits to having no reason, do they? I think that happens a lot more than people admit. They're just done, and they don't know why. Count your lucky stars you're not married, and move on, my friend.
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