hgk6 Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 I have finallly come to the hard realization that my relationship with my first love is officially over. Now I'm so sad thats its over and I can cry at the drop of a dime. It was the best time of my life. She was everything I wanted in a girl and now is gone forever. We fought for 3 straight months and she fell out of love with me. It hurts more than you believe. She is now with another guy. I broke up with her and when I came back with all of my love for her she told me it was too late and she has no feelings for me. That she doesnt miss our relationship. Any advice to moving on from your first love? It's been a month and I'm still unbelievably sad and depressed. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
willduggan Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 theres a number of things you can do. if theres no chance of a relationship, then you need to get out with your friends(even if you dont want to) find things that will be fun for you. maybe take up exercise(it makes you really focus on you) lots of reading on here, any self help site,(they all helped me a lot) im still hopeful that i can reconcile with my ex, but at the same time ive learned a lot of techniques to be alright with it. you gotta realize that no matter how much you want it, if she doesnt, your effort doesnt matter, she has to want it to. and who knows, it could happen. i got back with my ex after 3 months of her dating another guy, sound familiar? she said she was happy with him but then things went really sour with that and so we got back together. were kind of in flux at the moment but with patience and a lot of self work, things go better for you either way. hang in there, a lot of people on here know what your feeling and have been in almost identical situations. youlle see it all works out for the best:)
Ty Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 Sucks man.. I had the same thing happen, except yours is a little worse because its another guy. You just have to realize that there are other girls out there. Took me a month to realize that she wasn't the "only" girl in the world. There are millions of them, alot of them that you would get along with better, someone more compatible with you. And anyway, **** her man... shes with another guy. Where's your dignity? Do you want someone like that? Why is she so great if she can just up and leave you for another guy? Take that girl off her pedestal. Just forget her and surround yourself with other girls, doesn't have to be girls you want to get with.. you'd be suprised how much better female company will make you feel. My ex has called a few times, I just blow her off everytime now. Thats the way you have to be, indifference is the best policy here. ACT LIKE YOU DON"T CARE.. you shouldn't care. If you see her, give her a "head-nod" and a little half ass smile and keep walking. She calls, blow her off or don't answer. Act happy, don't act like she has you pining away for her. You don't need that ****. Your the man.. Start working out, running, be with friends, do work. whatever to take your mind off it. Trust me I didn't think it would ever end, but now I don't even want my ex back and she isn't even with another guy.
alicia24 Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 I dont think that you ever really get over your first love. THey will always hold some sort of special place in your heart. THat person gave you a feeling that you have never experienced before. I think it is only right that you will always remember them.
mixwell Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I agree alicia you cannot forget about them but you can get over them.. Its hard. This breakup i am going through right now is with my first love of 7 years and I am a young buck (21) It sucks ! Its going to take longer than a month my friend !! For me it has been 5 months and I still feel the same way, even though I handle the situation much better I am no where close to being totally over her !! It takes time !! Peace
vickimonster Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 Time and patients. Like everyone has said. I totally agree with willduggan, focus on you. Do things for you, make your self feel good. Excercise is great because as i am sure you know it releases 'happy' chemicals in your brain. And make sure you look after yourself mentally as well. What have you learnt from this etc. I am ging through it right now, it is really painful I know, some days I feel really awful those are the days when it is important to focus on you and what you want. Godd Luck.
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