Any other women have extreme difficulty finding men they're attracted to?

March 17, 2015

I've seen exactly one man I thought was physically attractive enough to turn my heard in the last year (that wasn't on tv or something like that, someone on the street), and he was half my age. He's a wayward half-brother of a friend of mine. After I saw him I was trying to get control of my hormones for a couple of hours despite my better judgement and knowing what I know about him. Seeing as physically he's about an 8 and I'm about a 2 now, being old and fat, I put it out of my mind -- and then he tells her he'd like to hang out with me some more. I think she and I both know it can lead to no good, as she felt obliged to convey this info with a nervous laugh, so unlikely I'll ever find myself alone with him, and that's for the best. He has some very bad habits. So it is sad that the one guy that turned my head at all this year is such a mess and half my age, but that's what getting old is like. I don't even think about it unless something like him randomly pops into my life. Then it's a bit frustrating, but at my age, being frustrated momentarily is pretty minor to the cumulation of things I've overcome and gotten past, so I can't complain. As I told my friend, "It's ALIVE!!"

He wouldn't be saying he wanted to hang out with you more if he views you as a 2.

I had a wicked thing for one of my moms friends, despite the fact she was stuck in an unhappy marriage and had put on a little weight. And I could tell the feeling was mutual. But my mom noticed too and made her disappear after our first meeting, whenever I was around. =/

I think you deserve to feel like that on a more regular basis preraph. Despite the fact it might end up messy.

March 17, 2015

My latest OLD prospect just ranted at me over text for logging on to the site to check a message. I haven't even met him yet

Seriously?! Wow. He's TRACKING your activities on that site? That's just um, CREEPY.

If he keeps on bothering you via text, you might want to consider changing your number. He has NO right to be stalking you on there and then ranting to you because you're checking messages from other guys! Who does he think he is?!

.

March 17, 2015

There's a guy I like now, who I started liking in November (and we did in fact get involved, but he's since backed off.)

I wish I experienced that all the time -- that is, actually LIKING a guy.

Even the involvements I had before him didn't feel quite as good as how much I like this guy because while I was attracted to those guys too, I think part of my attraction was that they liked me. I still loved those relationships, but when I think back on it, I don't necessarily think that if I had just been in a social setting with them and they showed no interest in me, that I would have developed a liking for them.

In the case of this guy (that I like now), I would be and was attracted to him before I ever had any clue that he liked me.

So...it's really, really amazing to like someone so much that it's not based on them liking you too.

I'm not saying I like all guys who like me, though. The ones I was referring to above were attractive and I truly liked them, but it was a combination of their liking me and my liking them. The guy from...currently...he himself, all by himself...is super effing attractive.

And he is an alpha male. I never used to be guilty of that -- liking "alpha males" -- until this guy came along.

March 17, 2015

My latest OLD prospect just ranted at me over text for logging on to the site to check a message. I haven't even met him yet

Red flag, for sure.

March 17, 2015

^ No joke! Some guys really know how to restrain the creepiness until they get your number. I'm definitely going to raise my threshold for that. I think for some guys it's just an ego exercise to see how fast they can get your number.

March 17, 2015

So it is sad that the one guy that turned my head at all this year is such a mess and half my age, but that's what getting old is like.

What does age have anything to do with it? People attract all sorts of people, older, younger, different body types, different cultures and races, languages.

I've had people ask me, "What does your dream man look like?" and I've always told them, "I don't know. All I know is how I will feel when I'm with him."

Though getting back to your issue, are you a woman who does that, go out with men you aren't instantly attracted to and taking the time to see if you're compatible?

It depends. If I'm disappointed in his looks completely and right away, then I usually don't waste my time (or his.) If I'm not instantly attracted but can imagine them sexy (which is the goal when I'm looking for a man) then I give it a chance.

Now if I'm attracted to him right away, then hallelujah! Although that's never happened with a single, available man (yet... let's try to be optimistic and add yet)

Sooooooooooo.....back to my core issue lol

^ No joke! Some guys really know how to restrain the creepiness until they get your number. I'm definitely going to raise my threshold for that. I think for some guys it's just an ego exercise to see how fast they can get your number.

Really? I think it's very obvious depending on the questions they ask and how quickly they move. Unless of course online dating is supposed to move very quickly?

March 17, 2015

I've seen exactly one man I thought was physically attractive enough to turn my heard in the last year

Ha ha! I saw one last week. Couldn't say it was butterflies, no actually definately not, just a nice face. Too young to bother with but everyone of my friends also concurred, particularly good features. He kind of sheepishly laughed as he passed so he was onto me and my ogling eye....but hey! You get your jollies wherever these days.

I've recently lost a heap of weight but my confidence in my skin isn't the best these days. Losing the clarity of it, now have pigmentation showing through, so I just don't think I rank as attractive anymore. But actually that aspect tends to make me more bold in my outward interest as I've essentially removed the possibility of any entanglement in my mind. Now I can perve to my hearts content knowing it's just a bit of fun in the moment.

March 17, 2015

OP, I don't find most men in real life attractive. Loads of celeb crushes and certain countries have LOTS of sexy men; Australia, NZ, Mexico, I also have a thing for South Koreans, but there are still many men in the world who I don't find sexually attractive at all.

I just don't think many men are attractive. Estrogen is kinder. And even if men have nice bodies, they don't always have the handsome face to match.

It's also harder for men to 'fake' being attractive the way that women can. Women who are not particularly pretty or beautiful can appear so thanks to make-up, hair extensions, high heels and all manner of other artifice; men simply don't have those same options so they either are attractive or aren't; there isn't much they can do to 'fake' it other than working out (which isn't even fake...)

Edited March 17, 2015 by Nikki Sahagin

March 17, 2015

I've seen exactly one man I thought was physically attractive enough to turn my heard in the last year (that wasn't on tv or something like that, someone on the street), and he was half my age. He's a wayward half-brother of a friend of mine. After I saw him I was trying to get control of my hormones for a couple of hours despite my better judgement and knowing what I know about him. Seeing as physically he's about an 8 and I'm about a 2 now, being old and fat, I put it out of my mind -- and then he tells her he'd like to hang out with me some more. I think she and I both know it can lead to no good, as she felt obliged to convey this info with a nervous laugh, so unlikely I'll ever find myself alone with him, and that's for the best. He has some very bad habits. So it is sad that the one guy that turned my head at all this year is such a mess and half my age, but that's what getting old is like. I don't even think about it unless something like him randomly pops into my life. Then it's a bit frustrating, but at my age, being frustrated momentarily is pretty minor to the cumulation of things I've overcome and gotten past, so I can't complain. As I told my friend, "It's ALIVE!!"

I really can't convey just how much I adore you!

Its enough to make you cry sometimes when you suddenly realise that you are still the rampant teenager of days gone by...

I don't think about it either day to day but when I am with someone I am really into its like I have a rocket in my knickers! I can't get enough! I wear them out!

Celebs are pretty but they don't really do it for me. For me its like looking at a cute dog or cat picture. But once in a while you meet that guy that just has "it" and you don't know whether to bite them, snog them, sniff them or just ride them like sea biscuit... Oh decisions decisions decisions...

Heres hoping the next date is one of those...

March 17, 2015

It's YOUR FAULT if your just attracted to hardly any men. Quit whining. Yeesh' date=' obviously your going to be alone since no one is good enough.[/quote']

Not sure if I would classify it as any kind of "fault" persee, but it likely has something to do with her as she's overly picky or possibly shallow.

My advice is to just simply relocate.

March 17, 2015

Believe it or not, every woman that's ever dated me...stated they don't care about looks. We just simply clicked in regular witty banter and conversation and that was good enough for her.

March 17, 2015

guys of any age don't like girls embarrassing them for approaching them in public, because she isn't attracted. being secure doesn't mean they like being made fools of. i didn't even mean bed breath. i mean having the wrong natural smell or pheromones or whatever.

But thats the luck of the draw.

You are never going to know if that girl is a pleasant person unless you talk to her. If she embarrasses you then really thats her issue not yours as its a determent to her character not yours... Do you want to date a bitch or an uncouth tart? No. So don't be upset when women who are rude and have no grace turn you down. Be glad!

Thats the way I look at it when I talk to men...

March 17, 2015

Believe it or not, every woman that's ever dated me...stated they don't care about looks. We just simply clicked in regular witty banter and conversation and that was good enough for her.

That is actually FAR more attractive than looks.

Looks fade. Women think long game. We want the guy that makes us giggle when we are 70...

March 17, 2015

I'll admit it. I actually DO care about looks.

However, for me finding someone attractive, and being attracted to someone are totally different things. Just like a beautiful piece of art, I can see a man as really attractive, but have absolutely no desire to hang him on my bedroom wall either overnight or more permanently.

Now to be attracted to a man for me is a totally different thing. Firstly it's physicality, but not based just on how they look. It's how they stand, how they wear their clothes (which is more important that what they're wearing), mannerisms, how they smile, etc. At this point if I like, I would consider it superficial attraction.

And then THE most important part is how we interract. A guy can go from 10 to 0 by just opening his mouth :/ And conversely, a 7 to 11.5 based on good conversation. Intelligence, a willingness to eschew small talk in favour of good debate, and a passion for something I can relate to.... that's hot!

I've pretty much made my assessment by the end of the first conversation.

I can relate OP. Men I'm really attracted to are as rare as hens teeth.

March 17, 2015

I'm at the stage where I am feeling a bit half hearted about dating and so it takes a lot to interest me. I'm lonely, so I take a look now and then. There's nothing out there for me.

March 17, 2015

PS, Have you thought about visiting Canada? I once worked with a French-Canadian pilot. It was hard to concentrate on the job with there always being the sound of all the ovaries popping within a 200 meter radius :/

March 17, 2015

I think this is why so many women are currently sharing men. They're simply not attracted to the vast majority of men they see

March 17, 2015

OP, I don't find most men in real life attractive....but there are still many men in the world who I don't find sexually attractive at all. I just don't think many men are attractive. Estrogen is kinder.

I totally agree with this I personally don't like what testosterone does to a human body, such a waste. The fact that so many guys like a gym rat body just makes it even worse for me. Huge muscle bulk? No thanks. I like muscle definition but slender and fine limbs. Huge shoulders, tree trunk legs and a neck wider than the head?

I think you're right. Many men just aren't attractive at all.

March 17, 2015

I think this is why so many women are currently sharing men. They're simply not attracted to the vast majority of men they see

You know, I'm not entirely opposed to this idea. You know if we all get together, find a small herd of attractive men and share.

March 17, 2015

Do you have the standard checklist?
Male model or must have certain rate features.
Right personality, must be perfect.
Must dress a certain way.
Must have the right interests
Must have the tight job
Must have "it" and almost no men have it and I can't describe what it is.
Oh no, just one man in your city meets this, and drat he's married. Must suck. LOL

Um .. what?

How about I am still in love with my ex so I'm struggling to find other men attractive.

March 17, 2015

The ex who's slept with half the town? Right.

Quite the opposite.

March 17, 2015

Whatever it is' date=' every women here says 99.99999 out of 100 men aren't good enough for them and [u']all are WHINING[/u] that they are alone.

Actually I'm not whining, I like being single. You clearly haven't read the entire thread properly. Damn! Looks like you'll have to do that now.

March 17, 2015

Wow, I must be 90% chick inside because in this little gender argument, I'm squarely on the women's side.

This thread is so interesting to me, I woke up thinking about it.

Women who are not attracted to most men: Are you also somewhat of perfectionists in other aspects of life?

That was the theory I came up with...that I'm not attracted to most women because I'm a perfectionist. I do many things in life to perfection. Building things, creating businesses, cooking. The better I get at these things, the more I want to improve. So has been my life with being attracted (sexually) to women. I started out with average girls as a kid, but each time got more attractive ones until now I've been with such attractive women, there are like 6 left on the planet that get me really, really excited. lol I'm exaggerating a bit, but this seems to be the general trend.

I reduce my dating pool more and more all the time.

Why do some of you feel you aren't attracted to many men?

March 17, 2015

^ No joke! Some guys really know how to restrain the creepiness until they get your number. I'm definitely going to raise my threshold for that. I think for some guys it's just an ego exercise to see how fast they can get your number.

A little off topic, but go with the times. Much easier than changing your number is to use an app. I use Mr Number. Have about 35 people blocked. lol It stops all incoming calls, texts and voicemails from anyone you block.

A godsend.

March 17, 2015

I think this is why so many women are currently sharing men. They're simply not attracted to the vast majority of men they see

That must be due to lacking self respect. And, or under the spell of the feminazi's trying to out dog the men.

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