ApexTitanium Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 (edited) Took my ex out to dinner, we laughed, talked a lot and had a good time. Drove her back to her house and her family came out to see me and said they missed me very much. They went back in and my ex gave me a huge hug and wouldnt let go. She asked me to come in and I did. Talked a little with her family again and they went to bed. My ex waited for me in the living room. She came over to give me another hug and wouldn't let go again for like 10 min and started crying. She had told me at dinner being single sucks, and the dating world is weird to her (I was her first boyfriend). Anyway I kept telling her it was fine, that'd she would find someone eventually. That I still cared about her but had to let her go. She told me she has been wanting to call and text me so much and just lose it but she didn't think it would be fair to me.. That her mom misses us being together. She can tell I have been acting differently, seemly more happy (im a wreck) and been doing things she always wanted me to do. She said she wants to see me again. Something says I can win her back in time if I see her more, something says I can't and shouldn't try. That this is just all a game because she's just still not used to me not being around. In the beginning of the breakup she was hurt and said she just didn't see "us" anymore. That I had neglected her. I've been trying to give her space to forgive and get her mind off it. So she can go out and live life. That maybe later she would want to try again. I just don't know what to do, she was great in many ways but had her flaws.. she's still the girl I see myself marrying. I'm not sure she feels the same yet. We had been through so much in the past 5.5 years and always came back together. If I don't press a R and just spend more time with her, do you think I can rebuild her love for me again? I know everything about her and how to do it. Distance will just kill whatever's left. Or should I walk away... Edited March 16, 2015 by ApexTitanium
dave_1966 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I would go no contact for thirty days, having read your other posts her asking you about things like sex is hardly healthy for you considering she dumped you. Tell her, politely, that you need the headspace to work out what's best for you because she's already told you what's best for her. That will give you both a sense of your true feelings towards each other, but should primarily be used to rationalise your head and make you feel better about yourself. I'm going through this myself, seeing each other right now is like repeatedly peeling off a scab.
mightycpa Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I would go no contact for thirty daysAt least 30 days. True love will wait an eternity. Regular old first bf/gf love will die within weeks.
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